[Gina1978]

Does anyone else get VERY offended when they hear someone (who is pregnant) say how they hate being pregnant?
I have heard that a few times before but now it just kills me to hear someone say that! Its as if they dont really apreciate what a miracle it is or how lucky they are to be in such a sweet situation and that just makes my blood boil!
Thats like winning the million dollar lottery and then whining because you wanted something else instead

[Willowkarr]

I completely agree! It took us 9 months TTC with 3 losses in that time to get pregnant with a sticky baby. I appreciate every moment of it!!! I mean I was VERY scared until I heard the h/b, but that is normal after losses right? Even w/o losses, women get nervous, but to HATE being pregnant!? That's horrible!

I have been TTC for 14 cycles now, my friend is pg. Everytime I go there all I hear is how she is always sick, and how the baby kicks at night and she cant stand it. How she doesnt want to be pg anymore yet she is only 6 mos along. She told me she wanted the baby out and couldnt wait until she is due.
YES I totally agree with you Gina, its like they dont care that others are trying to get there and cant. Hurts me when I hear it and I want to say something to her but I dont.

[Gina1978]

Im glad Im not alone.I just really cant stand to hear pregnant women whine anymore...and like you said Magan,I hate it when they say things like "I am SO ready to have this baby! I want it out!" when they are like 5 months pregnant!! Or when they whine because the baby kicks them hard or because they cant sleep etc
I feel like saying "Ok,lets swap places!" kwim? Right now I just really dont tolerate certain things as well as I used to and this sort of thing is one of them.
Give me morning sickness,sore boobs,stretch marks and a baby that likes to play football with my bladder and you know what..Id be the happiest woman alive!

[Never*Giving*Up]

I feel like saying "Ok,lets swap places!" kwim? Right now I just really dont tolerate certain things as well as I used to and this sort of thing is one of them.
Give me morning sickness,sore boobs,stretch marks and a baby that likes to play football with my bladder and you know what..Id be the happiest woman alive! [/b]

Couldn't have put it better mself.

[Bug-n-Ed]

It does annoy me when women say this, but at the same time I can see where they are coming from. I can especially see the women who have horrible pregnancies, where they are very sick or develop pre-eclampsia or HELLP. I can totally see why it'd bite to be pregnant if you were losing weight from not being able to keep anything down.

Yeah, it's hard to hear that someone doesn't like to be pg when we are having a hard time getting pg, but everyone perceives things differntly. I for one LOVE being pg, but part of that is also that I don't have any endo pain while pg and so I truly enjoy it all. I also don't get too sick and have never had any complications where I needed to be on bedrest or have weekly stress tests, etc.

We all handle things differently and that's all there is to it.

[strawberry_bec]

While I can understand people complaining that they are sick while pregnant, what I simply cannot stand is people complaining about how FAT they are!!

I mean come on - you have a little person growing inside of your body, did you not expect them to be poking out somewhere?

I wanted to add to what Brandons mom said. I know a lot of women complain it irritates me. I've been trying for our 3rd for 2.5 years... so I understand, but I wanted to add..

My first pregnancy I had hyperemesis a reglan pump in my leg and a permenant IV in whatever vein they could find in my arm or foot with home hydration therapy. I was hospitalized for months on complete bedrest with Preeclampsia and went into full blown eclampsia and had 2 seizures lost feeling in the entire left side of my body and completely forgot who I was. The entire pregnancy I had, I never complained about any of it. Feeling my baby move inside me was enough to overjoy and replace all the suffering I went thru to create her. I think people who moan and complain need to sit in a womans shoes who's been struggling with say PCOS like I have for 5 mins and feel all our heart ache. I guarentee you they'd never complain again.

I just wanted to add that not everybody who has a bad pregnancy complain. I know I didn't I was thrilled.. even tho thanks to Miss Bekah I no longer have any veins I used to sit and cry because here I sheltered my pregnancy ate right, avoided everything possible that may harm her and I used to think how unfair I had to suffer when there's drug junkies out there killing their baby's...my mom said to me "Kelly, the Lord has to watch over and protect those children, with yours he knows your already doing what he'd do.." I can say that really put my pregnancy into perspective and I never cried again over a procedure, stick, poke or prod.

You can read my full story on preeclampsia.org @
http://www.preeclampsia.org/SeeStory.aspx?id=7409628

[babyreaves]

You know what, my pregnancy was not planned and I got pregnant after being off the pill for two weeks. I am young (22) and I frankly wasn't ready to be a mom, even though I am married and almost done with college. I was one of those people who would complain about being pregnant. I didn't really consider how other people might feel about me saying that I don't like being pregnant. I am happy to have a little girl and I can't wait for her to come out so I can hold her. I still can't help but not like some aspects of being pregnant, which people shouldn't attack me about, but from now on I will be more sensitive and careful with what I say. Thanks for the insight

[lunarmagic]

My best friend got pregnant right when my husband and I started trying and we kept trying... and trying. She had HORRIBLE horrible morning sickness, couldn't keep ANYTHING down for months... and yet she was always careful to say what a blessing it was for her to be pregnant and she took care to never complain to me. I really appreciated her sensitivity.

