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March 11th, 2007, 05:31 PM
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Just checked this out and thought it would help me. Have read a few other peoples and found them to be interesting. Well where should I start.... When I was 18 just graduated from high school, on my birthday actually, and found out I was pregnant. Was a total shocker because the boy I had been with put on a condom. But young and niave me, he slipped it off in the dark I later found out. I was on pills before but stopped taking them because I wasn't active then. I was scared and devastated. Lived with my daddy and stepmom. Didn't want stepmom or mom to know and I was daddies little girl so I confided in him about it. He told me it was my decision in what I wanted to do but he hated to see me with a baby being so young. I made the decision to terminate the pregnancy. It hurt but i felt it was the best decision. I couldn't take care of it like I should and I hadn't even started college.

Well I started school soon there after. I hit the age of 20 and met my first husband while hanging out at a club with school buddies one night. He was tall and good looking. He was in school also and played basketball. He lived in L.A, I lived in Vegas. We hung out for the whole week he was here and we kept in touch when he left. I went out to L.A to visit him shortly after that and it was great! By my second visit, january 2000, we thought we were in love and decided we wanted a child. I immediatly got pregnant that first month we tried. I knew I would because I seemed to get PG easily. Our son was born September 2000 and I had quit school. By the time he was 2 his father quit school also and moved out here to be with us. We got married shortly after that and 3 months later split up indefinitly. He had been cheating for 2 months out of the 3 of our marriage and decided with her is where he wanted to be. I was devastated. She had a daughter by him 9 months later and it took over a year to get divorced and we had a nasty custody battle that ended with us getting joint custody. During that time I started dating my brother in-laws brother. It was a simple fling and I had no intention of it getting serious. I had been on bcp ever since I had my son but I failed to get then refilled one month and wouldn't you know it I ended up pregnant. I didn't know what to do. I was 23 and had a 2 1/2 year old, was going through a nasty divorce and I knew I didn't want to be with this guy in the long run. I mulled over what to do for almost 2 months and ended up terminating the pregnancy. I felt horrible. I vowed at that moment I would never have another abortion ever again. It didn't matter what the circumstances.

I was very careful over the next couple years. Then I met dh. We worked together and instantly vibed. We dated for 6 months before deciding that we wanted to get married and have a child. At that time my son was 4 and he had a 6yr old son. We started ttc october 2005 and I thought for sure it would be so easy since it always had before, whether i was trying or not I had always gotten pg easily. Well not this time. It's now march 2007 and we still have not gotten pg. Im so upset I don't know what to do. Is god punishing me for the pregnacies I was blessed with and terminated? That's all I can think about. I'm now 27 almost 28 and I want another child so bad but can't get one. I feel like I was so stupid for immaturely getting pregnant before knowing I wasn't ready for another child then. And now I pray for one. We have tried everything. I did bbt charting and tried ovulation strips twice. I stopped the charting, it was driving me nuts. 6 months was long enough. I'm on to the strips now and hope they work. I'm waiting on AF now and hoping it won't show. Keep thinking this month will be my month. Never dreamed I would have this issue. It's heart breaking.

Well thats my story for now. I will keep you posted!
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March 12th, 2007, 06:05 PM
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Well AF hasn't started yet but I have had the worse cramps today so I'm sure it will show up tonight or tomorrow. I expect to feel different each month, hoping it will be the month but nope! Never do. Always get the same pains and symptoms of AF. dh and I didn't BD on day 14 or 15 of my cycle. He didn't feel well and went to sleep both nights. We did on day 13 and several days after day 15 but I usually O on 14 or 15. So I think we missed it this month. That has happened twice in a row. It makes me so disappointed I cry. But what can I do if dh isn't feeling well? Tell him to suck it up and try and knock me up anyway? Can't be insensitive to him so I just cried and let it go. Hoping next month will be different. It makes him feel bad when I get disappointed but I have a hard time hiding it. My whole mood changes and then it just ruins things between us for the day and sometimes that night. I think dh and I bd too much prior to O. We go at it like crazy after AF goes away and dh never loses stamina so he goes for it 2-4 times a day. We wondered if maybe he is doing it too much and his count it too low by the time O rolls around. We are going to control ourselves this month. Something we never do. But I think that may be apart of our issue. We will see. I'll update you all tomorrow on if AF showed.

Oh! I did have a wonderful dream last night that I was PG and I took the test 3 times I was so shocked. It made me smile all day. Hope it comes true soon. Baby dust!
