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February 6th, 2006, 10:44 AM
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I know it sounds silly, but I am afraid to tell my dr that the baby is moving (though he/she is moving like crazy) because I'm afraid of another m/c.

I have these thoughts that I'm going to say "yea, I feel it all the time" then have them do a test or something and say "no, you are wrong, there's no baby there"

Deep down inside I am so frightened of losing this baby....I've waited soooo long for it to happen and it would tear me to pieces if something were to happen now.

My last m/c the baby was 16wks when I lost it (no, we never knew the sex and didn't want to know afterwards). I'm now over 20 wks so I'm past that milestone.....but those afraid feelings seem to never go away (and it wont until I have my babe in my arms).
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February 6th, 2006, 10:49 AM
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I know it sounds silly, but I am afraid to tell my dr that the baby is moving (though he/she is moving like crazy) because I'm afraid of another m/c.

I have these thoughts that I'm going to say "yea, I feel it all the time" then have them do a test or something and say "no, you are wrong, there's no baby there"

Deep down inside I am so frightened of losing this baby....I've waited soooo long for it to happen and it would tear me to pieces if something were to happen now.

My last m/c the baby was 16wks when I lost it (no, we never knew the sex and didn't want to know afterwards). I'm now over 20 wks so I'm past that milestone.....but those afraid feelings seem to never go away (and it wont until I have my babe in my arms).[/b]
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February 6th, 2006, 12:32 PM
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My last m/c the baby was 16wks when I lost it (no, we never knew the sex and didn't want to know afterwards). I'm now over 20 wks so I'm past that milestone.....but those afraid feelings seem to never go away (and it wont until I have my babe in my arms).[/b]
I,also lost my baby at 16 wks. Plus, I also didn't want to know the sex. However, a few days after my d&c the Doc. called for something and said "she" instead of "the baby". She then proceeds to ask "you knew it was a girl, right?" Needless to say I was HEARTBROKEN. Anyway, I conceived about seven months after the d&c and had a "perfect" pg. I gave birth to a 9lb 13 oz little girl. I swear, she was a little bit bigger than she should have been, because she was making up for her sister we lost!
The reason I am telling you this, is because I just want to let you know that I understand your fears. But a healthy pg after a m/c IS possible. Try to be happy about the baby pings , pangs and movement you feel! Let that doc. know that you feel the baby! The fear will never go away, but at least you might enjoy this pg a little before it is time for you to welcome the little one into this world!
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February 6th, 2006, 03:31 PM
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Everytime I go to the doctor I hold my breath. I am just waiting for the news to come, no baby sorry. I too have waited a long time for this and I have to do a lot of positive self talk. I know this is not a rational fear, but it scares the heck of me anyway. hugs and blessings B
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February 7th, 2006, 04:48 AM
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I hate going to the Midwife's because I'm paranoid... yet I like it when the appt ends & all is well. I, too, was afraid to tell them yesterday that I feel movement, so when they asked I kind of stuttered and said " A little off and on".

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