Advice Please

srstuvland · #1 February 11th, 2007, 03:35 PM

Ok well I am on my 10th cycle of ttc. Since August I have had it planned that I am going to name our baby if it is a girl Brooklyn. Well I told my sister I planned on having that name for my girl. Well about 5 months ago a good friend of ours got a surprise pregnancy. She just found out she is having a girl. Well my sister told her the name Brooklyn and well now she is planning on using it. Needless to say I broke down today when I found out. I have not stopped crying. I feel like nothing is going right with getting pregnant and I can't even have the name I love. So should I say something to my friend or should I just let it pass???

Any insight would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

*CAMM* · #2 February 11th, 2007, 04:00 PM

Ok, this is so strange.. I always loved the name Brooklyn and my EVIL yes i say EVIL SIL stole it and named her daughter Brooklyn ....i too was also very upset that i couldnt have a baby and now i couldnt even have the name i liked!!!
I never said anything to her because she would of nodded her head said..umm ok..and still named her daughter brooklyn anyways... (Her and I have never gotten along)
Maybe you will get lucky and she will choose another name...

Banned-saravalintinelively · #3 February 11th, 2007, 04:45 PM

I would def. say something to her. You picked that name first and she should not plan on using it without talking to you first.

srstuvland · #4 February 11th, 2007, 05:41 PM

Thank you girls for your advice. I know that I should say something, but I feel like I am being selfish because I am not even pregnant yet. Aaagh it is frustrating. Maybe I'll build up the nerve to say something.

Thanks again

JellyBean · #5 February 11th, 2007, 08:14 PM

I can understand your frustration.

But if it were me, I'd just go on ahead and name her what I wanted to name her, regardless of who used the name first, and not say anything to your friend.

I have always liked the name Nathaniel for a boy, and one of my good friends (albeit unknowingly) named her son that when she had him a few years ago. Then it hit me that it didn't matter, I could still use it if I wanted to.

I mean, I have 2 friends with the same name as me, one of which even spells hers the same. I never was traumatized or anything growing up LOL If your child and her child DO spend time together, it still won't be a big deal. Both kids will probably get a kick out of it anyway - that's how we were when we were kids.

You say that this woman is a good friend. If she is, then she won't care.

((((Hugs))))

Jessesgirl04 · #6 February 11th, 2007, 09:28 PM

Personally I wouldn't say anything at all and if I were you I would still name your future daughter Brooklyn. If your friend gets offended then politely remind her that you had that name picked out long before she did! (((Hugs)))

MommytoOliviaandCole · #7 February 12th, 2007, 05:18 AM

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Personally I wouldn't say anything at all and if I were you I would still name your future daughter Brooklyn. If your friend gets offended then politely remind her that you had that name picked out long before she did! (((Hugs)))[/b]

I agree!

Bug-n-Ed · #8 February 12th, 2007, 10:15 AM

In my personal opinion, there is no such thing as stealing a name. If you really don't want anyone close to you to use a name you really like than don't share it.

Coming from the other side, when I was pg with ds #1, dh and I had a really hard time coming up with a name. Then all of a sudden, dh just had the perfect name pop into his head, Evan Michael. It was what we felt our name should be named. I told my BIL the name when he asked if we had chosen a name yet, and he was surprised, but didn't flip quite yet. Apparently, that was the exact name that they wanted to name their first son (she was pg with a girl at the time). His wife called and yelled at me for it, saying that we had stolen their name and that we knew they had wanted that name. Apparently, we had been in a coversation with them and dh's other brother and wife about baby names. I was just barely pg at the time and wasn't thinking about names quite yet since we didn't know if we were having a boy or girl. Both of us honestly don't remember that conversation, so we honestly weren't trying to steal names. It upset me a lot because we had such a hard time finding a name and then once we had one we both agreed on, it got taken from us. Sure, we could have still used the name, but it caused a huge family fiasco. Instead of just keeping it between the us and them, they spread it through the whole family that we were stealing their name. We didn't want our son to have any negativity associated with his name, so we chose to name him something else. It still irks me to this day that we were forced to change names because of them making such a big deal about it. I absolutely saw no problem with cousins having the same name. They lived in another state at the time, so really, the wouldn't have even seen each other that often. Dh has a cousin with the same name as him and they thought it was cool growing up.

So, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't say anything and still name your daughter (when/if you have one) what you want. Don't let what others name their child bother you. Kids will be just fine having the same name as someone that's close to them. In most cases, they think it's cool.

brooke12 · #9 February 12th, 2007, 04:05 PM

Hi! I just wanted to add my two sense (I will be joining you girls probably within the next two weeks) but one of my close family friends just told me yesterday that she is naming her baby, if it's a boy, Jameson. I told her that I loved that name numerous times, but she obviously does not care. I am a little upset, but not enough to say anything. . . it just seems rude to me! And I am praying she has a girl

Oh! And also, my name is Brooke Lyn!!

srstuvland · #10 February 12th, 2007, 04:35 PM

Thank you all for your advice. My DH wants me to say something, but I have decided that I am not going to. If she names her baby Brookelyn than that just means that my baby wasn't suppose to be named that. I will just have to look for an alternative name. I am going to keep my mouth closed.

Thanks again

Gina1978 · #11 February 13th, 2007, 01:15 AM

Personally,I dont see a problem

I would if the person wanting to use the name was your sister or a close family member,but as is,I dont see why you cant use the name anyway,your babies arent related kwim?.
Iv had some names picked out for ages,and some of the people Iv told have actually used them and Im fine about it..I actually think its great that they liked the names I chose for their own babies,its almost as If I named them

I really wouldent worry.Her baby isnt related to your future baby,so go ahead and use the name if you like.

nicolelm908 · #12 February 13th, 2007, 08:17 AM

I would say something if it was bothering me, but if you don't want to that's alright. You could always suggest some other names to her. bring up baby names in a conversation and start naming off other ones. Who knows maybe she'll hear one she likes better.
By the way that is such a pretty name, I've never heard of any one with that name before. Even though it looks like alot of other ppl on here did.