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You definitely showed more restraint than I would have. It also just goes to show that she must not be a 'person' since based on that statement she doesn't HAVE a heart.
All of our babies and losses count.
I have had four losses, the first one was a chemical one. Although I got more attached to the babies whose heartbeats I saw, I NEVER discount that first tiny baby I lost. He/she was still and will always be my first little angel, and my smallest!
Erica, I think you are right...that must be her coping mechanism. Or maybe, if she has other children, she is just horribly insensitive and honestly feels that way...either way, she has some serious issues and feels the need to put someone else down to make herself feel better about herself. If she ever makes another comment like that one I would simply say that "my babies were all my babies no matter how small they were!" and let it go at that....
All people have the right to their own opinion, but some people sure don't deserve one!
Wow. In the eyes of God?! As far as I know in the eyes of God a baby is a real person as soon as he/she is conceived!! In fact I feel a baby is already a person in the eyes of God before conception, as they start in Heaven with Him and he places them with each of us, he already knows their fate and their soul. Tell her to shove her ideas where the sun don't shine!!
How awful, I'm so sorry honey!! You're attached the moment you see that positive. You have hopes and dreams of a future for that baby. It hurts and they count.
I once got told Cora didn't have a soul because she didn't take a breath. I was at work, and he overheard me talking to another lady (I was pregnant with Erin and very sick, and she was pregnant with a rainbow baby and so it had come up), and decided to walk up and inform me. I had to go lock myself in the employee bathroom and cry for 15 minutes.
I agree, who does that??? Even if you believe it to be true how does that help a grieving woman? How can they think it'll do anything but hurt? They should just keep their mouths shut. Our babies count.