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May 22nd, 2011, 09:56 AM
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I've almost made it to the same gestation I was when Ella died, which was around 20 weeks 3 days...I find myself the last few days crazy obsessive over movements and the heartbeat...I can only imagine it's going to get worse in the next week...I haven't told anyone IRL how stressed and worried I am, because I feel like they'll think I'm crazy...I'm so scared that something is going to happen to this baby, and I can't live through another loss like that...For those who've had later losses, did it get easy past a certain point, or will I be worried for the rest of the pregnancy? I have been worried all along, but it's different now, it's more of a terrified feeling now.
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May 22nd, 2011, 11:02 AM
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I'm sorry. I don't blame you at all for ebing scared. And I doubt people IRL would either. Having a loss is upsetting and sad anyways, but later ones just break your heart because you have started to plan, buy stuff and feel them move.

I have no advice as my loss was earlier. I just want you to know I'll be thinking of you and praying everything goes smoothly!! Good luck mama!
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May 22nd, 2011, 11:03 AM
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I am passed my loss by about 1 week and it feels totally different now! I hope you feel the same way I do when you get passed this time. Don't stress and relax as much as you can!!!!! Think positive
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May 22nd, 2011, 12:26 PM
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I've never experienced a late loss, I just wanted to offer you hugs. I hope you feel better once you pass the gestation you were when you lost her!
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May 22nd, 2011, 12:29 PM
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I'm so sorry you're stressed, Megan. I know you've probably mentioned this before, but did they ever find out why Ella died?

Hopefully in another two weeks you'll be feeling a little better.
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May 22nd, 2011, 12:33 PM
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I didn't have a late loss, but I did have a baby born at 25wks. For me, making it past that point was reassuring but it didn't take away the worry. I still worry about having an early baby that will develop problems and not make it. I don't think that worry will go away until she is home with me, and then it'll be a different kind of worry. One thing I started doing to help me get over my fears, is that everytime I start to worry about losing the baby, I've bought her something. Sometimes it was just a pair of socks. One time it was a crib. The more I surround myself with things that are hers, the more I'm beginning to look forward to her arrival instead of worrying about it.

hang in there. We can all understand your worries. Hopefully, it will get better as time moves on.
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May 22nd, 2011, 12:41 PM
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After I got past about 16 weeks with a heartbeat (first loss at 15 weeks) I started to relax. And the further away I got the easier it has gotten. The weeks of my losses though were the worst. The nightmares, the fears the constant worry. It was terrible. Weeks 12-18 were the hardest for me so far. Now that I can feel movement it really helps with the anxiety. I do still have it but it is better. I am so sorry you are coming up on this milestone. Take it one moment at a time and try not to get to far ahead of yourself. I agree with Rebecca too. As I have made more purchases it has made it more real and more exciting.

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May 22nd, 2011, 01:40 PM
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I understand what you are going through. I had a late loss at 22 weeks , but the baby died at 19 weeks. I think this was biggest and scariest milestone to hit and pass ... I swear I was calling the doctor every week to get in to hear the heartbeat .. I was so scared that It was going to happen again... I am now 27 weeks and I STILL worry everyday .... Thank goodness I am now feeling the babies move everyday and all the time which helps the nerves a lot ... So big hugs and hang in there ,, It will get better ,but to be honest I think after any loss you will always worry until the day you give birth to a healthy baby..
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May 22nd, 2011, 01:42 PM
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May 22nd, 2011, 02:06 PM
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Well, since my loss was term, there wasn't really any point I relaxed. I went a week and a half past that with Patrick, but every day got worse. I think mostly it was because I knew there wasn't any harm to him to be born already, so inside was the more dangerous place for him to be.

I hope you get to relax a little though!!
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May 22nd, 2011, 05:06 PM
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I hope you get through this milestone with as little anxiety as possible and that the worry eases up for you once it has passed!
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May 22nd, 2011, 06:49 PM
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((Hugs)) Love you Megan. I am so sorry you are feeling so much stress.
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May 22nd, 2011, 07:04 PM
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I just wanted to give some . I don't have any advice or anything to add. I will just be praying for you. It is completely understandable for you to be stressed.
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May 22nd, 2011, 08:42 PM
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My loss was earlier but just wanted to send you ((HUGS)).
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May 22nd, 2011, 09:10 PM
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I am not looking forward to that point in pregnancy. I just hope that once I pass it I can calm down too.
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May 22nd, 2011, 10:53 PM
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thanks for the advice and hugs ladies I'm having an ultrasound tomorrow, and I hear his heartbeat every day, so that helps...It's just so hard because right now he's sometimes active and sometimes not, and I find myself freaking out in my head like "OMG what if his heart stopped" I know it can happen just like that, so even hearing the heartbeat, an hour later i'm worried again...I'm going to the doctor every week, so that helps...I just don't want to feel this way for the rest of my pregnancy.
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May 23rd, 2011, 09:03 AM
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I had those same feelings. I would leave the dr office and remember that just a day or two later the heart stopped so just as I walked out the worry would start again. It is so hard to not let those thoughts in. I know mine was different than yours but I do understand that anxiety. We are here anytime you need us.

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