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I had to tell some people I work with right away, because I work in a lab and there's some chemicals I needed to avoid.. plus... leaving for so many doctor's appointments those first few weeks made it impossible to keep it a secret. But, I didn't tell my boss till 15 weeks. At that point, I was more than obvious, and I think she knew it anyway. I felt bad about not telling her earlier, but I was just so consumed by fear and I kept waiting. I just didn't want other people to start talking to her about it before I did.
I didn't bother telling anyone else at work. They've all looked at me funny at one point or another, or I'd get cornered in the bathroom. Eventually, they just started congratulating me without asking if I was pregnant, and commented that it's been obvious... for months. I think it's hard to hide it sometimes, and people probably already suspect it - but besides telling your boss, it's up to you whether or not you feel OK actually telling other people, or just letting them guess for a while!
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I told my Director last week. I felt it was the right thing to do since I had to take off to see the Hematolgoist, OB x2, and the Endocrinolgist and I couldn't get them on the same days. That being said, my Director is very kind and understanding. She will keep it to herself and would be totally supportive in any situation.
I work in a fairly small, close knit firm - about 70 people and I am very social, so I am sure they will figure it out quickly, but I plan on avoiding/deny until 2nd tri (June can't get her fast enough). I don't think any of them will come right out and ask me, most have asked if we are going to start trying again. I just say (twice now) - Yes and leave it at that. They don't need to know we were all ready succesfull
Thank goodness pashmina scarves are in style - they hid all sorts of things
I actually told my boss right away. She is great and has supported me through 2 of my loss and the birth of my DS. She was very excited for us and very understanding about my doctors appointments.
As for telling people at work...I just let them figure it out on their own. There are 21 people in my department and word spreads pretty quick. And since I already have a bump some people have asked and I just say "we will see" and smile. They all pretty much know now though since I ran out of a meeting yesterday with my hand over my mouth...darn m/s!
I told my boss this morning. I knew I had to soon because I want to stop worrying every morning about what I am wearing and how much I am showing. He was shocked but very supportive. Apparently he didn't even notice that I had been at many many doctors appointments in the past couple of months. We still have 6 months to figure it out but he was fairly concerned about finding my replacement for when I am gone (in Canada we get a year of maternity leave supplemented by government benefits and I will be taking advantage of that year).
The rest of work will find out when they find out... either through the grapevine or when they figure it out on their own.
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I had to tell my boss at 14 weeks because I was already showing. Some other people already knew. One of my co-workers told that she knew I was pg because of all the headaches I was having every week and having to stay home.
I had to tell the ladies I worked with when I got BFP... since I couldn't be in certain rooms with patients. everything was on the quiet side.. until we found out it was twins, with HB's... and I had made it farther than I had... Than POW... it flew like wild fires!!
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I work for my family's business, so my bosses all knew immediately.
Coworkers I was close with I probably told as soon as I was showing. However, the staff I work with (in our call center) did not get the privilege of being told. None them said a single word when Ethan was stillborn. I've known many of these staff members for years and no one could stumble out a single "I'm sorry for your loss" (the rest of the company was awesome).