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June 5th, 2009, 02:27 PM
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My first pregnancy after my loss. I lost my first baby at 17 weeks, a little girl. It was the hardest thing I've ever been through and now here I am barely pregnant again and it is SOO hard to be calm and not freak. I feel normal, have symptoms just scared. Praying really hard for a healthy baby. The anxiety never goes away does it?
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June 5th, 2009, 09:13 PM
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As you already know, we have very similar stories. The anxiety will be better at times and worse at others. I spent the first 13 weeks just holding my breath and praying. Every Dr's appointment was so hard to go to. Finally I broke down and rented a doppler (after I was sure I could hear the HB) and that has done wonders!!! I listen to the HB at least 2x's a day (but not obsessively- usually in the morning and just before bed). You will get to that point soon, but until then I will be thinking about you and praying for you!! I am so happy you are pregnant again!
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June 5th, 2009, 09:48 PM
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Yay! You're here! I'm so glad! Heather is right... the anxiety will be worse at times than others. But, you'll find that as you progress, things will get a little easier. The ladies on this board have been remarkable. They have listened and they are a wealth of knowledge and support. Plus, you'll know a bunch of them from TTCAL, so I hope you feel comfortable venting, asking questions, posting, etc...
I am soooo excited for you! Congratulations on your new little miracle. I'll say a little prayer for you to have a happy and healthy nine months. And, if you need anything, we're here.
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June 8th, 2009, 08:32 AM
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Welcome and congrats! Well I can't say that it goes away, I think I was anxious until Alex was born. What I can say is that it gets easier with each milestones. The girls here are wonderful and extremely supportive.
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June 8th, 2009, 10:01 AM
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im sorry for your loss but congrats on your pregnancy.
i wish i could say the fear goes away. i thought i would feel better after passing the stage i had my losses but sadly that hasnt happened. i am 34 weeks and still have the fears. they are not as strong as they used to be but certainly still there.
thankfully when things get too much i have these wonderful ladies to turn to for love and support
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June 8th, 2009, 02:46 PM
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Congratulations on your pregnancy, that is so exciting!!! I am very sorry for your loss.
being pg after a loss is so hard, and your perspective on your pg is very different. I had quite a bit of anxiety too, but for me it got better after my loss date, and after having good ultrasounds at 20 weeks and 24 wks. Talking about my fears really helped too, and the girls on this site are the best for being very kind and supportive. Can't wait to get to know you more.
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June 8th, 2009, 03:10 PM
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Hi, welcome and congrats on your little one!

I understand your fears too. I also rented a doppler and it has been so great. I have good moments and fearful ones, and the fearful ones just make me bring out the doppler. Until I was at that point I did worry all the time...I guess it will never go away.

I know my doctor was really good about giving me lots of appts. during my first few weeks. That really helped me. Also hitting my loss date and passing it was a big help. Now I'm waiting for movement...SO can't wait for that!!

Many thoughts and prayers with you!
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June 8th, 2009, 03:31 PM
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Hi Sue! Big hugs! Welcome over to this board! Nothing will make you feel totally better until you hold a live full term squirming baby, so for now all we can offer is an ear (eye? ) and cyber hugs.
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June 8th, 2009, 05:13 PM
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I just want to say I lost my 2nd baby today
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June 8th, 2009, 06:04 PM
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I am so sorry. Words are not enough. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs
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June 8th, 2009, 06:07 PM
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no Sue. O God, this is so cruel. I wish you all the strength in the world. Please find yourself a miscarriage support forum. This saved my life, literally. I was so depressed, and still am riddled with anxiety and negativity in fear of losing this one too. You have to surround yourself with women who understand you and every emotion you will go through. I am sooo soory. xoxoxoxo
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June 8th, 2009, 06:15 PM
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No F***in Way! Life is so friggin' unfair sometimes! I'm so sorry! Big hugs!
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June 9th, 2009, 05:11 AM
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Im so sorry hun
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June 9th, 2009, 05:40 AM
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