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May 13th, 2009, 06:58 PM
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Hi I'm Amanda (28) and DH is Michael (26). We are 5 weeks and 3 days pregnant with our first baby (hopefully) We lost a baby in Feb of this year after trying for a year to get pregnant. I was 12 weeks pregnant when I started having some bleeding and cramping I went in and they told us that the baby had quit growing at 8 weeks. I had to have a D & C the next morning. I was traumatized, as I'm sure everyone of you were as well. I never in a million years thought that we would get pregnant so fast this time but I'm so grateful that it happened quickly. The first five minutes after we found out I was ecstatic, that was very quickly followed by fear. I have been a nervous wreck ever since. If my symptoms are not present for more that an hour I start to freak out. I know that this is normal but I could really use some support. DH is an eternal optimistic person and he "just knows that this one is going to stick". I'm not quite there yet. I just want to be excited without having to be afraid that I'm getting my hopes up for no reason.
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May 14th, 2009, 12:54 AM
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and congrats on your pregnancy hun. Im sorry to hear of your loss

I can relate to your post, I probably posted someting very similar a couple of months ago. I still worry now and I am 21 weeks, I dont worry as much as I did in he early days but thr worry is still there. Pregnancy after loss/or multiple losses is very hard.Or at least I think it is, I also find it emotionally draining. The ladies here are great though, and I would have gone insane without them

I also used to freak out about my symptoms disappearing and stuff, but they always came back worse the next day . When my symptoms were not there I saw it as my body giving me a little break before it threw something else at me..lol.

I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months! x
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May 14th, 2009, 08:34 AM
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Hi and congrats!!

Your story is very similar to mine. I am sorry for your loss. I have been nervous and worried throughout this pregnancy. I can say the best thing that helped me was expressing my fears to my doctor. She was very responsive and has allowed me to come in weekly since my BFP for appt. They've checked my hormone levels on a regular basis, given me 4 sonos, and 2 exams. It sounds like an awful lot, but really has been a blessing for me (and DH who has to listen to me worry).
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May 14th, 2009, 09:09 AM
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Congrats on your pregnancy. What you are feeling it's normal we all been there, it's scary when you first find out that you are pg after a m/c, have you made your first appointment yet? Take it one day at the time and don't freak out about symptoms coming and going, it's normal-I know it's easier said than done. Dh was just like y our, he knew that this one was going to be ok and he was right, now I have a beautiful baby boy. We are here for you.
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May 14th, 2009, 10:17 AM
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Welcome and congratulations.
What you are feeling is completely normal, I know that first trimester for me was horrible. I spent the entire time worried that something would go wrong.
Please know that is does get easier as time goes on.
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May 14th, 2009, 12:00 PM
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Hi I'm Amanda (28) and DH is Michael (26). We are 5 weeks and 3 days pregnant with our first baby (hopefully) We lost a baby in Feb of this year after trying for a year to get pregnant. I was 12 weeks pregnant when I started having some bleeding and cramping I went in and they told us that the baby had quit growing at 8 weeks. I had to have a D & C the next morning. I was traumatized, as I'm sure everyone of you were as well. I never in a million years thought that we would get pregnant so fast this time but I'm so grateful that it happened quickly. The first five minutes after we found out I was ecstatic, that was very quickly followed by fear. I have been a nervous wreck ever since. If my symptoms are not present for more that an hour I start to freak out. I know that this is normal but I could really use some support. DH is an eternal optimistic person and he "just knows that this one is going to stick". I'm not quite there yet. I just want to be excited without having to be afraid that I'm getting my hopes up for no reason.
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I hate it when people say that!! My whole family says that alllll the time...I'm sorry but no one really KNOWS...you know??

I am so sorry for your loss, but glad to be able to congratulate you on another pregnancy! It's a scary scary time and I know we all wish we could go back to the days where you think you just get pregnant and then 9 months later along comes baby. I'll be keeping you in my t&ps!
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May 14th, 2009, 01:12 PM
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Oh Amanda!! Congratulations!! I'm so excited for you! TONS of sticky to you!!
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May 14th, 2009, 04:21 PM
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thank you everyone!!!! I really appreciate the support. I'm glad to know that everyone else feels/felt the same way. I woke up this morning with morning sickness and have been that way every since so that helps. My Dr. says if your feeling sick your more than likely doing great. I'm also completely exhausted but I'm happy as long as I feel some kind of symptoms. I'm looking forward to getting to know all of you.
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May 14th, 2009, 04:31 PM
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I am sorry for your loss and Congrats on your pregnancy!

I lost my first one after the baby stopped growing at 11-12 weeks. The only thing that kept me sane with this last pregnancy was renting a fetal doppler. I rented from BabyBeat. I could hear the HB starting around 7 weeks. It was sooo reassuring to be able to listen to it when I wasn't "feeling" pregnant.

PAL is a hard road...but sooooooooo worth it in the end. I hope the next 34 weeks fly by for you!
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On 1/31/12 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss
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