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  #1  
May 16th, 2011, 11:32 AM
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Assuming we all survive the anxiety of a pregnancy after a loss, will you have more? My dh has been saying we were done for so long that yesterday he shocked me by saying 10 was a good even number. He wasn't talking 10 in the family, he was talking 10 kids. I about fell out of my chair. I'm getting too old for this. I keep saying I need to see how this one goes first but honestly, I just don't know. How about you?
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May 16th, 2011, 11:41 AM
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nope this is deffo our last!
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May 16th, 2011, 12:04 PM
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YUP, I really mean it this time...my last. Im 40, and 6 is plenty for me, lol.....3 boys, 3 girls....what more could I ask for?
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May 16th, 2011, 12:12 PM
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We are definitely not done... but this is our first We have always wanted 3 or 4 kids, and since we've struggled so much to get and stay pregnant, I have really been thinking about never preventing again... we'll see how I feel later, though Either way, we're not done any time soon.
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May 16th, 2011, 12:21 PM
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I'm done and getting my tubes tied as quickly as I can after having this baby. (In fact, it's in my chart that if for some reason I need a C-section, to tie my tubes then!!!) Two is more than enough for me. I'm thankful for what I have, and don't want to tempt fate. I think one of each is perfect for us!!
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May 16th, 2011, 12:30 PM
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I`m only 21 so YES i want more children lol, i`d like a girl next, lets hope
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May 16th, 2011, 12:34 PM
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We're talking about one more after this one.
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May 16th, 2011, 12:42 PM
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This is it for us (assuming we have a baby at the end). Not sure what we're doing to prevent more babies but we both only want 2.
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May 16th, 2011, 01:41 PM
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We are both still young (24 and 25) however I believe in my heart this is our last. We've been together 9 years, and always only wanted 2 kids and wanted them young. DH says that if this one is a boy he'd want a third to try for a girl, but I keep telling him that I'm done. Even if we could guarantee that our next would be a girl, I still wouldn't want to do it for the simple fact that I only want two kids!! I don't mind if I have two boys and no girls! It will have it's benefits So only wanting two kids no matter what, coupled with the fact that I don't want to go through this pregnancy anxiety again, I'm 99.99999% sure we are done And we will be making that decision permanent at 30 if we still feel the same way at that time.
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May 16th, 2011, 01:46 PM
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We are done this time. If i have a c-section it's snip snip cause i can't do this again or daddy but something.
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May 16th, 2011, 01:50 PM
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I'm done Not only will this be our 5th living child, my husband is going to be 39 when this baby is born and i don't think he wants to have children in his 40's, but also the stress and all the high risk things that i'm going through is too much to do it again...I'd love to have another girl, but this is it, and I guess things are the way they were ment to be...I just hope i'll come to terms with this being my last baby.
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May 16th, 2011, 02:05 PM
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We are definitely not done... but this is our first We have always wanted 3 or 4 kids, and since we've struggled so much to get and stay pregnant, I have really been thinking about never preventing again... we'll see how I feel later, though Either way, we're not done any time soon.
completely... we won't be preventing very hard from the get-go, and I want to start actively trying again as soon as this baby starts to wean (knock on wood that all goes well). I turn 30 soon and want to have more babies ASAP, and I know that with one fallopian tube it will take longer.
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May 16th, 2011, 02:11 PM
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This is our last. I would love more but the reality is that DH and I don't want to go through the first 20 weeks again. Until we had the anatomy scan and started feeling movement I just couldn't feel safe. Even now I have moments. DH is getting snipped shortly after this baby arrives. Even if baby doesn't make it (I hate thinking that way) we won't try for more. We can't fit more into our truck LOL. So 2 girls and a boy is it for us. I think its perfect. My middle child being the only boy will help him not feel like the middle child I hope. Plus 5 year age gap between my DS and this baby should make life interesting . Wow this got long sorry.
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May 16th, 2011, 02:38 PM
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This is probably not our last. I don't know if I will be pregnant again or if it will be through adoption yet. I honestly wouldn't mind going through pregnancy again...anxiety and all. It has actually made my normal day to day depression/anxiety much better and I have been able to be off of my medications. But, we just don't know.
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May 16th, 2011, 04:08 PM
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This is going to be the end of the baby train for us. Assuming we're holding a precious bundle at the end of this, then I'll be happy to never TTC again. I'll be glad to never be nauseous and throwing up for weeks on end again...I'll be happy to never have to have all these worries and sleepless nights and nightmares! I USED to want 4...but the other thing is our age. I am 33 now and hubby is 48 now. If he were younger MAYBE I'd think of one more just prior to 35...
BUT, my doctor also scared me at our appointment today, saying how with my first two (at age 27 and 30) I had a much smaller risk of a baby with Down's Syndrome. NOT what I needed to say, even if I know that to be true now.

So, I think we're about 98.9% sure we're done. We don't believe in surgery for birth control...long story...but barring a MAJOR HUGE surprise...done. hahaha
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May 16th, 2011, 04:13 PM
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completely... we won't be preventing very hard from the get-go, and I want to start actively trying again as soon as this baby starts to wean (knock on wood that all goes well). I turn 30 soon and want to have more babies ASAP, and I know that with one fallopian tube it will take longer.
It may not take that long. I have been pregnant 3x since my ectopic, and each time I got pregnant our first cycle of trying.

If this baby survives, we are done. I just don't think I can keep going through this. My anxiety is off the charts and getting worse. It's really too bad because I am sad about the age gap between my children.
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May 16th, 2011, 04:19 PM
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We are done with this pregnancy. However, DH does want to adopt 1 or 2 toddler age children and I am all for that!
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May 16th, 2011, 05:02 PM
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Honestly I don't know

Before this I said I wanted a lot of kids, but the losses have really messed with me.
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May 16th, 2011, 07:47 PM
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I am 98% sure we are done after this baby. DH and I are 35, 2 kids 2 and under will be exhausting and we don't have the time I'd want for spacing out another baby. There's a chance we may have a change of heart and neither of us has ruled it out completely, and we won't be taking any permanent measures to prevent pregnancy forever (like surgery) but 3 pregnancies (1 loss) in 2 years is enough for me for awhile I think!
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May 16th, 2011, 08:33 PM
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We are done. Since we were first dating we always talked about having 3 kids, and it's always seemed like the magic number for us. My oldest is going to be 19 this year, so I think we will wait a few years for grandkids, lol.
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