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  #1  
March 21st, 2011, 03:00 PM
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I just this Saturday found out that I am pregnant. I had my second miscarriage back in December and all I've thought about since then is trying again. So when I got my BFP I was totally unprepared for my reaction. Instead of overjoyed, I just felt horrified. I've been fretting all weekend, I've barely slept, I can't eat. I'm just terrified it's going to go wrong again. I didn't expect to feel like this and I don't know how to deal. I can't see a Dr for at least 3 more weeks. Any advice?
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March 21st, 2011, 03:02 PM
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My advice is just keep posting in here! How far along are you? When is your due date? With your previous losses is your doctor going to do betas?

((Hugs)) It is scary. I have been scared on and off a thousand times a day.
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March 21st, 2011, 03:11 PM
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With this pregnancy, we had been trying for a few months. )I had a missed m/c last March.) So, I was shocked to get my BFP and instead of being instanly elated, I was a hot mess. LOL I was crying thinking of all the things that could go wrong. But within a day or two, I got so excited and happy. I still have fears. We all do. But when that happens, I just post here and the ladies talk to me until I'm calmer. This is a great place to be!!

By the way, congrats on your BFP. And welcome!! Hope you have a marvelous 9 months!!
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March 21st, 2011, 03:31 PM
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It's normal to have those feelings. I would definitely say that my first few weeks, the predominant emotions were terror, horror, nervousness, and overwhelmedness... with some temporary relief and excitement if/when I got good news at the doctor's office. As it I got further along, I got more positive and less anxious. I was incredibly excited when I first heard the heartbeat, and when I first saw a face with a nose and everything on the ultrasound. But my first thought was definitely "oh no, I'm so afraid of this going wrong again"

I hope everything goes wonderfully for you with this pregnancy!!!
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March 21st, 2011, 04:41 PM
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Welcome and congratulations!
It is scary. But we have each other to help get through it. You will see us have crazies and know its normal and feel better. I hope you start feeling better soon.
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March 21st, 2011, 04:56 PM
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Thank you for all your kind replies I have no idea how far along I am, I just got a BFP this Saturday and my period was due around about Sat/Sun/Monday, so I'm probably right around four weeks. I can't take any time off work to get Betas done, but to be honest I don't think I would anyway, as I think that will only make me more anxious and prone to analyse every. little. detail!
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March 21st, 2011, 06:33 PM
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What was the first day of your last period?
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March 21st, 2011, 06:37 PM
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It was February 16th, but I don't have regular cycles at all, so I'm just guessing my period was due around this weekend sometime. I will probably wait until I get past what I estimate the 6 week mark before I go in to the Dr. My first loss was at 11 weeks, and my second loss was at 6, but I didn't miscarry until almost three weeks later. I don't think I'm going to be able to relax through this whole pregnancy!
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March 21st, 2011, 06:40 PM
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You are due the day before me!

Based on a last menstrual period of February 16, 2011:

Your due date is November 23, 2011.



Your baby was conceived around March 02, 2011.

Your first trimester begins February 16, 2011.
Your second trimester begins May 12, 2011.
Your third trimester begins August 25, 2011.

There are 247 days left until your due date.

You are 4 weeks and 5 days pregnant.
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Do not ever give up hope...




Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.



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March 21st, 2011, 06:46 PM
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I am sorry you are so scared! It is understandable though... pregnancy after loss is super hard. I hope this turns out to be a great pregnancy for you!

On a side note, I can't help but notice you have a thing for beagles.... I have a Beagle/Jack Russell Terrier mix! We love him!
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March 22nd, 2011, 09:02 AM
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It is totally normal to feel the way you do. I hope that posting here helps!

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March 22nd, 2011, 03:36 PM
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Stargatemommy, yes I joined JM back when I was expecting my dd, and we had a beagle. Sadly she is no longer with us But I still love me some beagles!

thank you all again for being so reassuring. I think I will hang around here for a while if that is okay, I am not confident enough to join a due date club just yet.

Re- the due date, my cycles are usually on the longer side, but I will go with November 23rd for now
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March 22nd, 2011, 03:42 PM
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I felt the same way as you when I found out about this pregnancy. It was my first cycle after my second loss, and we had decided to take a break from actively trying for a few months, but we got this surprise and I sort of freaked out. Keeping myself distracted with talking about things besides pregnancy helped. I've done a lot of reading over the past few weeks. I also opted not to get betas done, because those only freaked me out more in the past. My OB got me scheduled for an appointment about two weeks after my BFP because he knew I had been through recent losses and would be anxious to get a ultrasound. I didn't join my DDC until after I saw the hb on an ultrasound, and I'm glad I waited because reading about others losses would have just made me more nervous.

It is so difficult to be pregnant after loss. Just take it a day at a time. Good luck to you!
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