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January 5th, 2012, 06:29 AM
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DD is almost 4 and half and she just started going to bed with out pull-ups about 2 weeks ago. She wakes up at 12:30 and 4:00am every night to go potty and has to wake me up to tell me. Last night she didn't wake up and at 4:30 she came in to tell me she had an accident. Is it normal for them to have to go so much, shouldn't she be able to go through the night? I have cut out her drinks after dinner to just sips if she is thirsty but she still has this problem? I can't deal with a newborn and her every night, I won't be getting any sleep at all. Any advice?
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January 5th, 2012, 06:43 AM
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Our DD is not night trained yet, but she is not quite 3 yet, however, when I was little, I had lots of issues and it wasn't until I was about 10 or 12 that they discovered what my problem was, right about the time I stopped wetting the bed...figures! I am not sure at 4, that it is cause for concern yet, but if she isn't having accidents many nights, perhaps you could encourage her to go by herself and not wake you up? Or does she need help?
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January 5th, 2012, 06:48 AM
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She doesn't need help, but she is scared to go down the hall the the main bathroom so she comes in my room and uses the master bathroom and says "mummy I'm going potty" I am a very light sleeper and just her opening my door wakes me up. I am happy she is out of pull=ups but she accidents 1-2 a week right now and I am feeling exhausted. DH wants to put her back in pull-ups, just for convenience sake, I don't agree with that but I am wondering if she has a bladder problem. She has to go ALL the time, everytime we are at the store or in the car...even if she goes when we leave the house. I have asked her doctor and he said to cut her drinks and tested her urine. It came back fine so I guess she just has a small bladder.
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January 5th, 2012, 06:52 AM
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I have a small bladder and have always had to wake up a couple of times a night. I agree with you, you don't want to take a step backwards.

I will tell you, when I was little, because I had an accident so often in the middle of the night, my mom would put a towel over it, after getting the soaking wet stuff up, so that she didn't have to change the sheets in the middle of the night every night. I know it sounds kind of ick, but it worked and then we would change them in the morning. Can you leave your door open and tell her that she doesn't need to let you know when she is going? I don't blame her for being scared...lol!
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January 5th, 2012, 07:14 AM
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To be honest, I'd probably go with your husband and put her back in pull ups for a bit for two reasons.

First, she just might not be ready to go all night. Some kids take longer to do the full night training, and it isn't a maturity thing like being daytime trained. It's a physical ability to go longer periods of time.

Secondly, kids are known for taking a step back in many different areas of development right around when they become big siblings so it wouldn't be uncommon for her to revert to wetting the bed even if you do get it fixed, when CJ arrives. It might make sense to let her adjust to being a big sister first, without the worries of wetting the bed, which could make her feel bad herself, and the pull ups likely instill extra confidence. I know the couple times Max had accidents when we first took away the pullups at night, he was more upset with himself than I would have been.

Good luck with whatever you decide though!!!
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January 5th, 2012, 07:26 AM
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No help here, we are still trying to day potty train, he's close.....I agree that she might not be ready to go all night. Have you try putting nightlights on the hallway and bathroom?
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January 5th, 2012, 07:55 AM
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My daughter was 8 when we took her out of pull ups. She was having accidents every single night. We even had to take her to a specialist to check and make sure she did not have any bladder problems. She didn't thank goodness.

Here is what helped us. No liquids past 7pm, period. She can have all she wants to drink before then. Also, she has to go to the bathroom, whether she has to or not, 3 times before bedtime, which is 8pm. So she goes at 7pm. 7:30, and 8 pm. We also wake her up one more time before we go to sleep, usually around 9 or 10, and have her go again for reassurance. We have only had 2 accidents in the last 3 months, and that was because she had an UTI.

I would try this and hopefully she can sleep all night without getting up. Also, we put a clear plastic shower curtin over her matress and under her sheets just in case. Makes clean up a breeze.
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January 5th, 2012, 08:17 AM
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Thanks Ladies! I have Just put a towel over it a couple times and we do have a plastic protector so it's not so bad..just hard to do at 8.5 months pregnant. I am going to give it a little more time and work on her not waking me up( we have nightlights everywhere but she still wants to come in my room) before we do pullups again. I sometimes say I myself have overactive bladder so maybe she just takes after me and just can't hold it. I like the idea of waking her up to go before I go to bed, that should help. I just feel like she is so tired from waking up in the night and waking up earlier because she has to go. Thanks for all the input
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January 5th, 2012, 03:26 PM
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Also as an FYI - when CJ is born she may take a step backwards as well.

My friend's daughter is 4 and still in pull-ups at night. We just stayed with them for 1.5 weeks over the holidays and she is so intelligent. She is really smart so it is not a development issue. She keeps a light on for her at night and she goes to the bathroom by herself. I personally would put her back into pull-ups at night - having "accidents" may make her feel more sad and push her progress back further.

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oh ps. She has special "toddler toilet wipes" on the back of the toilet so she can go potty like a big girl all by herself. This way she doesn't have to tell everyone every single time she goes. Sorry if I babbled too much.
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January 5th, 2012, 06:12 PM
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Well, we decided to put a pull-up on tonight. She agreed it better than an accident and had no problem with it. 20 minutes later she came out of her room in her undies to tell me it wasn't comfy and she wants to try undies one more time, lol.
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Good luck.
I am dealing with this issue as well. I have not tried undies at night because I lock DD in her room at night. If I dont she will get up and play and come wake me up, its bad enough she yells for me on the baby monitor at 3am and when I go in she says "mommy I just wanted to wake you up to let you know I love you" UGH.
So I know if I put her in undies and give her the ability to come out of her room she will be in my room talking to me all night.
She has been asking to wear undies at night and I feel bad for not letting her. But if she was a better sleeper I might try it. Typical week 3-4 times she will get up 1-2 times a night and start playing and making noise in her room. I have cut out naps and everything and she only sleeps 7-8 hours a night if im lucky.
IM TIRED I hope this baby sleeps better.
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January 6th, 2012, 08:32 AM
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It can be a maturity issue. I have trained 8 of my 10 kids so far and my experience has been different with each kid. My first kiddo was trained during the night after two nights at just barely three years old....where as my kiddo number eight, Colby, just barely trained at night and he is five years old. We tried about a year ago and he had accident after accident. I just put him back in pull ups and waited for the time when he was ready. Just a couple of weeks ago I did away with the pull ups and lo and behold he hasnt had one accident yet....I don't know if any of that helps...Good luck!
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January 8th, 2012, 03:11 PM
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Don't put her back in pull ups, that's just going to take longer for her to get the hang of it. Some kids do have smaller bladders and some kids's muscles just aren't strong enough yet to hold it for long periods of time. At least she wakes you up most of the time. I had to take my kids to the bathroom every couple of hours in the night for at least a few months until they were fully night trained. It does take a while and sometimes there will be accidents. It's little steps and it just totally depends on the kid. My first took a while, my second was trained within days and my 3rd took a few months. Trust me, dealing with pee accidents is nothing compared to what I have to deal with my 4 yo and her witholding poo and not wanting to push it out. Sigh! If she was doing great and has a few accidents, I wouldn't put her back in pull ups. But if you think that she's not ready yet, then wait a few weeks and try again. Sometimes when there is a new baby they tend to 'revert' back. Good luck!
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