Those who are done

MeggysMommy · #1 October 4th, 2011, 10:54 AM

Since our LO's are either a year now or almost getting there those mama's who are done having kids is it a bittersweet thing? Does it make you yearn for the baby days again or are you like finally we are out of it????

Even though I'm technically not done I won't be having another of my own for a while especially if I do become a surrogate for my BIL and SIL. I did have a moment on her birthday were I wished I had a baby again but I think it is more I miss her being small but I definitely don't miss the sleepless nights at least not yet

nurselochia · #2 October 4th, 2011, 12:53 PM

It is a little bittersweet. When Caleb hit a year, it was like "ok, so there won't be anymore newborns in this house". It was a little sad, but at the same time, there is some relief: no more delivery recovery, no more up all night everynight, etc. So bittersweet, yes, but does it make me want anymore? No. I'm pefectly fine moving out of the small baby chapter of my life.

jennimomof4 · #3 October 4th, 2011, 12:57 PM

Yeah it will always be bittersweet! I think I will miss having a newborn but I think most of my sadness is because I feel so old and the thought of all my kids in school in 4 years kinda freaks me out!!

jennimomof4 · #4 October 4th, 2011, 02:28 PM

And the older the kids get, the more they don't need me. And though it will be nice not to be as needed there is something wonderful about a little baby needing and wanting me all the time! LOL Sounds dumb I know!

MoshieBug · #5 October 4th, 2011, 07:29 PM

Totaly bitter. No sweet. LOL. It took us 5 years & 4 miscarriages to conceive Moshie. My 10 year old was just diagnosed with a bleeding disorder & the doctors are pretty sure I have the same thing (that caused the miscarriages). If we had an easier time conceiving, we'd have more, but we are both older (I'm 35, he's 48) & the oldest is already 22. He doesn't want to be 80 when his youngest finishes high school!

aprilf · #6 October 5th, 2011, 07:37 AM

I go back and forth. My mind says we are DONE (I have hard pregnancies, c-sections, and hard recoveries) my heart isn't quite there yet and gets a little sad when I think about Nora being my last baby.

And we have FIVE years Jenni - our babies are past the school start mark (in most places I think) for starting when they turn five. YAY!!

jennimomof4 · #7 October 5th, 2011, 01:08 PM

Oh ya April I forgot!! LOL 5 is way better!

H1C2 · #8 October 5th, 2011, 11:08 PM

nope, none nada. never have had even one inkling that i want any more. ever. period.

catch my drift?? haha

ONE AND DONE BABY

Mama to 4 Monsters · #9 October 6th, 2011, 08:52 AM

I have moments where I get a little sad thinking that I'll never experience delivery again, never experience that moment of finding out the sex again, never name a child again, never have that first glimpse of my new child again, never have that moment of 1st finding out I'm pregnant and figuring out how to tell DH again.. those kind of thoughts (notice I didn't mention missing being pregnant lol.. THAT I'm glad is over). I don't miss having a newborn, I've been up all night since my oldest was born so that's become the norm, I don't miss bottles, and I don't miss the constant worrying if everything is going to be alright during pregnancy. I am DONE but there are times when I see a VERY pregnant woman and I envy her of all the firsts of that baby that she's going to get to experience shortly.