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  #1  
November 10th, 2011, 09:30 AM
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I'm only 5 weeks, so other that getting tired earlier than normal, I'm not having symptoms. We're not telling anyone yet--we hope to not tell for as long as possible. I'm still having people come up and ask me how the last pregnancy is going. (seriously? I should be more than half way, don't you think I'd look pregnant if that one was going well??) If we lose this one, too, I don't want to have to deal with people asking me about the pregnancy several months later. Not to mention the fact that only one person was supportive at all last time.

So I don't have symptoms. I don't get to squeal about the baby with anyone. Not that I'd want to. Because right now I'm kind of just going with the "I'm not pregnant until I see it on ultrasound" attitude. I guess it's a defense mechanism; if I don't let myself get attached, it won't hurt as much?

And it's really depressing to be in this state of mind. Being pregnant, but not sharing, and not really believing that I'll get a baby out of it. I keep thinking about my first appointment in a month. And rather than think about seeing the baby on ultrasound I'm thinking about what questions to ask my doctor when she has to tell me yet again that the baby has died.
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November 10th, 2011, 09:47 AM
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I felt the same at first. Even now, I worry about stillbirth. I'm a little more detached than last time. But less so than at first.

Hugs! I hope the time flies by and you get your rainbow in the end.
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November 10th, 2011, 11:12 AM
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I am 4w3d and not feling it either... and also have no one to "share" it with. I am just trying to keep busy. Had my first apt today and second beta. I just want to crawl in bed for the next few weeks.
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November 10th, 2011, 11:34 AM
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I am about 5 weeks too and the only symptom I have is feeling really tired. Hopefully symptoms will start picking up for all of us ( silverlife and bobbie)

It feels so weird not to share with anyone but Im not ready yet so I totally understand how you are feeling right now.

Im sorry you are having those bad feelings and I hope once you have the US you will be more at ease. Good luck and I will pray you have a nice sticky bean this time.
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November 10th, 2011, 12:39 PM
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I hope that once you have the ultrasound it eases your mind some but I know what you mean about not telling people. We don't plan on telling anyone until around 20 weeks other than immediate family.
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November 10th, 2011, 12:59 PM
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My main symptom at that time was just tired and cramps. I had TONS of cramps. Now the cramps have gone away and I get the occassional twinge or stretching of a muscle. I am pretty sure being tired is a good sign too.
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November 10th, 2011, 01:28 PM
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Yup... being tired has been my strongest, most consistent symptom. Everything else seems to come and go. Hang in there! I hope that getting that ultrasound will let you start being excited. But I totally understand the detachment...
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November 10th, 2011, 06:02 PM
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I only had sore bbs until 51/2 weeks, then the queasiness started. Now I'm 61/2 weeks and and very very nauseous. I've has friends who've sailed through pregnancies with very few symptoms. I know it's hard but try not to worry
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November 11th, 2011, 04:39 AM
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Honestly, symptoms won't reassure me that the baby is fine. I've had plenty of puking after the baby died with both my losses. My body just doesn't respond nicely to pregnancy hormones.

But at least I'll feel pregnant. Hopefully. I may just wind up feeling like I have some strange, horrible disease (since I'm not convinced that I'm getting a baby out of this).
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November 11th, 2011, 05:42 AM
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I hope that bean is in there growing strong and that you either get lots of symptoms soon or that you've got one that is taking mercy on you for all you've been through. Even though I'm having twins I've had very few symptoms from the beginning. It was extremely unnerving. I hope this is your sticky bean!
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November 11th, 2011, 10:28 PM
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It's so hard. I didn't believe I would bring home a baby until I did. I hope you get great news at your appointment and it helps you feel better.
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