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December 18th, 2011, 04:49 AM
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Hi Ladies,

I'm new here, and I've been lurking, and thought I'd finally post. I am 11 weeks 2 days and absolutely scared silly. I've had 2 previous m/c's. 1st- missed mc at 12 weeks (7 years ago), and 2nd regular type m/c at 6 weeks (April). I'm so scared the same thing is happening with this little bean. I know each pg is different but my m/s has been gone since 10 weeks, (was sick the whole time with my other two successful pg's). I'm also, feeling less pg the last few days.

My first u/s is on Thursday and honestly I don't know how I'll make it until then. I'm a hot mess, its consuming me that something is wrong. Its all I think about all day. I've even considered just showing up at the ER saying something is wrong just to see if I could get an u/s. I'm so scared this baby has died. How do I get past the anxiety? I've considered buying a doppler, but then I'm terrified I wouldn't hear a h/b this early and I'd freak out.

I'd love to hear any suggestions you have for staying calm....and thank you if you've made it this far!
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December 18th, 2011, 05:14 AM
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Hello and welcome! I don't think you will ever truly get over the fear. If you really feel like something is wrong then it never hurts to go to the ER or call your on-call doctor. Your symptoms can come and go and every pregnancy is different. But sometimes just giving yourself that little bit of reassurance is what you need.
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December 18th, 2011, 05:42 AM
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I agree, you never get over the paralyzing fear. PAL is so so so so hard. If you feel like you need reassurance I would definitely head to the ER or call your dr and ask if they will move up your u/s. I can tell you that I've been pregnant 6 times (3 angels 2 LC) and my symptoms have always been the same. I had morning sickness from before my BFP all the way to the end of the first trimester, excruciatingly sore and big bbs, etc. This time around I was petrified that I wasn't really sick, my bbs weren't much bigger, they were only a little sore off and on. My symptoms were constantly come and go, and it drove me insane. I figured my symptoms would be so much worse since I'm having twins, but they continued to come and go and worry me. I'm not 25 weeks and both babies are doing well. I never really had the "every pregnancy is different" experience until this time around, but it's possible that's what's happening with you. Great big ((((((HUGS))))))) to you!
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December 18th, 2011, 07:27 AM
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Im sorry hun, I wish I had great words of wisdom to help calm you but PAL is very hard.
This is my 6th pregnancy and I have 1 living child. Every single pregnancy has had different symptoms so I freaked out and analized everything. I was not sick at all with this pregnancy just exptermly tired. Also the boob pain comes and goes.

My suggestion is to call your DR and tell them you have concerns and see if they can move up your ultrasound or give you a quick peek tomorrow. I know if ever I ask my OB office they let me come in with my history to just ease my mind.
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December 18th, 2011, 07:36 AM
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Hi! My friend had m/s from only 6-9 weeks with her second child and everything was fine. She didn't have any with her first child, so pregnancies can be different.
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December 18th, 2011, 07:49 AM
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Thanks ladies, I'm definitely going to call my OB tomorrow and see if I can somehow get it.
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December 18th, 2011, 12:49 PM
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Welcome!! I agree....Its pretty terrifying waiting to get that first U/S. Although I've had one already and am still nervous about my NT scan on Tuesday. Let us know how it goes!
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December 18th, 2011, 08:56 PM
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I'm with you, I am terrified, I'm only 7 weeks but scare that there is something wrong with the baby. I have m first u/s on Thursday, and I'm very scare. I don't feel pg other than big bbs and sore sometimes, and being very bloated.
It does get easier, but the fear really never goes away, I know its not what you want to hear, but it will get better. You will get to point in your pg where you will be enjoying it and the fear will be a thing of the past.
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December 19th, 2011, 10:52 AM
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I agree, this PAL thing is completely hard! I hope your doc was supportive and you are/were able to get in, please KUP! And hugs, the waiting is the worst, first we have the 2WW, then we have the 1st appt wait, then the u/s wait, then this, then that...it's all so frustrating!!
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December 19th, 2011, 11:00 AM
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If it makes you feel any better, i lost all my symptoms at 10 weeks for about a week this time, and i am certainly still pregnant. After my two losses, this pregnancy was the hardest (after the first loss i'd kinda felt like all my bad luck was used up). But my doctor was very understanding about extra checks and i went in once a week until i was 14 weeks along. See if maybe you can do that to ease your mind.

Don't get a doppler yet - it will make you far more worried than anything else, and usually for no reason

WE are all here to listen when you get totally stressed out - we've all been there/are there right with you!
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