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November 20th, 2010, 01:05 AM
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Since I've been pregnant, it seems like all sorts of people around me are experiencing loss... and I say this in between tears but every time I feel this sick and twisted thought of "Thank God it wasn't me this time." Then I just feel constricted with guilt, like I shouldn't do anything because karma is a you-know-what and what if that thought leads to something terrible happening? My mind can barely handle all the thoughts that spin around it... and I just hope that maybe I'm not alone and maybe, just maybe, there really isn't anything wrong with having these thoughts...
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November 20th, 2010, 05:33 AM
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Of course theres nothing wrong with feeling this way! You have every right to feel lucky. It doesn't sound like your wishing others harm just being grateful that it isn't happening to you. I hope you can work out your guilt because I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about.
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November 20th, 2010, 10:01 AM
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I have been feeling this way too. My Sister-in-law was about 2-3 weeks behind me and she miscarried at 10 weeks... I feel so guilty everytime I'm around her... I had a friend who was expecting a few weeks after one of my losses and I still feel a little sad when I her little boy... I don't like making anyone feel that way...
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November 20th, 2010, 05:23 PM
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Of course theres nothing wrong with feeling this way! You have every right to feel lucky. It doesn't sound like your wishing others harm just being grateful that it isn't happening to you. I hope you can work out your guilt because I don't think you have anything to feel guilty about.
Thanks! I definitely would never want anything like this to ever happen to anyone I know, but I guess I just never can make the connection that maybe I'm just appreciating being lucky...

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I have been feeling this way too. My Sister-in-law was about 2-3 weeks behind me and she miscarried at 10 weeks... I feel so guilty everytime I'm around her... I had a friend who was expecting a few weeks after one of my losses and I still feel a little sad when I her little boy... I don't like making anyone feel that way...
My sister was 2 weeks ahead of me and miscarried at 5 weeks, literally just days after we'd found out I was pregnant as well. Now a friend of mine from another forum who is on here who was about 2-3 weeks behind me miscarried and I feel terrible and in the same thought that I feel lucky I worry that they are okay and aren't unhappy.
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November 21st, 2010, 12:14 AM
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I think before going through a mc, I didn't appreciate being pregnant and just making it another week. I never want anyone to loose a baby, but I now appreciate being pregnant more. Every day I thank God that I haven't miscarried. It doesn't mean that I'm glad someone else has. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
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November 21st, 2010, 04:50 PM
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I agree - being thankful is nothing to feel guilty about. hugs!!!
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November 22nd, 2010, 07:33 PM
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I agree with the others. I thank God everyweek. I don't believe you're wishing harm or anything on others, just being grateful that you are your baby are remaining healthy. :-)
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