People who don't appreciate what they have is hard to hear. I would give anything to feel kicks from the inside. I'm sure I won't like being sick and sore, but dangit... a BABY! I'd have a baby inside me!

[first_time_mom]

I used to sit and cry because here I sheltered my pregnancy ate right, avoided everything possible that may harm her and I used to think how unfair I had to suffer when there's drug junkies out there killing their baby's...my mom said to me "Kelly, the Lord has to watch over and protect those children, with yours he knows your already doing what he'd do.."[/b]

i just want to thank you for sharing that. me and my baby have been very sick my whole pregnancy and was begining to wonder why the people who didnt care about the babies got such an easy time, while people who would give anything in the world for a healthy baby suffer and that line just made my heart swell.

[Willowkarr]

QUOTE(*KeLLy* @ Jan 10 2007, 01:04 PM)

I used to sit and cry because here I sheltered my pregnancy ate right, avoided everything possible that may harm her and I used to think how unfair I had to suffer when there's drug junkies out there killing their baby's...my mom said to me "Kelly, the Lord has to watch over and protect those children, with yours he knows your already doing what he'd do.."



i just want to thank you for sharing that. me and my baby have been very sick my whole pregnancy and was begining to wonder why the people who didnt care about the babies got such an easy time, while people who would give anything in the world for a healthy baby suffer and that line just made my heart swell.[/b]

I agree, that is just the most perfect statement EVER!

[vsentz]

I know exactly what you mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My friend and I discovered our pregnancies almost the same week!!!! she was 7 weeks along when i was 4....
She ALWAYS complained about 'this little f'er' (for giving her nauseas....and cramps...) and it just made me so mad since the begining, altho i'd play with her and say, well, that means he's fine! i am not getting nausea!!! haha!......
Well, then i was lik 7 weeks and started having nausea and all those symptoms....and she'd make fun of me about worrying and about puking.....
I had to go to the ER for pelvic pain and they heard my baby's heart rate at 95....doc said he was concearned about it.....my friend made big time fun of me and said i was being so paranoid!.....
I lost my baby at 12 weeks.....
Throwout her pg, she'd always mention how much of a cow she was, how this little stinker would kick her, how she'd hate being pg....and she couldn't wait for this little f'er to come out!!!!! right in my face!!!!!
She just had hers a month or so ago.........and every time she sees me she starts talking about baby baby baby.....which i understand! that's her baby!.....but she's so ###### untactful.....when i asked her the last time i saw her how she was she said 'here....with a new baby....' (which....we ALL know that by now!!) and she said 'and how are you?' i said 'here....without a baby....'.....and she just changed the subject.....she has stopped her attitude ever since......
One thing tho, is having compllications in your pg and vent about it (the complications) and another VERY different is saying 'Oh, how i hate being pregnant!'................excuse me, but they shouldn't be then......
Sorry, just a little bitter i guess.....

[Banned-luvnallmyboys]

Hi ladies. I don't belong on here at all, I have a very good friend who just miscarried after TTC for 2 years, so I was on here hoping for some insight into her feelings and how to best handle my child and current pregnancy around her. First off, I am very sorry that all of you are having such a hard time concieving. I can understand how you feel about pregnant women. My first two sons died at one and two days old, and I know that being around pregnant people was heartbreaking, even if they weren't complaining! I also wanted to tell you that most people don't mean to complain. I have very difficult, high risk pregnancies, and even though I know what its like to lose babies and although I am terribly grateful for the healthy pregnancies I do make it through, I still find it hard not to complain and have pity parties after a few months, I can only imagine how hard it would be had I never lost children and if my pregnancies were always certain to end well. I just wanted to offer that as some form of apology for the others out there who act insensitive at times. I also would think that telling reminding friends how lucky they are would serve as a gentle reminder, and one that wouldn't offend me were my friend to tell me. Thank you for reminding me of what not to do, and I'm sorry that we sometimes get caught up in our feeling sick and uncomfortable and turn selfish as a result. I know it is a small price to pay, but at the time sometimes it seems like it won't end, and that I may not get to keep the baby when it does end. I'll be more careful from now on. Thank you, and good luck.

[Minilegs]

I don't belong here either, just reading what has been written and putting in my .02. I had to wait for my daughter but, not because I couldn't conceive but, because I didn't get married until I was 30. I felt like it was "forever" until I found a man that I truly felt I could be married to and I was single for a long time. I was lonely and thought I may never have a family. Anyways, I got pregnant 6 months after we got married and I had a difficult pregnancy at the end ending in me having her at 35 weeks. I complained at the time even though I was EXTREMELY grateful and prayed for her safety the whole time I was pregnant. My sister-in-law has not been able to conceive after 5 years of marriage and I've prayed for them to have a baby for as long as they've tried. I am very empathetic to her needs and am a shoulder to cry on often. I was careful not to hurt her feelings with the pregnancy and when she pulled away after I started to show, I respected it. She told me that me waiting for my baby "wasn't the same". I didn't get upset...these are just scenarios. What my point is, is that even though someone may complain about a situation at hand doesn't mean that they aren't thankful and doesn't mean they are uncaring. Every single person has an individual plight, something that they've had to wait for or struggle for, big or small. As humans, we are given to our faults. My thoughts are with you all as you struggle for the desires of your hearts.

