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  #1  
August 8th, 2011, 06:53 PM
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Does your DH/SO help you out around the house? Does he help with pregnancy related things?
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August 8th, 2011, 06:57 PM
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Yep, he's usually really good about both.
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August 8th, 2011, 07:28 PM
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Yeah he is awesome with helping out!!!
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August 8th, 2011, 07:39 PM
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DH has been AWESOME! For nearly two weeks I've either been so exhausted, nausious or vomiting. DH has taken on TONS more duties when it comes to our two year old. He does the cooking and the cleaning and the laundry. I've felt like a huge BUMP on a log. I try hard to occasionally "reward" him for all his good deeds, but even finding a good time for that has been dificult.

This last weekend, I've finally gotten a little more energy. I did the laundry this weekend (although there are still a few things to FOLD, but all the hanging is up and put away). I'm helping out more with dishes too.

DH gets a HUGE gold star from me.
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August 8th, 2011, 08:01 PM
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Yep DH has been a huge help around the house especially with me being sick with this cold. I am very lucky he is so helpful.
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August 8th, 2011, 08:08 PM
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Nope. lol every now and then when I beg he might do something but other then that, no help. Pretty sad cause i'm exhausted all the time when i'm not even doing anything but I guess that's "how it is" around here.
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August 8th, 2011, 11:45 PM
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He does what he can but his work is really hard on him too, he works 3 and 4 - 12 hour shifts each week. I try to keep up with the dishes and small clean up stuff through the week, I also try to do the laundry so that we don't have to worry about it in the weekend but he never has a problem if I say I am overloaded
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August 9th, 2011, 05:25 AM
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My clinic moved and is no longer on the bus line, so my husband will be taking time off work for all my appointments to drive me there and sit with the kids in the waiting room.

He helps a lot with the kids when I'm home. If I'm too sick to cook dinner, he never complains as he makes frozen pizza or something else simple for himself and the kids. When I was pregnant with our son, the laundry was a closet in the kitchen, which I didn't want to step foot in; he did all of the laundry for the first several months.
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August 9th, 2011, 05:41 AM
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DH is very helpful...when he's home lol He works pretty hard too, so he's often not home till after DD is in bed. But if he is home, and on the weekends, he helps out alot. He does most of the laundry now, especially since the laundry room is in the basement and bedrooms on the 2nd floor.

He's not much of a cook, but thankfully it's summer, and we bbq alot so I'm off the hook for those dinners, plus he's been trying to do some things in the kitchen when he can.
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August 9th, 2011, 05:49 AM
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DH is always good about splitting housework and parenting duties, especially since my job can be more demanding than his most of the year. He's been extra helpful since I've been pregnant doing laundry which is normally my job. He doesn't cook (which is a good thing) but he's been great about picking up or ordering dinner when i just can't deal with it.
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August 9th, 2011, 05:50 AM
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No and No. My husband works and pays the bills, everything else is mine, including taking care of Moose and myself, and house. (Can you tell I'm bitter?? LOL)
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August 9th, 2011, 06:16 AM
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Yes, my husband cleans all the time (including dishes), takes care of my son, cooks occasionally, helps when I ask. I still do the laundry but he occasionally helps with that too.

I feel like a slacker!
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August 9th, 2011, 07:29 AM
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After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett
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Do not ever give up hope...




Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.




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August 10th, 2011, 08:42 PM
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My dh is awesome. He does the majority of the cooking, cleans the bathrooms (I haven't cleaned a toilet in I don't know how long... probably over a year), takes out the trash, does the lawn, helps with parental duties. We split things like laundry, vacuuming, kitchen clean up, etc. I am sooo spoiled. He does have the summers off, so he has a bit more time than most men, but he still does a lot of the work during the school year. I take care of all the finances, though.
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August 11th, 2011, 02:33 AM
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No! He is really starting to tick me off in that department too! I'm right smack dab in the middle of a very sleepy 1st trimester and he just plain doesn't help. If I'm exhausted after work and need to lay down for an hour, he'll park himself in front of the tv and wait an hour for me to make dinner.

I had a fender bender about a week and a half ago and had some cramping afterwards so I laid down. He had the nerve to come in and ask me when dinner was. Yes I ended up making dinner AND cleaning it up.

I have told him on many occasions that I'm getting tired of his selfishness and his unwillingness to help out. In response I get nothing. This man was a bachelor with his own home before we got married so he is perfectly capable too.

Ok I'll shut up now. A sore spot for sure...
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August 11th, 2011, 06:37 AM
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Since I am on bed rest, he has no choice! LOL He has been great, he doesn't clean to my standards but he does the best he can.
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