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April 13th, 2009, 12:34 PM
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SOMEBODY MAKE ME STOP! I am still POAS. The one from today is *barely* darker than the one form yesterday, and it has me worried even though it wasn't even a full 24 hrs apart, and I know that my betas are probably still pretty low since I just got my first bfp. How about someone just put me under for the next 9 wks? That way I won't do things to unnecessarily worry myself.
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April 13th, 2009, 12:42 PM
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Oh honey, I think we all go through that. It's hard, because you're looking for a guarantee that you won't find.

But guess what, you got a line today. That means that you're still pregnant. And that's wonderful news.

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April 13th, 2009, 12:53 PM
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Yeah, I know, I still have a line, but since I made it to 10 1/2 wks last time, it isn't much consolation just yet. And this time 10 wks 4 d will fall on, of all days, my birthday. I hope I get a good bday present! I just hate worrying all the time and not being able to enjoy my pregnancy. Plus I feel like I am not giving Tanith my all, since I am worried all the time. Sorry for being so depressing.
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April 13th, 2009, 01:10 PM
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Nah, honey, it's normal. PAL is terrifying. Especially at the beginning when you're just stuck in limbo and there's not really a way to tell for sure what's going on.

And I know what you mean about not being able to give Tanith everything she needs. I felt so bad while I was pregnant with Patrick, since there were days I couldn't do anything but lay on the couch. I felt like I was depriving Erin of her mother. But Tanith is young enough that she won't really remember. Erin came through it without any damage.

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April 13th, 2009, 01:50 PM
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I felt the same hun, and still do. I pee'd on sticks everyday for about a week before I made myself stop. I still worry now. I dont think the worry stops when you are pregnant after a loss. It hasnt for me anyway
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April 13th, 2009, 03:15 PM
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I did it the other day...but I used and OPK- hows that for desperate I've had to really force myself to be positive even though it can really hard at times. I'm beyond scared something will happen but i also know that i have no control if it does so I need to make the effort to just enjoy everyday and cherish what i have now.
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April 13th, 2009, 06:08 PM
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If I had them I would use them. Trust me. I'm 17+ weeks pregnant and I want some confirmation all the time! I'm going for my big u/s on Thursday and I'm scared to death!
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April 13th, 2009, 08:07 PM
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I POAS soooooo many times after my BFP! I think everyone's right. We look for the guarantee because it's so scary to think of a loss. But, as my OB told me, hpts are an indicator that hCG is present in the urine. They aren't made to measure amounts. They also aren't reliable enough to use as comparisons. So, as long as a line is there...you're PG! Know that I'm thinking of you and saying a little prayer. Welcome to the worry of PAL. Luckily, these ladies are awesome and offer soooo much support!
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April 13th, 2009, 09:02 PM
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I was still POAS at 38 weeks pregnant!

Seriously.... somedays my line would be lighter than the day before... I think I POAS daily for about 30dpo. I do NOT suggest that to anyone...LOL I know how you feel though. It seems like a HPT is the only reassurance we can get sometimes in the begining. If you are going to keep POAS I strongly suggest trying to wait 3-4 days in between tests. Even then the darkness of the line can vary so much and has nothing to do with the well being of your bean. I hope the first trimester flies by for you and you can feel that baby kicking before you know it
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April 13th, 2009, 11:33 PM
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I have just now finally stopped POAS every week. Welcome to the worry!
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April 14th, 2009, 04:16 AM
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Oh I was doing that all last week... I was going crazy because they weren't getting darker fast enough. Finally I waited a few days and they definitely got darker!

This is SO hard, because we're all looking for some kind of guarantee, and there isn't any. Even now I'm still freaking out about everything. Logically I know it's silly, but the fear just overwhelms everything.
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April 14th, 2009, 04:44 AM
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(((HUGS)))
I POAS 15 times the first week after I got my BFP, then once a week until 12 wks. I did find out Dollar Test do get darker after week 7 with me. PAL is the scariest thing to go through, I can deal with all other complications with little fear but when it comes to the thought of my baby not making it, then I'm a wreck.
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April 14th, 2009, 10:56 AM
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I poas A LOT when I was in my first trimester......
it is normal !! PAL is so scary.....we wont judge ya for still being a poas addict ! lol
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