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That must suck. I'm sure they don't mean anything by it, they are just focused on the kids who are still with you in body, and don't remember Cora in the special way that you do as her mama. But I can totally understand your reaction, it completely makes sense and you have every right to feel that way. HUGS!!
It's not really the same, but I've had people say "sorry about your miscarriage" about my ectopic, and it always angers me, because yes it was that, but it was a lot more than that too, it was a really close brush with my own death. These tend to be people who (I think) probably never got the whole gory story though. It's just people not really having a clue what you went through and how it still affects you, I guess is the common thread here.
It's really hard to hear that. Johnathan is my 9th child...not my 7th. I hate saying he's my 7th...or I have 7 kids...but if I say I have 9th I have to explain about Mason and Kaydence...and then watch them look at me in pity, apologize and awkwardly change the subject, or ask questions. It's been like that since Mason died...but now that I have a big family it's like, people don't think it's as big of a deal that I lost 2.
Wife to David
Mommy to Mady, Connor, Taylor, Grier, Chandler, Evalyn, Bryce and Jude
2 sweet angels born straight into Jesus' arms:
Mason Charles (1/3/05) and Kaydence Faith (4/30/10)
I'm sure they don't mean anything by It so just correct them. When they say "oh baby #3" say yes, here on earth. That will make them stop and think about what they said.
We have only told complete strangers so when they ask what number pregnancy this is, I say "this will be my 7th baby on earth". It's just to much to explain I've been pregnant 10 times already.
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I did correct one person, and he felt really bad. He was actually one of the few friends who got to hold Cora. But they moved away and we haven't seen him in years, and so he probably didn't think about it.