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March 13th, 2007, 05:29 PM
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Ok, I had cramping all day yesterday, all night and part of today. It has died down now though but I still feel it a little in my back and lower tummy every now and then. AF still hasn't shown up but it's only day 27 of my cycle. I have had it show up as late as day 30. It does usually start the same day or the next day after I get the cramping but I see no signs of it starting. It has taken everything in me not to go buy a test. But I won't get my hopes up because if I do and then I see some pink later tonight or in the morning I will be crushed. Well, I will keep you posted on what tonight and tomorrow brings.
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March 14th, 2007, 05:06 PM
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Today's update: It's cycle day 28 and no AF yet. Still having those cramps off and on but no sign of any pink or red. I keep running to the bathroom every 5 minutes to check. AF never goes past 30days though. So I have to sweat it out 2 more days and see if it shows up. I sure hope not. But the pains in my lower tummy and back hurt. It's almost like I am going to get the runs or something. I have gas and some bloating and that annoying pain. I usually get it all the time before AF but it usually shows up that same day or the very next. I'm so nervous about it. Trying so hard not to get my hopes up. Dh is trying not to also. He has noticed that my complaints about how I feel have lasted longer then usual without signs of my period yet. He is excited but trying not to be. I really hope we did it this time. Well, on the flip side of that I do still have my 6 yr old to see after and he happens to be pretty sick today. A slight temp this morning but I gave him motrin and sent him to school. Dh wasn't sure that was a good idea but left it up to me. Turned out to be bad cause when I picked him up from school the poor dear looked just horrible. He fell right to sleep on the way home. His asthma is acting up to now that he is sick. I was thinking to mysel "and you want to do this again at least two more times?" But yup I do. Can't wait to have more to take care of. The two keep us busy but at 8 and 6, they are pretty independent. Anyway, I'll keep you posted on what happens between tonight and tomoorow afternoon when I check back in.
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March 15th, 2007, 06:16 PM
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Well.....AF hit me this morning. So much for thinking this would be the month. It's still pretty light though. Not heavy at all. It's strange how different my period is each month. Sometimes it's heavy and last for 3-4 days and sometimes it's lighter and last for 2 days. My gyno didn't seem concerned when I informed her about this but I am a little worried. I never had this issue before that last abortion. I went on the patch after that for about a year and didn't have a period for 6 months after I stopped. Ever since then my cyles have been so off. They are never consistent in the number of days or how the flow is. They do come every 27-30. Never under 27 days and never more then 30. So I guess thats good. Well I just ordered the book "taking charge of your fertility" I heard it was great to have. I already bought ovulation strips so we will be starting those around day 11 or 12. I learned from my bbt charting that I always ovulate between day 14 and 18. So I figure starting at day 12 is safe for me. I will keep you guys posted again when I get my LH surge in a couple weeks!
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March 17th, 2007, 12:21 PM
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Hey there! Small update: AF is going away. She is now just down to some pinkish brown spotting. Dh is going to use the male home fertility test tomorrow. We will see if his count is up to par. But he will still have to go to the doc and have a SA to see if his boys are swiming ok if we don't get pg by Oct at least. I'm giving it 24 months before we see a specialist. I'm confident we can make it happen without docs. So him taking the test will help us slow down on db'ing before ovulation. He has to go days withiut ejaculating before taking the test and he has to take the test twice within 10 days. So by the time we can actually bd it will be right around ovulation time and we won't have bd'd so much that he might be low. Hopefully we can conserve it this month and get lucky. I'm starting opk's this month and will continue on them until it's been 2 years with no success. I will keep you posted on hubby's fertility test results tomorrow.
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March 18th, 2007, 08:52 PM
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Well, dh took the home male fertility test and got a positive result. Which means he has at least 20 million sperm per mil or more. Thats the normal that he should have. So tonight is the the only night we get to bd until thursday because he has to take the second part of the test again so he has to go at least 3 more days without ejaculating. So I will keep you posted on what the test says on thursday. Even with a positive result though we still don't know what condition his sperm is in. they could be slow or not swimming right. Anything could be wrong with the actual sperm. Or nothing at all could be wrong with him and it could be me. Or, there could be nothing wrong with either of us and it's just taking a long time. Either way, we are slowly getting it figured out. We will keep trying and keep the faith and if nothing comes of that then we will see a specialist. Chao until thursday!
