[LindsLuvsSi]

Some of you my remember me talking about how my RE won't treat me because of the 1 cyst. I have some questions and need opinions, can't really decide what to do here! Any advice would be appreciated.

So here's the dilemma......
We are planning on getting a second opinion if we're not prego within this cycle or next.

If we're not prego this cycle, when AF shows I'm thinking I'll call the RE to get in for an ultrasound to see if the cyst did rupture like I think it did. If that's the case he'd give me the Femara and progesterone which I need and want cause I'm certain we'd get a BFP quick with it But at the same time, I'm a lil ticked at the RE ya know? And if the cyst is still there he'll pressure me to get the laparoscopy- which we don't want to jump into just yet. We'd need to get health insurance first.

If we do see the RE when AF shows next cycle and the cyst isn't gone, I think then I'd make an appt with an OB/GYN. (Should I see an Ob/gyn or would a GYN be able to give me some fertility meds?) I know OB/GYNs would be cheaper than getting a second opinion from the RE in the next county an hour away. I'd save time & gas money seeing a OB/GYN in my town. I know appointments fill up fast, so I'm thinking I should try to book an appt soon just for back up? If I make an appt. what exactly should I say the reasoning for the appt. is?

Sorry for the questions, just trying to get some advice and tips.
Does my plan make sense? and sound good, just need some reassurance
I hope we won't need any of this and I'm hoping we got lucky this cycle!! fingers crossed.

[cazza]

im not sure sorry. sorry im no help

[Celry]

A lot of GYNs are OB/GYNs you shouldn't have a problem finding one. I would go to an office that has an OB/GYN to be safe. Or, I guess you could always call and ask if they'd be able to prescribe the drugs you need.

I'm not sure what you should tell them. You don't want to lie because they need to know your history in order to treat you correctly. If they don't know about the cyst, their actions may not help you. I would say you tell them the truth.

You may want to look into some sort of temporary health insurance. There are plenty of companies out there that sell 6 month policies. DH and I had those for about a year when we first got married and our jobs didn't offer health insurance. The policies are not that expensive and totally worth it. Before purchasing any policy, you'd want to make sure it'd cover anything you're looking at doing.

[Mum2three]

Hmmm...I would have to say do what Celry said. Thats everything i was going to say

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I would definitely call an ob/gyn. They could do an ultrasound to see if the cyst is gone. I think they can prescribe the drugs, but not sure about that. I would just call and ask. Good luck! I hope you won't need any of it and get a BFP this cycle on your own.

Definitely see and OB/GYN. Most can prescribe Clomid and Femara and progesterone and will, especially if you explain your situation. I'd also definitely look into getting insurance, you can get temporary policies fairly inexpensively and heaven foribd something is wrong, its better now to get the poilicy than wait.

[ShannonMVT]

I will just say that what the other ladies said sounds good since I don't know that much about it.

Just curious, what does the Femara do?

[xanada101]

I would look for an OB/GYN, you're gonna need one eventually anyways, right? Tell them your situation and be honest, so they can treat you properly. Tell them what you would like to do.

BTW... I agree with Celry that you should look into some sort of health insurance. You're gonna want that for when you get PG too right? Don't wait till the last minute... you might get surprised sooner than you think

[LindsLuvsSi]

I'm hoping I won't need a 2nd opinion. Of course I wouldn't lie to them, I was planning on telling them about the chemical pregnancy, the cyst, etc. I just want to be pregnant already.

I've been trying to talk DH into getting a no deductible health insurance but he just won't do it. He hates health insurance and the health care system, etc. Grrr it aggravates me.

[snsgirl336]

I would agree with Toni, Jenifer and Cel- I think an OB/GYN will be able to help you and if not, they may be able to direct you to another RE who can give you another opinion. I also agree about the insurance. You never know what is going to happen, so I would look into it!

[LindsLuvsSi]

I have been like 24/7, thinking our best bet is a non-decutible insurance, but my DH is being dumb. He doesn't want it and won't get it. I keep begging him. Grrrrrr. Any ideas? of any insurance recommendations?

I will just say that what the other ladies said sounds good since I don't know that much about it.

Just curious, what does the Femara do?[/b]

Femara is similar to Clomid, induces/helps aide with ovulation.

[jeanbean]

Linds, I have to agree with everyone else. An OBGYN will be able to do an ultrasound, prescribe meds, etc. Also, I think the health insurance is a good idea. Not only for fertility stuff, but other things could happen as well. Good luck convincing DH! Why doesn't he want to get it??

