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October 20th, 2011, 03:31 PM
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This morning I heard on the radio news that a women was arrested for feeding her 10 month old baby girl Beer and Cocaine. I don't get it. WHY!? Why does this woman have a baby and mine is in Heaven? I don't understand why you give babies to people who will feed them Beer and Cocaine, God, but you gave me a baby who died of SIDS and I loved her and took care of her so much!!! Please forgive me, but I need to be mad at you right now, God. I know you understand.


and end rant. Hate when people treat their kids like crap. So sad.
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October 20th, 2011, 03:41 PM
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I went through that a lot after my losses. Why did you take my baby when you let crack heads keep theirs. I don't have an answer. I am sorry you lost your little girl.
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October 20th, 2011, 04:12 PM
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I've had this rant with God numerous times through the last 6 years, 3 losses, and a year long struggle with infertility. It sucks, and I just don't understand it!
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October 20th, 2011, 04:51 PM
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When I was going through all of my miscarriages and everything I would go through the exact same mad at God things! My sister is one that should NEVER be a mother. Multiple family and extended family members have offered to pay for a tubal ligation for her. The best decision she has ever made was to give her daughter to a loving home through adoption. It was so hard to go through miscarriages and calling CPS because of the abuse of my niece by my sister's drug addict ex husband. I am so glad that God understands why we are mad at Him and lets us be mad at Him.
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October 20th, 2011, 05:23 PM
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Totally understand your feelings It's not fair at all!
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October 20th, 2011, 05:33 PM
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I understand as well... I have had the same conversation with God so many times. ((hugs)) I am so sorry.
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October 20th, 2011, 05:38 PM
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I hear you I think it is only human to question things sometimes and I believe God understands that.

It ISN'T fair at all. It makes me sick to hear of someone mistreating their children like that but so many people who want children and have the means of caring for them, can't get pregnant or have other sorts of troubles. Doesn't make any sense.
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October 21st, 2011, 03:28 AM
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This morning I heard on the radio news that a women was arrested for feeding her 10 month old baby girl Beer and Cocaine. I don't get it. WHY!? Why does this woman have a baby and mine is in Heaven? I don't understand why you give babies to people who will feed them Beer and Cocaine, God, but you gave me a baby who died of SIDS and I loved her and took care of her so much!!! Please forgive me, but I need to be mad at you right now, God. I know you understand.


and end rant. Hate when people treat their kids like crap. So sad.

We have all been there. The important thing here is that you are angry and mad at God and not turning away from him. when you directly face God and ask why then you put yourself in a position to listen, whatever he may be saying. I know it is impossible to understand it but if you keep facing God and asking why you will understand all of it someday, in this life or the next.
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October 21st, 2011, 04:27 AM
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I agree with the other ladies and have questioned things too when I had my loss.
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October 21st, 2011, 09:05 AM
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I totally understand how you feel. Lots of hugs today.
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October 21st, 2011, 09:19 AM
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I used to work in a center that treated pregnant drug addicts. At the time I had no children, no losses, and no real understanding of what these ladies were doing to their children. I mean, logically and educationally I knew the consequences. But it was not until I had a child of my own...and then had four losses that I truly got ANGRY and realized that even though my coworkers were awesome and I was invited back whenever I decided to go back to work (even years down the road), that I could NEVER be around those women again. Those who had such blatent disregard for the blessing of fertility and children. Often healthy children who had the cards seriously stacked against them from the beginning. It was just NOT FAIR. When I hear about parents who abuse, neglect, and kill their children, I just want to scream and often ask "Why." We will never know the answers in this lifetime. But I have to accept it won't ever make sense.
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October 21st, 2011, 05:35 PM
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October 26th, 2011, 01:17 PM
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I was totally MIA for a bit. Thanks for everyone's kind words and understanding.
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October 26th, 2011, 02:55 PM
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We have all been there. The important thing here is that you are angry and mad at God and not turning away from him. when you directly face God and ask why then you put yourself in a position to listen, whatever he may be saying. I know it is impossible to understand it but if you keep facing God and asking why you will understand all of it someday, in this life or the next.
This! Very well said.
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