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March 27th, 2007, 10:04 AM
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Well, dh got a positive result on both test. So at least we know he has enough sperm. Whether or not they are swimming properly is another question. But we will wait a while longer before we see a doc. I started my opk's on Sunday. So far I haven't gotten a positive on it but today is only day 3. I haven't taken it yet today. I usually do it in the afternoon around 3 or 3:30. I'm on cd 13 so I should be getting a positive on my strips soon. At least within the next day or two. Keeping my fingers crossed. Dh and I bd's over the weekend but said we would swear off of it until I get a positive on my opk. Figured we should let his boys build up and maybe we will have better luck this month. I'll keep you posted on when I get a positive.
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March 30th, 2007, 08:35 PM
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Got two lines the same color on my OPK's yesterday morning so dh and I db last night. This morning the test line was much darker then the other line so tonight is db night again. Also bought some stuff called Pre-Seed today. I don't get the EWCM that you are suppose to get. In fact I don't get much CM at all. So this stuff is a lube that acts as CM. It is non harmful to sperm and on the reviews I read it works well and has aided many people in achieving pregnancy. I will let you know how it works! We are on cd 16.
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April 1st, 2007, 05:07 PM
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Used the pre-seed last night and the night before. Finally got a high temp this morning so I know O must have been yesterday. Hope the pre-seed works for us. I will keep you posted. CD 18! Period usually starts between day 27-30. Never goes past day 30 though. We will see.
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April 4th, 2007, 08:59 PM
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I'm om CD 21 and feeling a bit weird. I'm tired and my BB's have been hurting. Temp is still high every morning and for some reason I used one of my ovulation strips today and it still has a matching pink line in the test area. I thought after ovulation the line went back to a normal light pink? I'm confused by that but I will do more research. I am praying that we get a BFP this month but I am trying not to get my hopes up too high. I do feel different this month and I haven't felt this way so early before my period. I get PMS symptoms each month but it's usually in the same week AF starts. But I been feeling this way since after ovulation. I keep thinking it's too early for pregnancy symptoms but I'm hoping thats what it is. O was on CD 17 so I should see AF around 12th or 13th of this month. In a week. So I will keep you posted!
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April 14th, 2007, 10:46 PM
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Well here is the update: Of course dh and I used the pre-seed twice during O but AF showed up yesterday, Friday the 13th! Just my luck. Well I keep thinking maybe we missed it so this month I got back on my charting, plus I'm using opk's and the pre-seed. So we have all bases covered and should be able to know when O comes and hopefully we can get lucky this time around. CD 2 in our 18th month of ttc. I'll keep you posted when O comes around.
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April 21st, 2007, 10:14 PM
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Not much has been going on. Just waiting to start my opk next week and ovulation is in about 7 or 8 days. So I am going to start testing next wednesday. I read some where that it's helpful to test twice a day, once in the morning and again in the evening. That way you have at least a 12 hour window to work with if you get an LH surge instead of the once a day that gives you a 24 hour gap. So between that, the pre-seed, bbt charting and dh and I holding off on bd'ing this week until O, it might work out for us. I know this is probably silly but I called and talked to a psychic on the radio about a month ago and she swore that she saw pregnancy for us in April. I never really believed in them but I keep holding out hope that it may actually happen this month. Maybe she is right. I had a dream last night about having a bouncing baby boy. Don't know why because I hadn't really been thinking about ttc since I still have a week before O anyway. And I don't want another boy right now either, lol. I was hoping for a girl. It seemed so real though. But hey maybe it's just in the back of my mind and thats why I dreamed of it. Well, I will check back later in the week and let you all know how the testing went.
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April 24th, 2007, 04:38 PM
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Started testing with opk today. BFN this morning but I expected that. It's a bit too early for O. I will test again this evening at 6. I do it at 6am and again at 6pm. So I will keep you all posted when it rolls around.
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April 27th, 2007, 07:02 PM
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Update: Was pretty sure I got a positive on my opk last night around 6 pm when I tested but dh swears it wasn't so ok fine. I waited until this morning and tested again at 6 am and this time I know for sure I got a positive. I tested again this afternoon around 1 and it was the same. So dh and I bd using the pre-seed when I got home from work at noon. Today was a good day for it because he took off work and my son went with his dad today for the next week. So this weekend O should happen and we have all weekend and about 3 more tubes of pre-seed. Dh is trying not to over do it since he has a problem with ejaculating several times in one session. I swear my hubby is the king of back to back orgasms. He wants to make sure he doesn't deplete himself of some viable sperm. We did skip the last two days so that it would build up. As far as we know he doesn't have a sperm issue but being that he ejaculates a lot in one day whenever we do bd, we figured he has to be running low after a couple days of doing that. So we will bd everyday until I get a high temp on my chart, indicating O is over. Keeping my fingers crossed and hoping it works this time. I will update you when my temp rises. That 2WW afterwards is the worst though.