[LindsLuvsSi]

Linds, I have to agree with everyone else. An OBGYN will be able to do an ultrasound, prescribe meds, etc. Also, I think the health insurance is a good idea. Not only for fertility stuff, but other things could happen as well. Good luck convincing DH! Why doesn't he want to get it??[/b]

DH doesn't like the fact everything is based off insurance. He likes how the UK, Canada have healthcare provided for the citizens. He also doesn't like the fact you have to pay a monthly rate, then meet a deductible before the insurance will cover anything. (ones with no-deductibles have like 40% coinsurance which really isn't that great) We barely get sick, have issues, etc. WHen we have gone to the doc. they have given us discounts for not having insurance and for paying with cash. Also, the main reason he's against it, is that he grew up without insurance. He was in a family of 11. His siblings would break their bones or need stitches all the time. They didn't have insurance. They made it. They all lived off one income too. So he feels like if a family of 11 can do it, then so can we. It's something he's used to and know works from experience. He'd rather put the cost that he'd pay for a monthly premium into a healthcare savings account, like his family did. So I think this is what we will be doing. That's fine with me.

[jeanbean]

That completey makes sense to me. Especially since his family was successful in doing that. I agree about the Canada stuff. I just don't understand why we can't have a health care system like that! It aggravates me how much they charge for services in the US.

[LindsLuvsSi]

I needed DH to explain it to me. I asked him about it at lunch, so know I understand him more too and am not aggravated! And too he's hoping he'll get a job in the UK soon- so we wouldn't have to worry about health care anyways...I don't understand why either. We need a president to fix it!! You're so right health care services are so expensive here. I've heard many people going to other countries to have surgeries done for like 1/2 the cost of the US.

Linds, while putting money aside sounds swell..what about pregnancy? There are a million things that could come up in pregnancy that cna be very costly, including delivery, and insurance can definitely help with covering those costs and saving you a lifetime of bills. I know he's hoping to get a job in the UK, but what if that doesn't pan out?

[LindsLuvsSi]

I've talked to hima bout it over and over.....even mentioning what if we needed a c-section or had a preemie, etc. He wouldn't budge. He's still set in his way and believes that God will provide for us like He did his family growing up. All their 9 kids were born at home too, another reason we're doing home birth, hopefully that will all work out. Home births are so much cheaper too. But if we end up needing a c-section or something then we'll worry about it when the time comes if that happens. But right now we're not worrying about finances or insurance. We're not worrying about anything. Trying to stay hopeful and positive that we'll get and stay pregnant with a healthy baby and uneventful pregnancy and that we'll be able to have a home birth and that God will bless us and provide for us. We have faith and trust in Him and we know anything's possible with him. If he doesn't get a job in the UK, we'll be moving around from studio to studio probably every 6 months to a year, since no studios here in CA have been offering permanent staff jobs, which is what he wants and I want him to have. (If he got one he'd have a permanent job with benefits. We wouldn't be moving around all the time and we'd be able to settle down, which is what we want but if he doesn't get a stable staff position job at a studio then we'll be doing what we do now, continue to have faith and trust in Him and know that everything happens for a reason. Everything has worked out so far!)

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

So, Lindsey If he gets a job in the UK then you all move there?

[LindsLuvsSi]

So, Lindsey If he gets a job in the UK then you all move there?[/b]

Yep. We'd sell our car and most of our stuff and put the rest in storage. His best friend works there at one of the best 3d Effects Studios (works on Harry Potter, Narnia, etc) The job is normal hours 9-6 (here DH works 9-7, usually later) It's also a year contract job. DH's current job is a 3 month contract. His best friend is married and they have a baby. His best friend's wife and I are both into photography and talked that we would shot weddings on the weekends together if we moved there. It'd be so happy to have a friend close up. Right now we know no one here. And we'd love for our kids to grow up together. DH's best friend is trying so hard to get him a job there, he goes on and on how great a studio it is. We lived in London for 3 weeks back in 06 when we were dating. He got a short gig job there at a different studio. Waiting to see what happens! DH says we wouldn't move there till we were prego, cause he knows I'd have a rough time TTC and being with their baby.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Well that sounds like you guys have it all planned out. I will be praying that he'll get him a job over there, that sounds wonderful. It would be nice to be so close to friends, too. Dh sounds really sweet to think that for you. Good luck to you guys!!