I'm going to be an aunt.......

MountainMomma · #1 August 20th, 2007, 03:59 PM

and as much as I want to be happy for the new momma and pappa, it just doesn't seem fair! I've been trying for 18 months, and they had an opps! They told us in an email, and honestly I'm glad they didn't tell us face to face, because my reaction was to burst into tears. We've been TTC for longer than they've even been together! I just wanna scream! Sorry. I just had to vent a little bit.

AMCM · #2 August 20th, 2007, 04:43 PM

Oh man! I'm so sorry!

jdecke04 · #3 August 20th, 2007, 04:52 PM

I am sorry hun. I know how you feel. I hope you get your BFP soon!

#4 August 20th, 2007, 04:54 PM

I am so sorry hun, I know you feel. We were TTC when my brothers gf got pg with number 2, it was an oops they say. Both are very young, 19 and 22. They have a 2 yr old already, had their second son on my bday this past year. Then I found out my sister was pg the FIRST cycle off of BCP. She wasnt even married yet, which isnt a biggie but she moved her wedding date up because of it. I was so upset I cried the whole night.

MountainMomma · #5 August 20th, 2007, 06:28 PM

As stupid as this sounds..... I just really wanted to have a baby first. DH's family all loves my kids to death, but this is going to be the first biological grandkid for his family. First great grandkid... all of that. And when I sit and think about the fact that my first miscarriage was in October of 2006....well, we should have a baby already! His brother was planning on marrying this girl next year, but now they want to do it in February. She'll be due in April. The one I just lost would have been due in April. And she wants me to help her pick out a dress for the wedding, which I had already agreed to. Now it's going to have to be a maternity dress, and I just don't know if I can do that.

I know I should just be happy for them, and I am. I really am, but it's just so frustrating! When is it going to be my turn???

LindsLuvsSi · #6 August 20th, 2007, 06:43 PM

i know how you feel...believe me i do......i thought DH and I were in luck when i thought we got prgo from our "wedding weekend" hehe...but RIGHT when i got BFNS and AF showed up...my SIL ims us saying "you're gonna be an aunt" horrible timing huh?? (this was 6 months ago...) i can't even talk to her without crying and stuff. whenever i see her online i bawl. and she had to send us the ultasound photos right?? grrr i started bawling then too. it's soo hard. i finally got over it, just like a month ago, i knew that being jealous wouldn't help and of course our baby will be cuter and more perfect cause it'll be ours...so i talked to her... i asked her to pray for us, and she's like "why do you think you have problems? cause you're not pregnant yet?" grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr and i told her because of my short luteal phase (that doesn't seem to lengthen long enough yet still), and she had to research it herself cause she didn't believe me when i told her what it was. and of course she said the stupid/mean things of "oh it looks like it can be fixed and don't worry you'll get pregnant."

but if she names the baby one of mine and DH's names...man she won't hear the end of it...i'll be sooo upset!!!

i can see it happening already...everything i dreamed and wanted, she gets. she had to have her wedding first before me and DH, because she had to "win" and her DH didn't want kids till after being married for a year, but they don't believe in BC so of course she's pg first too.

sorry had to vent cause i know how you feel!!! i know you've been trying longer....but even trying for 6 months i know how you feel espeically with gonna be an aunt before mommy.

MountainMomma · #7 August 20th, 2007, 07:20 PM

I understand with the name thing too. There is actually a really big chance of that happening to me. See, we are planning on naming our son Steven Paul. Steven is after my Dad and Paul is DH's middle name. Thing is.... DH's brother's name is Steven. If they have a boy, very strong chance it could be Steven. I really want to name my baby after my Dad, so I hope they have a girl!

Or at least not name a boy after BIL

#8 August 20th, 2007, 07:22 PM

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As stupid as this sounds..... I just really wanted to have a baby first. DH's family all loves my kids to death, but this is going to be the first biological grandkid for his family. First great grandkid... all of that. And when I sit and think about the fact that my first miscarriage was in October of 2006....well, we should have a baby already! His brother was planning on marrying this girl next year, but now they want to do it in February. She'll be due in April. The one I just lost would have been due in April. And she wants me to help her pick out a dress for the wedding, which I had already agreed to. Now it's going to have to be a maternity dress, and I just don't know if I can do that.

I know I should just be happy for them, and I am. I really am, but it's just so frustrating! When is it going to be my turn???[/b]

Have you tried to talk to her about all of this? I was so upset the day I heard my sister was pg that I cried. My sister knew we were TTC so she talked to me about it all. She wont show any u/s pics to me wont talk about it nothing while I am around due to the fact of us TTC. She is great about that, my SIL was the same way. She knew and when she was pg with my nephew she wouldnt talk about it or anything. Maybe yours will be the same way hun.

Mommytobe92 · #9 August 21st, 2007, 10:40 AM

Hi Stephie

I know how you feel. I'm praying that you'll get your baby soon because your DH looks like a very nice and sweet guy, I really hope that he will be a daddy soon.

purplelady · #10 August 21st, 2007, 03:45 PM

its so hard to be truly happy for someone when they are getting what you have worked for so long to get. me and my hubby have been trying since june 06 and lots of ppl we know are preggo now or have just had their babies, and although i am happy for them it still makes me feel like a failure. one of my best male friends got his girl knocked up while he was going through chemo, that one was a big stab at my heart. even though i was happy for them it still hurt a little more than the others. made me feel like there was something very wrong with me. but then i remind myself that it took me 22 months with my second and to be patient. i hope you start feeling better about it soon hun. and i hope that you get that beautiful BFP soon.

MountainMomma · #11 August 21st, 2007, 08:28 PM

Thanks ladies. I think it might be easier if it weren't the first everything for the family. lol I just know that everyone is going to be so excited about it and that's all they are going to want to talk about. We've already gotten the "When are you guys going to be having one?" or "If only we could get Matt and Steph going now." I know they mean well, but it hurts.

Em2528 · #12 August 22nd, 2007, 07:04 PM

I dont really want to get into it, but i know EXACTLY what you girls are going through...my story is basically the same as Lindseys...but im really working on this because i know its the right thing to do...i know its not easy, but we will all get our bfp's too...hang in there girls...non of us are alone, we have each other no matter what!!