[Danica]

How long did you or are planning to abstain? I told DH from the beginning that he has to wait until 12 weeks. Well that is coming up and I swear he is counting down on the calender. I am a little nervous because I will be stopping progesterone and pelvic rest all at the same time. So what did you decide to do?

I know the docs said there is no reason to abstain but I felt more comfortable with my decision to. And I have to say DH has been a trooper and I would love to be with him again but I'm just scared...

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Well, I didn't have to be on bed or pelvic rest. I'm sure you will be fine honey. Just take it easy the first few times. I hope it will work out best for you and someone else has better info. Have fun!

[*Bobbie*]

I put myself on it kind of.... we only DTD about once every two weeks...sometimes longer and almost never in the first tri-mester. I was just way too scared of losing this baby. I am also one of those women who has no sex drive while PG. Dave seems to be handling it pretty well. But I still feel bad

[kalis]

i actually was on pelvic rest the entire pregnany, doctor's orders. it was difficult and my boyfriend tried to be as nice about it as possible. we just tried to stay close and intimate in other ways.

[greenchild]

I was on restricted activity for the 1st trimester, and when I started spotting (due to a progesterone drop I believe??) they put me on pelvic rest too. We didn't exactly abstain - just enjoyed each other in ways that did not involve the actual act. TMI here, but I figured orgasms are okay, I occasionally get them in my sleep and there is nothing I can do about that. Just take it easy, you can always do things "shallow" for awhile until you feel more comfortable.

[ShannonMVT]

I wanted to wait until after I got out of the first trimester. And now that I feel okay with it, Dh is worried about hurting the baby. Role reversal! Ack!

Do whatever you feel is best for you and your peace of mind.

[heatherrose415]

Danica I am sure if you explained that to your hubby he would understand completely. Maybe wait til 15-18 weeks to have sex. I got off myprogesterone at 13 weeks, and then had sex again at 18 weeks. I was really nervous too but everything was just fine

Danica, we did the same thing and when I wasn't ready, hubby understood and it all worked out.

[angelmomjen]

I was on pelvic rest from week 8 to week 34..OMG it was NO fun. Hard for me and DH since my sex drive was through the roof. I only got to dtd once before I had Nathan, and then 6 more weeks of rest...There are other things you can do to feel intimate with him, and sometimes just being close with him helps, we cuddled alot, and sometimes that was hard, but I really needed the closeness. Good luck sweety..do what makes you most comfortable.

[angelmomjen]

I was on pelvic rest from week 8 to week 34..OMG it was NO fun. Hard for me and DH since my sex drive was through the roof. I only got to dtd once before I had Nathan, and then 6 more weeks of rest...There are other things you can do to feel intimate with him, and sometimes just being close with him helps, we cuddled alot, and sometimes that was hard, but I really needed the closeness. Good luck sweety..do what makes you most comfortable.

[Nykoal]

Last time I was on pelvic rest from 20wks-31wks due to a low lying placenta. It was brutal because I'm also one of those women who has an increased sex drive when pg. Ironically, once I was off pelvic rest DH had zero hormones. So we DTD that very night I found out I was off pelvic rest and then we didn't DTD again until I was 3 months postpartum. So we had a 5 month dry spell. I had no desire to be touched after I gave birth.

This time I have just came off pelvic rest and I was on it from 11wks-14wks due to spotting and Dr's orders again. I can't wait to DTD again and it just so happens that Makenna is at my parent's tonight (this was arranged a while ago) so DH & I have some catching up to do. I'm hoping I don't have another low lying placenta this time and would hate to go back on pelvic rest.

GL and just explain your feelings to him. I honestly felt really disconnected from DH when I was on rest. I know it sounds strange, but we loss our sense of closeness. So it's important to still cuddle, hold hands, hug, etc. It's amazing how sex is closely tied with a healthy marriage or relationship.