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Ugh, I'm tired of the losses in my DDC. It's just... so sad. I guess I really lucked out in my DDC with Erin. We didn't have a loss even late in the first trimester, and all the babies arrived safely after that.
This one though...ugh. I'm near tears. Why do babies have to die like this??
I know what you mean Brittanie. We had so many early losses and then late first trimester losses and now 2 losses after 20 weeks in my ddc. It breaks my heart because we know all too well the pain the families are in and yet there is nothing we can do to make it better. Babies are supposed to outlive us, its just not right.
I feel bad sometimes because I can't even bring myself to comment. It just brings up so many raw emotions.
Thank you Mistyx5 for my siggy.
I agree Brittanie, we've had so many losses. Its so hard for me to even read the posts let alone respond.....yet I feel badly because I do want to express my sympathy but its just so hard and brings up so many emothions because I identify with them so much. I was so worried about angie (mrschamberlain) all weekend and then to learn she lost one of her twins just broke my heart. Its just not fair.
It's always hard to read and deal with. Every time I've gotten pg I've joined the DDC but I can't bring myself to join the May DDC this time for that very reason. I don't know if I'll join to be honest.
In my Aug 07 PR when we were a DDC we had many losses and a very sad loss where one of our premies died, and we had a few premies too who are doing great today (including a micro premie born in May instead of Aug!).
That's one of the reason why I still haven't joined a DDC, even know that I promise Michelle that I would do it...I can't bring myself to do it, I don't want see women lose their babies, I know it's probably selfish….
I remember how brutal that was in my ddc as well. I also had a hard time when there were women who felt absolutely confident they wouldn't loss theirs..when everyday it was in the back of my mind. Every second of the day actually It was hard when I was co-hosting this board as well while pregnant and women would lose their babies..it's just all around devastating
Britt *Hugs* i know its never easy to watch others go through that path. But you and i both know when there is someone like us to help you through it it makes the process easier to handle. We know the words they want to hear. Its never easy on the others on the outside of the circle, cause it brings back memories. but the good memories is what everyone wants to remember..
your a strong person, and you know what to say to a parent in need.
I feel the same way. I keep thinking this never gets easier, but if I get past my own pain about it I might be able to help someone else deal with the pain they're having. Since loss is a highly traveled road, it shouldn't feel so lonely.
I didn't join my DDC until I was like 11 or 12 weeks bc of that exact reason. I knew there would be a lot of losses in the 1st tri., there just always are, unfortunately. Anyhow, I decided to just hang here and watch some wonderful women get further along. Oh and Sabina gave birth just as I was getting my BFP, which was huge for me bc she and I were very close in due dates. It just made me feel so good to be here and see all the positive things going on. I am sorry you are having to hear/see so much heartache, I hope it gets better very soon for everyone's sakes.
Angels in Heavan. Helena May, June 28, 2007 & Alexander Michael, October 11, 2007