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December 1st, 2008, 08:51 AM
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My grandma passed away Starday morning. She had been ill for a couple of weeks and stopped being able to swallow. But the family decided not to put a feeding tube in b/c she had senile demntia and didn't understand and would try to rip it out. This happened the two weeks she was in the hospital with her IVs and catheter. So she had to be restrained, which is also awful since she didn't understand what was going on. So they got her UTI under control and then she went back to her nursing home where they took care of her and tried to get her to eat and had her on pain meds to help with any discomfort. Plus, even with the feeding tube, they didn't give her very long to live. What a horrible decision to make but they had to choose qualitly of life over quantity at this point.
She was 93 and probably the best woman in the world. Like an angel. Her and my grandpa are exactly how I want to be when I am old. They were so sweet and loving and kind of codependant on each other. Granpa passed away last year at age 95 & it is a little bittersweet b/c he died exactly, to the day, a year before her. They were only apart a year.
I didn't get to see her before she died, and she never met the baby, but I know that she wouldn't know me anyways and I think that now she is back with Grandpa and can remember us and can see the baby. My mom and dad (she was my dad's mom) went and saw her on Thanksgiving and Dad told her things were going to bo okay and that Grandpa was waiting for her.
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December 1st, 2008, 09:21 AM
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I'm so sorry......it kind od reminded me of my grandpa, he also had dimentia, he made it through pneumonia twice in one year and ended dying of something else. I also did not get to see my him when he died, it was a bit bittersweet for my family too because he died 6 days after we got married, most of the family was here with us celebrating (ended up being a big family reunion). My grandma wanted to come to the wedding, but did not want to leave him alone.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
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December 1st, 2008, 09:25 AM
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I'm so sorry, Kristi!!! Thinking of you and your family right now!!
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December 1st, 2008, 09:43 AM
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I'm sorry Kristi. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I'm sure she's up there with Grandpa smiling down on you and Thea now.
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December 1st, 2008, 09:56 AM
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I am so sorry sweety ((HUGS))
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December 1st, 2008, 10:02 AM
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I'm sorry to hear about your grandma, but it does sound as if she was ready to go be with your grandpa. Crazy how they died on the same day! I sometimes feel sad that my grandmother never met my daughter, but I'm also comforted to know that she is watching over my angels. Take care, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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December 1st, 2008, 10:15 AM
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Kristi,

I am so very sorry hon, you and your family are in my thoughts.
Dementia is such a heartbreaking condition for a family to be faced with...
you have a lifetime of wonderful memories of her that you can pass on to Thea.....and Thea has another guardian angel watching over her...
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December 1st, 2008, 02:24 PM
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Oh Kristi, I am so, so sorry. It is heartbreaking to lose such an important person in our lives but in a way it is also a relief not to see our loved ones in pain anymore. To know that she is now with your Grandpa, the love of her life must be comforting to you. I'll be praying for you and your family during this tough time.

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December 1st, 2008, 05:19 PM
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I'm so sorry hun. Reading what you wrote about your Grandma and Grandpa made me feel warm and fuzzy inside. It sounds like they were both very special people. I am glad they are back together like they belong. I am sure they are both smiling down on Thea now.
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December 1st, 2008, 08:29 PM
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I am so sorry that you and your family lost such a wonderful woman. But I am so happy that she is with your grandpa again.
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December 1st, 2008, 10:56 PM
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Kristi..I am so sorry..many prayers for your family. My MawMaw passed almost exaclty the same way. But she was givin the feeding tube..and it prolonged her misery. Its a horrible horrible disease..and I am just so sorry.

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December 2nd, 2008, 04:40 AM
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I am so sorry. That is a heartbreaking decision, but she is now in peace. Your grandma sounds like an amazing person. Now she is with your grandpa, and they are both watching over you and Thea. We will be praying for you and your family.
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