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Hi everyone my name is Jessica. I got my BFP yesterday and am over the moon. Last November I had a medical nessacry abortion. Although I am terrified that something will be wrong again but I am still enjoying every bit of this pregnancy even the ugly parts. I can't wait to get to know everyone more.
Around a few weeks before my devastating news my best friend had a miscarrage, They have been activly ttc since the loss. DF and I agreed to keep this pregnancy a secret until after the first trimester screen but I feel so bad not telling her. She is also helping me plan our wedding because I am clueless and she just got married i have no clue what to do.
Jessica -- welcome! Happy and Health 9 months to you.
As for your friend -- Would you have told her you are pregnant if she hadn't had a miscarriage? Have you told other people or are you keeping everything a secret. IMO, if you are only keeping it a secret from her, I think you should tell her. Just make sure it is a time when she can react any way she wants/needs to and let her react to the news. If she is really close to you and you have told others that aren't so close, I think she would be more hurt by you keeping it from her.
We haven't really told anyone, we live away from most of our friends the only people that do know are a couple we know that live local (they know incase i need help with Sara or something goes wrong), I have told my sister because i know she won't say anything and an old co worker that comforted me for hours when i found out about the last baby. Other then that we are the only other ones that know
Hi Sarah!!! Congrats on Evan!!!!!!!! Looks like he's got some good lungs on him, haha. You need to post an update here!
Hi and welcome, Jessica! H&H 9 months to you! And I happen to agree with Sarah, just tell your friend at the same time you normally would... it's been several months and she knows that you've also gone through TTC after a loss, so hopefully that will lessen the blow. It really depends on her and the place she's at, you should give her the space to react however she wants, but I think overall you don't want her to feel like she's less of your friend and confidant just because of her prior loss. You know her better than we do, so go with your gut.