Want to know what bugs me?

ShannonMVT · #1 March 27th, 2008, 08:54 PM

And this is just my opinion, but I HATE those prego blinkies that say "I'm making another human being, what did YOU do today?" It just freaking rubs me the wrong way. What did I do today? Well I wished with every ounce of my being that I WAS still making another human being. I wished that I COULD be making another human being and thanks SO MUCH for pointing it out that you ARE and I am NOT.

I'm just bitter though because I was TTC with several ladies on this forum (another board). I was there for them when it took them a little longer than what they thought was normal (5 months) but now that they are prego and I posted awhile back about being sad about my loss and about not being pregnant again, I don't hear a peep out of them.

Maybe I'm overly sensitive but it hurts my feelings.

LindsLuvsSi · #2 March 27th, 2008, 09:05 PM

I'm sorry Shannon!

#3 March 27th, 2008, 09:30 PM

I'm sorry Shannon. They bug me too. Some of us pray and do everything in our power to be able to make another human but it's just not working out right now. I honestly think that unless someone has experienced the pain of a loss or infertility they cannot relate.

#4 March 27th, 2008, 11:28 PM

Shannon I know generally who you are talking about, and I get what you are saying. Just remember that there are certain people on other boards that have what I call "groupies", and the whole thing sometimes turns into a popularity contest. But you are definitely not the only one that feels this way, a lot of other girls do too. So you are not alone! Don't pay any attention to the groupies and the insensitive blinkies (I have found some preggo graduates to post insensitive things recently too) I think some people just need a certain kind of attention in their lives, and for some reason many ladies online are happy to oblige! I just say whatever

And I am sorry if I missed your posts, I care about how you feel and I am sorry your feelings were hurt (mine would be too)

Lauren S · #5 March 28th, 2008, 03:54 AM

I know what you mean- that particular blinkie has always rubbed me the wrong way too. Sorry you are feeling ignored. We are here for you though!

jeanbean · #6 March 28th, 2008, 05:41 AM

Jennifer-In-Italy. I don't think others understand how one feels when they've tried so hard for so long and still can't get pregnant or have experienced a loss. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me.

mom 2 haley & tyler · #7 March 28th, 2008, 07:24 AM

Shannon, I understand why that bothers you. It bothers me, too. I also know what you mean about not getting responses from another board on your feelings....been there, too. I am always here if you need to talk, feel free to PM me. I hope you get your BFP soon!!!!!!!

BabyBird · #8 March 28th, 2008, 07:47 AM

xanada101 · #9 March 28th, 2008, 08:09 AM

I'm sorry people make you feel this way. Just stick with us!

Celry · #10 March 28th, 2008, 08:30 AM

I don't like most blinkies. I just added some to my siggy since it was so plain. I haven't noticed the one you're mentioning, but that would rub me the wrong way.

ShannonMVT · #11 March 28th, 2008, 09:44 AM

Thanks ladies. I will have to PM some of ya later.

I think all of you are right, some people are just clueless about these things. At least now I feel like I am a person who will feel (even more) compassion towards those who have a hard road to getting their baby. I know I will be careful when I do get pregnant, not to hurt anyone by what I say or do. Even in real life, you just never know what someone's story is.

Mum2three · #12 March 28th, 2008, 12:54 PM

we are all here for you!! and i know it was upsetting to me to. so i turned off peoples signatures so i didnt have to see that.

Big HUGS!!!!

downunderchick · #13 March 28th, 2008, 02:36 PM

sending ya hugs, PMing me if ya ever need to
XXX

dng · #14 March 29th, 2008, 01:22 PM

I know what you are saying. I left another site before I found this one because people were so clickish. I told them so before I left and they actually blamed me for not posting more. Post more.... for what..... so they could ignore me more. I agree with Michelle...... some people make popularity contests out of their whole lives. It's always homecoming week and they are trying to get the most votes. I didn't even care about that crap in high-school, so I have no problems not getting wrapped up in it now. I hope you get comfy here and find this board to be more welcoming. I am around on my days off mostly, but you can send me a message any time.

Hoosier Kitty · #15 March 29th, 2008, 11:27 PM

I so know what you mean, shannon! In fact, yesterday I came across a DDC and saw this blinkie that said "I'm so crafty, I make people." It rubbed me off the wrong way. But I ignored it and focus on my ttc.
Some people are insensitive and they probably never experienced a long TTC like we do.

ashleighgurl · #16 March 29th, 2008, 11:58 PM

I'm so sorry! Some people just don't understand what it's like to wish with every ounce of your body for a child, and every month, to be let down. Becoming pregnant comes so easily to some people, and sometimes they don't realize that they are hurting our feelings when they aren't being more sensitive. I hope you are doing better now, and you can always PM me, too, if you ever want to talk.