[kim fellinger]

well, i guess i can 'officially' post on this board now since we're in our 6th month of ttc now. dh and i finally this past month gave up on the charting b/c we became so robotic, it wasnt romantic or fun anymore. we started charting right away b/c i have to be off my medication for anxiety in case i get pregnant. well, that lasted for about 2 mos and i couldnt handle it. so, after another few months of charting...we decided we wanted to have fun again. this past cycle...omg, we had SO much fun. haha. tmi, i know. and, we bd'd like every other day the entire cycle. and, dh and i have been thinking...wow, there was no stress, perhaps that's what we've needed, you know? well, yesterday i started to cramp, today i spotted, and i am due for af anyday. i tested, bfn. so, depressed for myself...dh and i stayed home last night. i didn't want to be around people celebrating and partying when i felt so low. then, we went to my niece's 5th bday party yesterday. i have 7 nieces and nephews 6 and under on my side, and my dh has one. and, there were two other babies at this party too. well, this girl that was there...she asked if we're gonna have kids anytime soon. i told her we're rolling into month 6 of ttc and how it's been and unexpected emotional rollercoaster. she gave me so much grief and made me feel guilty for feeling down. (she really has no right). then, i asked, "well, how long did it take you with each of your kids?" (i said this in a very shy, soft-spoken manner). she gave me sass and said, "well, the first time with each kid". I wanted to shove the heal of my nine west pumps up her butt!!! the look of hatred came over my body and i wanted to hit her. haha. i know my dh wanted to do the same...b/c afterall, he's just as much a part of this rollercoaster as i am. but, i just can't believe the nerve of somepeople. i already feel like i am the one doing something wrong b/c both my sister and sister-in-law got pg on the 1st and 2nd try with EACH of their kids. then you have some chic doing the same thing. anyways. sorry for the rambling. i just needed to vent...and be welcomed into this new board. i am excited to be with people who are in MY shoes!!!! I wish none of us have made it this far...but it's good to know i am not alone....HUGS!

[flyingpiglet]

Hey hun...I am gonna be joining you here also...the witch showed up last night just after midnight just in time to spoil my new years celebration. I was positively heartbroken and frustrated that here we are 6 months into it. My family also has lots of people with "oops" babies and here I am married, a homeowner, good paying job with medical benefits and maternity leave assistance and we can't have a baby even though we are trying. DH is starting to get frustrated and it doesn't help that his parents got pg the first time with both him and his sister so he is really down and starting to think that there is something wrong with him. He wants to see a fertility specialist but I think it is too early...most won't see us until we have been trying for at least a year....I really hope we don't get to that point...So I would love to join your pitty party...and I am at least happy that I am not alone either...I started charting again this morning...hopefully it will work this time around....hang in there chica!

[JellyBean]

Nope, you're definitely not alone here! Try not to get too down, you'll get your BFP! Just keep on tryin' - and don't let insensitive people get to you. Just ignore them and mooooooove on.

Happy New Year!

[nmcadam]

Your story is so familiar! I think all of us here have heard someone say an ignorant comment like that. Some people just don't understand what we are going through. I have one girlfriend who seems to get everything she wants even though she's a selfish person and I sometimes wonder why she gets all the luck. Including a positive pregnancy test after one month of trying. I even had a miscarriage the month before she got pregnant and you would think knowing what I went through she would be causcious about her own pregnancy, but nooo she was just so confident her pregnancy would be perfect that she was buying baby clothes and maternity clothes before the first trimester was even over. She even wanted to start decorating the baby's room before she was even showing. Lucky for her everything has been just perfect and she's about to give birth in the next couple of weeks. It just shows that everyone knows someone that has all the luck and is ignorant about the people around them. I just try and focus on the things I can be thankful for like my health, or my DH or my adorable well behaved puppy! Hopefully you have some things to be thankful for as well. I know your BFP will come along soon and this will all be behind you!

[dzine21]

Welcome gals! Glad to have you here-even though we wish we didn't have to have you here. (hug) Hi!

[Bug-n-Ed]

Welcome to the board. I hope your stay here is short.

[Tamaralynnb]

Welcome to the board. I hope your stay here is short. it really sucks when you reach the 6 month point, i'm almost at a year and hopefully i;ll get pregnant this month but if not at least i'll be able to get medical help again. Good luck to you

[Blue Eyes 409]

Welcome. I am so glad that you decided to come and join us. It is much easier to get support from someone that hads also been there. We all understand how you feel. Please feel free to ask us anything!!!

Welcome. I am so glad that you decided to come and join us. It is much easier to get support from someone that hads also been there. We all understand how you feel. Please feel free to ask us anything!!!