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April 29th, 2007, 06:50 PM
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Well I am pretty sure that O was yesterday or Friday but fertilityfriend is saying it was thursday. I didn't get a positive opk until friday though. My temps did start rising on friday and have continued to go up so the system is going off that but i think those temps got thrown off with me and dh being hugged up together and creating more body heat right before I took my temp in the morning. Although I do believe O has passed. We still bd today though just in case it wasn't over. I am paranoid we missed it. Yesterday we stood in the shower and talked about it. I cried and dh finally agreed that this is taking too long long and it is taking a toll on our relationship and our sex life. Bd'ing was almost impossible this weekend because dh was having a hard time, if you know what I mean. The pressure is too much. I would have been dry as the Sahara desert had we not been using the pre-seed. It's just too much. So if we didn't get lucky this month then we are headed to the doc next month to get things checked out. It's time to start the infertility testing and treatment. It's 18 months of ttc and we are both stressed and tired with the whole thing. Trying to time sex and stop to use lubes and waking up at 6 am even on weekends to stick a thermometer in my mouth and then sitting and staring at all the charts to try and compare and see if I see a difference and looking up info online. I'm obsessing and it is driving me insane and I can't do it anymore. It's too much. I will keep you posted though. Af is due on our anniversary. Hoping we get a nice anniversary present and it doesn't show. We will see. 12 days to til testing.
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May 3rd, 2007, 09:40 PM
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Update: I am about 6 days past O. Depends on if it was last friday or saturday, I'm notreally sure. Either way, my chart is looking way different then it ever has before. I have 11 charts and all of them look pretty much the same or darn similar but not this one. My post O temps are weird. They go up every morning more and more but to the point where it looks like a striaght diagnal line. Usually it looks like hills, going up and down by a few degree's each day but tho constant rising by about one tenth of a degree each day is odd.But I won't get my hopes up because I did that last month and got a BFN. I am pretty tired lately too and my nips are sore. But I get that before AF anyway. Not usually this soon though. Keep wondering if it's too early for PG signs though. Welp, I will keep you posted next week when testing time rolls around.
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May 4th, 2007, 08:19 AM
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Woke up feeling pretty icky today. My head hurts, I'm dizzy and tired as heck. Not a good feeling for me at today. I'm hoping it gets better because I feel so gross right now. I do remember feeling this way the last time I was PG. I just dont remember at what point because it was a total surprise that I was in the first place. I think I will give it a few more days and then I am going to test. Probably on Sunday or Monday. I just can't take it anymore. The wait always drives me insane. Well I will update how I feel tomorrow.
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May 6th, 2007, 04:22 PM
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Ok, I feel like total crap today. I have been for the last few days. This is crazy! My temps keep going up, not one drop or dip at all since O. I am dizzy and through out the day I keep feeling like I want to puke. I have tons of saliva building up in my mouth and I just want to lay down and do nothing but sleep. My boobs are getting even more sore and i'm in agony. I'm so nervous. I keep saying to myself "Oh my God, you are pregnant" but then I keep thinking "what if I'm not?" I will be devastated, and if I'm not this is the worse pms symptoms I have ever had. I just feel so icky! I can't take it anymore though, I am testing in the morning. I just have to know if I am or not. I pray it's not too early for me to test. I am scared it will be a BFN but what if it's not? OMG, I am just a wreck over here. I know I'm not making myself feel this way. I would nevere make myself go that crazy about being pg that I feel this sick. I usually feel pretty good first thing in the morning but as the day progresses I start to feel ill. Well, I will update the results tomorrow.
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May 13th, 2007, 02:52 PM
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Ok well, AF showed up on Friday even though it was due Saturday. So our 1 year anniversary yesterday was ok but it would have been better if we would have gotten a BFP. Friday was hard for us both. We were both so upset that AF came and I spent all day crying. But we decided to keep at it until we reach the 2 year mark and then we will seek some help. So we are on to month 19 and I am now on CD 3. Keeping my fingers crossed for next month and hopefully it will work out for us. I ordered more pre-seed and opk's online. Going to keep using those because I think they may help us. Welp, I'll update when O comes around.
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