I'm in a pickle

stowers2k3 · #1 January 14th, 2007, 09:06 PM

Dh told me this weekend that there is a good chance that he will be going on the 8 month deployment that his ship will be going on in August.

He is supposed to go on shore duty in July and not go on anymore deployments for 3 years. So we decided long ago that we were going to start ttc so that way he could be here for the birth.
Well, his captain really likes him and wants him on this deployment, so the captain is willing to get him the shore suty orders that we want if he will agree to go on this deployment.

It's a catch 22. If he doesn't go we will not be getting the orders that we want. If he goes he will most likely miss the birth of our first child.
Now we are trying to decide if we even want to ttc now for the next 6 months. I don't want to give up cause we already have the fertility issues with his swimmers and and it's been almost a year of ttc and no baby. If we stop won't all our progerss over the last 10 months be lost?

So I want to cry.
We both want these orders so bad because I would be able to keep my job and it would make things so much easier for us, but now.........
I'm trying REALLY hard to put this in God's hands this weekend. I'm doing a lot of praying and just trying to not get upset, but it's all that I'm thinking about. I guess the good thing is that we have house guests here this weekend so I have to put on a fake smile for them.
Thanks for listening. Man, I'm just a ball of bad news this month!

Tamaralynnb · #2 January 14th, 2007, 10:10 PM

oh i am so sorry, i'm not sure what to tell you. i don't know what i would do. i really hope you don't have to wait to have your baby, but i also know how important it is to have him there for the birth. Is there anyway at all he could get home for the birth or will he be gone for the whole 8 months with no way to get to you, if you were to get pregnant before he left? i hope you get a BFP soon

#3 January 15th, 2007, 11:42 AM

I know they do allow men to come home on emergency leave for the births of their babies. However, it depends if the soldier is in a position to be transported back or whatever. I would talk to him about that. You may have to deliver alone, but he would be able to come home for I think 2 weeks to spend tmie with u guys. Its something to look into. Call family support and ask them.

stowers2k3 · #4 January 15th, 2007, 07:50 PM

Nope, he will be in the gulf somewhere floating in the water, so he won't get to come home unless there is an emergency and that is only if they are somewhere he can be transported from.

We're still talking about it and praying together so maybe we'll get our answer soon. Hopefully
thanx ladies

#5 January 15th, 2007, 08:26 PM

Yea your right if he's out in the middle of nowhere they definitely won't let him come home. I don't know what to say to you. I've known of women who deliver set up webcams in the delivery room while their husbnad watches from whatever boat their on. Its a way of 'including' him you know?