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  #1  
March 17th, 2010, 11:29 PM
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Tomorrow (in 15 hours) is my big 20 (ish) week U/S.
I am feeling really.. anxious.
I have been feeling the baby quite frequently but of course my scared part of my mind says, "What if something is terribly wrong with the baby? "What happens if the baby is dead?" Etc, Etc...
I have had my quad screening, and I never got a call back (my doc said she would talk about it in a month if it was normal, otherwise I'd hear a week after if the results weren't normal) and so I figure all that is well.
So what's my problem??
Shouldn't I be bouncing off the walls excited?
I was totally excited before tonight.
(I'm feeling baby kick right now, btw)
Sigh...
I guess it feels like so much pressure for it to be alright because we have told pretty much everyone about this baby. With two losses, one in which we told people about, it has just been... I dunno, I feel like in my heart I know things are going to be alright, but I can't seem to get the dark side of my mind around that.
Ah, this is just another venting thread from me. Sorry ladies.. I can't talk to DH about it because he just says "everything is alright" and I know he believes that.. But he also said the same thing when I first started spotting on our first and went to the ER and found we lost the baby..
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Sorry, any advice, hugs, etc would be helpful and appreciated.

*UPDATE* It's a boy! And as healthy as can be. Measuring right where he should; great heartbeat, looks fantastic. Thanks ladies for supporting me through this scary day!
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March 18th, 2010, 01:24 AM
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what's wrong with you, is that you're normal

It's totally normal to feel this way hun, I know that before mine I was a complete wreck - and that although I was feeling Emersyn moving a lot, I was convinced that she'd have a fatal defect of some sort... and it was awful! The anxiety really is horrible!!!!

Chances of something being wrong are very slim - just try to remember that, okay? I know that it 's easier said than done... and if someone had said it to me before my big u/s, I'd have slapped them upside the head.... yet I find myself saying it to others

GOOD LUCK. I can't wait to hear how it goes - and to find out if your bean is pink or blue!
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March 18th, 2010, 04:22 AM
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It is normal for a guy to be able to feel more positive - any concerns I have my dh will just reassure me... mostly it's the reassurance I'm looking for so it's good, but you should be able to share your fears too.

I was nervous at my scan too because I hadn't felt the baby much at all, but all was well and the scan was wonderful - anyway it's really positive you're feeling the baby move a lot and I hope it is a wonderful scan for you! KUP!
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March 18th, 2010, 06:13 AM
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Yes you are totally normal!!!! Big hugs! I was scared for my 20 week too. Didn't realize how much I hadn't 'counted' on anything until after my midwife called and told me everything was good! Then I got super excited - and then like 3 days later freaked out - because OMG I am really going to have a baby - I don't know how to take care of one of those!!!! LOL.
So yes - you are normal - and you know what else? - chances are great that everything is going to be FANTASTIC I'll be looking here for pics ok? and big big
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March 18th, 2010, 08:00 AM
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Friday, when I had my u/s, I thought I was going to have a heart attack. My heart was pounding so loudly and about jumping out of my chest. I don't even want to know what my BP was. I was so freakin' anxious I can't even tell you...You can feel your baby and there is every chance that things are going perfectly in there. It's totally normal. Completely normal. You are normal!!! But I know this won't help with your anxiety anyway...not till you see your little one (girl, I think) But know that we are here for you...vent away...and I'm giving you big, big hugs to get you through the wait.

And you better update about a minute after you find out!
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March 18th, 2010, 08:17 AM
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I remember trying to get to u/s appointments exactly on time (not early at all) so that my time in the waiting room would be shorter. Sometimes I felt like I needed a paper bag to breathe into because I was going to hyperventilate. So I think being anxious is pretty normal when you've been through an u/s that didn't go well.

Your DH's reaction sounds pretty familiar too. I think they are so "hard wired" to make everything okay, that they don't know what else to say. I imagine it would be a pretty helpless feeling to see your wife suffer and not be able to help at all (while trying to be "strong" for her and pushing aside your own feelings about the losses). I eventually just told my DH that it made it worse for him to nonchalantly say "it'll be okay" when he didn't KNOW that. He just needed to say, "I understand why you are scared and I hope it will be okay, but I'm here for you no matter what happens."

Good luck today and please keep us updated when you get back. I hope it goes fabulously!
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March 18th, 2010, 08:26 AM
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You are completely normal. I am a wreck before every appt and I'm sure I am going to be even more so at my u/s in a couple of weeks. I can't wait to hear good news from you after your u/s.
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March 18th, 2010, 09:08 AM
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Thinking of you and baby! I hope you have a wonderful ultrasound!

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March 18th, 2010, 10:29 AM
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Thanks you guys *hugs*
I always feel better after reading your posts.
Well, it's less than 4 hours from now.
I'm trying to find things to do with myself.
Last night I spent 2 hours researching my family tree! lol
So I'm gonna go get something to eat (and take a long time to make it lol) and hopefully time will pass soon enough so I can just get in and SEE her/him so I can see that the heart is at least beating and little one is moving..
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March 18th, 2010, 07:49 PM
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Yeah for a Healthy baby boy Glad everything went well.
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March 18th, 2010, 09:42 PM
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Kimberly!! CONGRATS!!! A BOY! WhoooHooo and a GREAT appt!!! YEA!!!
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March 19th, 2010, 01:01 AM
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Congrats on a boy and a great scan!!
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March 19th, 2010, 06:52 AM
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Congrats on your baby boy!!
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March 19th, 2010, 06:56 AM
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March 19th, 2010, 07:31 AM
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March 19th, 2010, 08:55 AM
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YAY!!!! Baby Boy!!!! Congrats!!!! and extra of joy!
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March 19th, 2010, 09:09 AM
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Congratulations, honey!!!!!!!!!! I'm so happy for you!! Welcome to team blue
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