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  #1  
March 15th, 2010, 06:54 PM
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Hello. My name is Brandi and I have a beautiful 3.5 year old named Q. DH and I have been TTC for almost a year. I am new to this board and would appreciate some advice.
I had a miscarriage in early December. I was only 6 weeks along when I had the miscarriage. I am about 4.5 weeks along now and am spotting bright red. Not a lot though. I spotted with my first child, but it seemed to be earlier on and only brown. I am not cramping, but feel some tugging on my left hand side. I am terrified that I am having another miscarriage. I am going to call the dr tomorrow, but I know what they will say, that they can not do anything, that its nothing. They did that last time and I lost the baby. I don't know what to do. I keep praying that everything will be fine. I do not know if I can go through this again. Please help.

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March 15th, 2010, 09:02 PM
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I'm sending T&P for you and the baby. I really hope that the spotting isn't a bad thing!
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March 15th, 2010, 09:15 PM
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Brandi, I'm very very new here and I'm not clear on the etiquette of response or how to show compassion to you but please accept what I can offer.

I know you are scared, because this is scary. And you know what loss is like. And I'm never going to say "What will be will be, it's gods will -" or any of that other insanity that the nurses say over the telephone when you call terrified. Let's start with this. Bleeding, bright red bleeding IS scary. But it could be nothing. It does happen at times. Just try to hold on, ok? Imagine me, imagine anyone here holding your hand, holding you and saying it's going to be ok. You are going to get through this. If the dr says "theres nothing they can do but wait and see, that doesn't mean you can't go home, put your feet up and try to let whatever issues need to resolve, resolve.

It may be cold comfort to you but I red spotting at 6, significant bleeding (a LOT of bleeding, pouring down my leg blood clot bleeding) at both 8 weeks and 13 weeks. All three times I got the "gods will" talk, and the last two I was in an ER with the word miscarriage on my intake / chart - and you know what, that "miscarriage" is sleeping about 20 feet away from me right now, a beautiful BIG healthy 3yr old girl. So try to hold on and see where this scary path leads. And take it easy. I know all the boards and websites say you can do it all, but I'm old schooling it. Granny says: Feet up, minimize the stairs, no s*x, no gym until that little baby takes root. Please update (us). Be well, big big big BIG hugs.
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March 15th, 2010, 09:41 PM
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debbeblue I think you said it wonderfully!

I will just add that I am thinking about you and hoping it's nothing. Spotting and bleeding can be ok in pregnancy. I know anyone who has been through a loss would rather not see that kind of thing but it can still result in a healthy pregnancy.

Take some deep breaths and relax. Easier said that done BUT no matter what know that we are all here rooting for you!
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March 16th, 2010, 05:44 AM
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Thank you all so much. Your encouraging words are so helpful. It is nice hearing them from people who truly understand. I am following the excellent advice, staying home from work today and taking it easy. It is so hard for me to not do anything, but this little baby is more important than checking something off my to-do list.

I took another HPT this morning and it was positive! I am going to cling to all the good news I can.

Thanks again!
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March 16th, 2010, 05:52 AM
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I hope everything is fine.
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March 16th, 2010, 07:09 AM
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I know how scary it is...I really hope everything turns out OK. Just take it easy today...hopefully the spotting will stop. Keep us posted. HUGS.
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March 16th, 2010, 07:51 AM
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I know it is so scary! Your doc office would probably draw HCG and see what your levels are then do another draw to make sure they are rising. It will at least give you a little bit of an answer. *hugs!* you are in my t&p!!
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March 16th, 2010, 07:53 AM
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I've been spotting (yes, even bright red) with this baby since the beginning. My ob put me on progesterone suppositories after my levels came back low - that seemed to help. You may want to try giving your OB a call and have them run your blood work - let them know your concern. I know how scary it is. T&P for you!!!
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March 16th, 2010, 01:50 PM
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I am going in for blood work tomorrow. They asked me to go in tomorrow and Thursday. Hopefully I will hear some good news on Friday.
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March 16th, 2010, 02:03 PM
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March 16th, 2010, 02:10 PM
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I bled with clots...and not tiny ones with this pregnancy. With my sucessful pregnancies I always bled/spotted. With my losses the HPT went negative and then a few days later I would lose the baby.

If your test is still dark, that is a great sign. Try and relax. There really isn't anything the doc can do to save a failing pregnancy but they can do a lot to reassure you it isn't failing. They can run betas (bloodwork) to make sure your number are rising properly and then if they are they can do an ultrasound soon. I saw the HB with this bean at 5w6d, with Matthew at 6w3d.

Blood is scary, but it doesn't have to mean the end Chin up and stay strong.

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March 16th, 2010, 02:57 PM
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Wishing you and baby well. I hope everything works out and you get good blood results back.
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March 16th, 2010, 03:56 PM
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I really think it's cruel to spot after losses! - I know too well! I have lost 2 babies - this is my third pregnancy - and I spotted in this one too - at about 8 or 9 weeks. SO far so good - I have a big round belly that is kicking away as I type. I am hoping and praying that this one is a sticky bean for you! KUP ok?
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March 16th, 2010, 05:14 PM
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Can they at least check your HCG levels to see if they are doubling like they should? That's what my OB did with me for all 3 miscarriages. I actually have had spotting with all of my pregnancies (and I currently have a 2 year old and am 25 weeks pregnant!). So try to relax and take it easy (easier said than done... I know). I really hope everything turns out ok! Stick baby stick!
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March 16th, 2010, 10:34 PM
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I don't think I could say anything better than what the ladies have already posted.
I will be keeping you and your bean in my thoughts. Try to stay calm and take it easy...and please keep us posted. We all understand this fear and will be here for support.....many hugs and best wishes to you....and lots of sticky dust !
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March 17th, 2010, 03:18 PM
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I had my blood drawn today. The nurse told me they should have my results tomorrow(the blood work is done at a separate lab). I cried the entire time. I hate crying in public, I am not a good crier. I am still hoping for good news though. Thanks everyone for your supportive words. It truly does help.
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March 17th, 2010, 03:20 PM
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Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
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fingers crossed here as well.
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