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Cali*Luvin · #1 July 24th, 2005, 07:57 AM

Guess what i am out of this cycle YET AGAIN AF arrived this afternoon what a b***h

this will be 14 months now and i can not take anymore. This being soo hard on me right now. Maybe its not meant to happen nothing is happening month after month. Doesnt seem to matter how acurate we bd or even when i get a + opk and then we bd whats the point when at the end it doesnt get you anywhere. You can get more acurate then using opks, charting and checking cm. So whats left nothing. Surely after all that hard work something should have paid of but no. Sory i had to vent. Well i shall go now and drown AF with a bottle of wine.

Blue Eyes 409 · #2 July 24th, 2005, 08:27 AM

I am so sorry that she got you. I got AF on Thursday and am on my 11th cycle of TTC. We are going to try this month then put it off for 3 months. I think that maybe a break will be good for us.

Cali*Luvin · #3 July 24th, 2005, 09:36 AM

Maybe thats what i need to is a break. Just cant take much more and all this stress cant be good. I cant believe how DH can be soo cool and calm about ttc can scream at him. I am sure if we take a break and we when we come back we will have a BFP. If you feel you want to talk feel free to PM here.

Katlynsmommy · #4 July 24th, 2005, 12:43 PM

good luck hon,ttc is very frustrating at times.

Pollyf · #5 July 25th, 2005, 06:14 AM

Amanda, I am so sorry honey she got you, she really is a spiteful b**ch that;s 2 of us over the weekend. I know exactly how you feel that your trying everything and nothing happens. try not to be angry at dh, they hide their feelings better than us, my dh is just the same as yours.

If you need to talk at all, pm me. Drown her with the wine.

Pauline. xxx

Cali*Luvin · #6 July 25th, 2005, 11:21 AM

Thanks polly i will PM you if need to talk and vent out about ttc.

feeling a little better after the wine

Pollyf · #7 July 25th, 2005, 12:53 PM

Drink up Amanda, i'm having another glass tonight, 4 more days until the ttc rollercoaster starts again, dh will be off this weekend, so hopefully friday, sat, sunday some quality time, i really want that bfp this month. Even though dh doesn't say how frustrated he is with it all i know he is, men totally hide their feelings about everything. If you change your mind amanda, you could book a seat on the rollercoaster with me, white knuckle ride this month.

Pauline.

Cali*Luvin · #8 July 26th, 2005, 03:40 AM

Hi Pauline,

I will book a seat next to you and we can ride the rollercoaster together. Hopefully i will be getting rid of AF in the next 4 days and then time to start bding again DH better watch out

think we will start bding even earlier try new things each month...

Pollyf · #9 July 26th, 2005, 04:29 AM

Good for you Amanda, i'm really pleased your not giving up. I think this will be one excellent ride ahead of us, we'll jazz it up and come up with new ideas and suggestions for making ttc less stressful and a bit more fun.

Pauline.

cocosmumNco · #10 July 26th, 2005, 07:45 AM

aww hun i'm so sorry af got u maybe a break will do u good but if u are anythink like me u will fine it very hard to do. have u seen your doctor.
good luck hun in what ever u decide to do i hope u get your bfp very soon

jennjerr · #11 July 27th, 2005, 04:59 PM

Hi, I'm a newbie here.

I know it can be very frustrating. My husband and I tried for 20 cycles before we got pregnant last fall. Unfortunately, I lost the baby at 4 months. Now we are at it again.

I believe persistence pays off. Just keep trying!

Donnaa · #12 July 31st, 2005, 08:33 AM

I hear all of you. My Dh and I have been trying for 18 LONG months now. The only thing that i can say is that it sucks! I just found out yesterday that my husbands sister is pregnant with her 7th child. God why can't we have one together???????????????????????? I have been crying since I found that out yesterday. It seems that everyone has been pregnant and has had their child in the time that we have been trying with no good outcome. MY emotions are taking a toll on me and I am SO sick of everyone saying "well in due time!" If 18 months is not due time then what is? I have been to the docs as well as him and they say that there is nothing wrong that it will happen when it's right. this is the most frustrating thing I have EVER been through. It just gets me so depressed. I just want to lie in bed and sleep and cry. I am getting to the point where I don't even like sex... what's the point nothing comes from it. HELP.. I need some feedback!!!!!!!!!!!

Cali*Luvin · #13 July 31st, 2005, 09:32 AM

Hi Donna,

First of all welcome to JM. I am sorry to hear you been having a hard time with ttc

. I know how hard and frustrating it can be. I have been close to quitting many times but the girls on here have been very supportive and have helped me through it. Good news that theres nothing wrong with you or dh. The only thing i cam advise have you thought going away for awhile with just you and dh ? Maybe a change of atomoshere, change of scenary may help you getting away from everyday things may help to take your mind of ttc. Or taking a break from ttc and trying again in a few months that also may help so you can relax. I am sorry i cant be of any more help.
We are here anytime if you need us.

Donnaa · #14 July 31st, 2005, 10:03 AM

Thanks So much! Now it seems like my Dh is mad at me because all I have been doing is crying and he doesn't know how to deal with that so he takes off outside and does yardwork. I am so FRUSTRATED!!!! we went away this past April to Hawaii (we have been ttc for 18 months but married since April). It seems like we have done everything one could think of but nothing seems to get us anywhere.

tearsofhope · #15 August 1st, 2005, 06:13 AM

Amanda honey, please don't give up just yet. In 6 more months, we will have been ttc for 3 years! Can you believe that one?!?! I can't! And there were times I said I was giving up but that only lasted one cycle at a time. You have that goal in mind and what you need to do is try to keep on with it. I know it's hard, trust me, I KNOW... but once we achieve this, having our baby in our arms will make this heartache of ttc disappear!

Have you thought about going to see an RE. I am with one now and I luv my new doctor. I am currently undergoing IUIs and infertility treatments and we have high hopes that something will happen by the end of this year.

Please don't give up. I know it's hard, but try to stay strong. If you need to take a break from ttc for a bit, please do, I did and it does help some. But I never gave up and I hope you don't either!!!!

If you have any questions for me or want to talk, please PM me. OK!!!

Jenn