I don't think we are TTC anymore. Lately I have been thinking about all these things I want to do that don't involve making a baby. And I have been happier thinking about it. Like, way happier. I have a few dreams that are incongruous with having a baby, and I think I may need to do these things before we continue TTC. For instance, I used to dance (ballroom, some ballet) and I miss it a lot. I miss having a dancers body, and I miss being a dancer. But it is more then that, there are a lot of other things too. Maybe I am still too selfish to become a parent. Maybe I don't want it enough.

I used to think waiting until my late twenties to have our first was waiting way too long. I used to think I couldn't do it. But lately, I have been feeling pretty young, and I like it. A lot! I am only speaking for myself here, but I no longer see what the rush is (I am 25).

My husband is, as always, 100% supportive of however I feel, and I need to clear it all with my RE to make sure he thinks waiting 3 years would be ok, but I think this may be it for now. I cannot definitively say NO more TTC at the moment, but I am fairly sure we may be going on a long TTC hiatus. It is almost a feeling of relief, actually. I look forward to focusing all of my energy on me and my husband. I am claiming my twenties back for myself!

If this is what is right for you guys, then go for it. There is nothing wrong with what you are thinking and I wish you the best of luck in everything!

Thanks for the luck Jennifer! I forgot to mention that I also gave up a dream I had about becoming a doctor (I was a pre-med not so long ago) a while ago and I have decided to go for it! So that is another thing that has changed.

I am feeling really good about this. Hopefully my doc thinks my eggs will last a while longer yet

I hope so Michelle. What about possibly doing egg retrieval now too, just in case?

I will ask him about that but I think it may be too expensive. I still have to get my polyp looked at too.

I hope he thinks it is ok to wait. It will make this decision a lot harder if he has reservations. Now I am nervous! I forgot about that polyp.

[wishingxxx]

Jeez michelle,you are only 25,i dont think there'll be any need for egg retreival just yet!
Someone asked me the other day there,"would you like to be a teenager again?"..........................
I answered "no,but i'd like to have my 20s back again!!!,they were some of the best years of my life lol,id just like to do it again to remember some stuff LOL."
You do what you feel is right,I'm 32 and dont have any doubt that my egg store is still nice and fresh.
If a problem arises,i'll deal with it,as and when,until then,iam in no doubt that i will conceive naturally,in time.
Good luck honey xxxxx

[Lauren S]

Good luck, Michelle. If you feel this isn't exactly the right time for you guys to become parents, then wait. You are only 25! And it sounds like you have some exciting things planned for the next couple of years. Let us know what the dr says.

[Celry]

I'm sure whatever decision you make will be the right one for you. Everyone has to do what's right for them, but I can't imagine having a child in my 20's. I was still a child myself and had the best years of my life. That's great you're thinking of going back to med school. I'm sure you'd make an amazing doctor.

[jeanbean]

Michelle, You have to do what is right for you guys. I hope all your dreams come true.....please keep us posted with everything.

[snsgirl336]

Michelle... I'm sure whatever you and your DH decide about TTC will be what's best for you both. I admire the fact that you want to focus on you and your DH for a while. I'm sure whatever direction your life takes will lead you to nothing but wonderful things! You are such a sweet person, how could it not! Keep us posted on what the Doctor says! All my best wishes in everything you do!

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Michelle, I wish you the best in whatever you decide. It sounds like you have some things to do. You would make an amazing doctor I'm sure. Please kup and let us know what the dr says. Good luck to you!

[LindsLuvsSi]

I wish you all the luck in achieving your goals and that when the time is right you'll get your bundle of joy! Good luck Michelle! Glad you're feeling good about this! Have fun claiming it all back to yourself! Glad DH is supportive! Will you be the next one on dancing with the stars? or the next famous Dr? I could see it happening, you're so determined and you always know what you want and are going to do!! Good luck again!! Are you leaving JM too?? If so sorry to see you go Michelle. We will miss you dearly! But hope you'll update us and everything!

[xanada101]

Wow! Good for you. It takes a strong person to really look at themselves and their lives, and know when to step back. I remember having some of the best times of my life in my twenties. You can't get those years back. Do what you have to do! Spend quality time with DH. Find who you are again.... and see where it goes. You never know.... it may lead to an OOPS! LOL

Wow! Good for you. It takes a strong person to really look at themselves and their lives, and know when to step back. I remember having some of the best times of my life in my twenties. You can't get those years back. Do what you have to do! Spend quality time with DH. Find who you are again.... and see where it goes. You never know.... it may lead to an OOPS! LOL

Make sure you come to visit us though!!!

[ShannonMVT]

Michelle, I wish you the best of luck in this decision. I hope your dr makes it an easy one. I'm sure whatever you decide to do, you will excel at it!

[~April04~]

Good Luck Michelle!.

[Jlynn]

Good for you sweetie!! I hope you are very happy with whatever you do
GOOD LUCK

[Mum2three]

that sounds good. i would do what you want to do. and if thats just laying low on the charts and making you happy then go for it!

[downunderchick]

Im happy that youve made a decision that makes you happier although I will miss you if you do leave us so please keep us posted on how youre doing. You never know it may happen while you are getting on with other things in life. Sending you lots of luck and all the happiness in the world!!!
Luv ya loads

[dng]

I can't just feel the relief you have by reading your post. I can see the ideas swimming in your head. It's quite inspiring. I think you should become a Dr. Maybe even an OBGYN or and RE so that we can all come and see you and you will know how we feel. I would love to say that I met my Dr on JM, how funny that would be . Good luck.

[Hoosier Kitty]

Michelle! I think you'd be a great doctor!!!! You are smart by the way I have seen your words lately. I have been in your shoes many times... thinking I should wait til school is over and spend more time with DH. going back and forth like that... Life's too short. Everything happens for a reason. Good luck with your future!!! I assume you will go back to WTTC board? Hope you will keep in track with us.