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If you had a name picked out (names for the loss) did you still keep the name for future kids?
My DH and I had a boy and girl name for our butter bean when I was 8 weeks along. We MC and I feel sad about keeping those name options for future TTC.
Since we lost Cora at 38w it was a little different for us. We'd called her Cora for several weeks. I DID consider for maybe half a second using the name for another baby, and calling her something else. But, in the end...she was Cora and nobody else. And nobody else was Cora.
We didn't name our angel baby. We had possible names picked out though. If it was a boy he would have been Jeremy, but we've had that name picked out since before I was pg with Samantha (she's 4), and we just haven't got to use it b/c we had 2 girls. So we will still use it if this baby is a boy. If it was a girl, Allison was our top contender and still is. I think it's ok to consider the same names b/c we didn't actually NAME our lost baby. If we had, we definitely wouldn't use it again.
We don't usally pick out names until after we know the gender. And all of my loses have been by 6 weeks. I need name my 1st loss just b/c it felt right but that was after I lost her (I just fell it was a girl). The other two babies just have the nickname that I called them.
But after we had Kaylie, our living DD, we through out the names we were considering when we chose the name for this little boy.
If you really love then name I think it would be ok to pass it on to another child. I like what Emma did with Gaby. She gave her the middle name that is similar to her angels name. (Emma if you read this post about it, K?) I think that is beautiful. That way the name is used in honor of your angel and not just passed from kid to kid. KWIM?