Melanie

[Sarah_S]

i hear it too and it is so upsetting

[tabbymichelle]

that's sad! it makes me upset when people say "I'll gladly give you one of mine!" I mean, yeah, they can get hyper and even annoying sometimes but children are blessings from God. The ONLY thing in this world that someone else can't have exactly the same of what you have. Something YOU made yourself. I can't wait till I get mine =)

I don't belong here either but I also am thankful for the insight of you ladies. My pregnancy was unplanned and when I joined JM I saw all these boards of trying to concieve.. and you scroll down.. trying to concieve 6+ months TTC with medical assistance...TTC after a loss.. and it REALLY puts things in perspective. I felt so fortunate to be pregnant. Although at the time I was so scared and SO NOT READY IN THE SLIGHTEST. I am still just getting ready and working as I go to make sure I am the mother he deserves.. but any child that comes into your lives is so lucky to be so loved and wanted. Even unplanned pregnancies.. mothers bond and love their child as soon as they meet them or feel them. Where as you already love these children who are just thoughts in your heart and mind right now.

I do complain dont get me wrong.. I'm a first timer I had no clue how this would be.. I didn't know I'd throw up everyday.. I didn't know my legs would swell to the size of stumps.. even though I complain at the end of the day.. I also say.. this is all worth it. This is ten months of my life that will be diffrerent then any other time in my life and I have to enjoy it for what it is.

I am sorry you have experienced some really insenstive people.. but not all pregnant women who complain arent thankful for what they have.

But thank you again for sharing these thoughts.. some people really just don't even think about it.. it doesnt cross their mind that what they are saying deeply affects someone who is trying to make the love in their families grow.

[dinamommy]

I know exactly what you mean!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My friend and I discovered our pregnancies almost the same week!!!! she was 7 weeks along when i was 4....
She ALWAYS complained about 'this little f'er' (for giving her nauseas....and cramps...) and it just made me so mad since the begining, altho i'd play with her and say, well, that means he's fine! i am not getting nausea!!! haha!......
Well, then i was lik 7 weeks and started having nausea and all those symptoms....and she'd make fun of me about worrying and about puking.....
I had to go to the ER for pelvic pain and they heard my baby's heart rate at 95....doc said he was concearned about it.....my friend made big time fun of me and said i was being so paranoid!.....
I lost my baby at 12 weeks.....
Throwout her pg, she'd always mention how much of a cow she was, how this little stinker would kick her, how she'd hate being pg....and she couldn't wait for this little f'er to come out!!!!! right in my face!!!!!
She just had hers a month or so ago.........and every time she sees me she starts talking about baby baby baby.....which i understand! that's her baby!.....but she's so ###### untactful.....when i asked her the last time i saw her how she was she said 'here....with a new baby....' (which....we ALL know that by now!!) and she said 'and how are you?' i said 'here....without a baby....'.....and she just changed the subject.....she has stopped her attitude ever since......
One thing tho, is having compllications in your pg and vent about it (the complications) and another VERY different is saying 'Oh, how i hate being pregnant!'................excuse me, but they shouldn't be then......
Sorry, just a little bitter i guess..... [/b]

I'm sorry, but this post just really really upset me. Why would anyone who referred to their precious child as a little f'er actually try to get pregnant? I really hope your friend NEVER has another child. That is just really disgusting to me. If she would have made that comment in front of me, she would have seen my face change from pasty white to boiling red in about 2 seconds, and then she would have gotten an earful! I just, for the life of me, cannot understand this.

[Erin24]

My best friend is pregnant...She "doesn't know what happened...He pulled out every time they had sex"...Oh, and...She "didn't have the money to get birth control pills"...Yet, they go to wal-mart and buy every new movie release that comes out on tuesdays!!!!!!!!!! freakin idiot..She makes me soooo mad! She already has 3 kids and claims she needs all of this time to herself, and the kids are driving her crazy..Yet, she gets pregnant again...When she called to tell me about it..Her first words were.."I have some devastating news" Then she goes on to say that she's pregnant...WHY does it have to be ppl like this, who can get pregnant at the drop of a hat. She knows that Im wanting to have a baby...Yet, she constantly talks about all of the things that she's craving, her being oohhhh soo tired all the time, hungry all the time, on and on...I feel like i'm being selfish..But, I really don't care to hear about it..LOL...That's bad..But, at this point I dont care! Just thought I'd throw in my rant.