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May 15th, 2009, 05:58 PM
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I had a break down today. Yesterday was a great day, meaning that I was nauseated the whole entire day and my BBS hurt for most of the day, I was having my ovary cramps, and I was exhausted. Well this morning I woke up and I wasn't tired, my BBS didn't hurt and I wasn't nauseated. I kept waiting all day for my symptoms to start back up and they didn't. I was trying to keep my mind busy, but right before DH came home from work I lost it and cried for and hour and a half straight!! DH was great and he tried to rationalize with me that this doesn't mean that the baby is gone. I know that symptoms can come and go, but I wish that they were always here. I know that sounds crazy but my sanity would be so much better if they were. I work nights so during the day I just sleep or sit at home without a whole lot to do and my mind just wanders. I think the reason that I;m so scared is that the last pregnancy my symptoms just abruptly stopped and then 4 weeks later I found out that the baby had quit growing. I'm just terrified. Michael told me today to try and look at the positive that as far as we know right now we are pregnant. Only time and God will tell the rest. It helped a little. How do you get through this and still have your sanity?
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May 15th, 2009, 06:28 PM
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Fortunately, we have all been in the same boat and can relate. I also had a missed m/c, which I think is difficult because there were no signs that anything was wrong (I was even still nauseated, etc!) until I went to my first appt.

I think most of us on here have had breakdowns at some point, but there are lots of excellent examples here that there are lots of successful PAL babies

My recommendation is pretty much what your dh said...try to remember that for today, you ARE pregnant. Try to enjoy it, and take each day as it comes.

Please let us know if there's anything we can do!

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May 15th, 2009, 07:18 PM
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Sorry I can't help you with how to get through it because I feel the same. I STILL don't have symptoms and I worry daily. Thankfully I have an u/s in 4 days, do you have an appointment coming up?

I will give you this though!

I know you know symptoms coming and going are normal, but it doesn't mean it's not scary!
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May 15th, 2009, 07:18 PM
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Your hubby is right. That seems to be the most common advice that we give around here....try to focus on the fact that you are pregnant today. Also, I know it doesn't help too much to hear it, but, symptoms really do come and go. This pregnancy mine seemed to be on some kind of weird 3 day cycle...with one day of feeling crappy, one day of feeling great, and one day that was somewhere in between. I know how hard it is to keep it together...but stick around here and we'll help you out. Also, it sounds like you have a wonderfully supportive husband as well.
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May 15th, 2009, 09:08 PM
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Thank you for the advice!!! I really needed it today. I have my U.S. on Thursday and I'm trying to sane till then
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May 16th, 2009, 01:25 AM
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Brittanie gave me some similar advice when I posted when I was lossing my mind! She told me to remember that this second, minute, hour I AM still pregnant. And that helped me, alot.

My symptoms have come and gone this whole pregnancy, eventually I decided that my symptom free days were my body giving me a break before the symptoms came back. That seemed to help my mind relax too I hope you have a great u/s on Thursday hun, I cant wait to hear all about it
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May 18th, 2009, 05:48 AM
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I had the same thing happen to me. We had a missed m/c and my symptoms had "disappeared". With this PG I analyzed every symptom and feeling, convincing myself (more than once) that something was wrong. But, the advice given here is very good. Take it one day at a time. As time goes on, it DOES get a little easier. Good luck this week. KUP!
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May 18th, 2009, 08:02 AM
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I'm sorry your going through the feelings. I'm so glad you have such a wonderful and caring husband. My symptoms didn't come until about week 10 or so. Felt fine until then and didn't think I was pregnant. I hope the ultrasound helps ease your mind. One day at a time.
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May 18th, 2009, 08:11 AM
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HUGS Amanda, try to stay positive and focus on taking things day by day. I'll echo Melanie in that with my loss ALL of my symptoms were still present (and i'd continue to need m/s meds for almost a week after my loss) and i had no signs of the impending m/c....so signs (or lack thereof) don't necessarily mean things are going well or badly with your pregnancy.

Getting through the 1st appt does help, and I'll be praying for you on Thur that everything goes perfectly and you get some much needed reassurance. HUGS
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May 18th, 2009, 09:29 AM
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i remember going threw that too. i was taking pregnancy test till i was 3 months;(
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May 18th, 2009, 10:27 AM
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I agree with the other ladies. I hope that on Thursday you see that beautiful baby and hb. I can't wait to hear all about it. WE are here for you anytime.
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May 18th, 2009, 12:33 PM
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Brittanie gave me some similar advice when I posted when I was lossing my mind! She told me to remember that this second, minute, hour I AM still pregnant. And that helped me, alot.
Yep, that's my advice. That's how I got through both subsequent pregnancies. You have to take it a minute at a time sometimes. Sometimes it's easier and you take it day by day.

With Patrick I woke up one morning suddenly feeling great and stopped throwing up. That's unusual for me, because with both Cora and Erin I threw up the ENTIRE time. I didn't throw up again for 2 months (nice to have a little break, lol. It's how I knew he was a boy). It's so easy to be scared like that.

Keep yourself busy, and find time to meditate/relax and think about positive things. Give yourself some positive feedback.
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