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My heart is breaking for my 12yr son tonight. A fellow student/friend/team mate, had passed away as of late last night. He was in baseball accident that took his life. Only 12yrs old. My son is a wreck. I dont know how to console him. He is scared, hurt, angry and just plain tore up. I will be taking him to the little boy's services in the next few days. I have never went to a "child" service, let alone him. I dont know how I will handle it and be strong for him. All of the students are attending, and he really wants to say goodbye. How do I support him on this? Im so shook up tonight over this, I dont know how to come to grips with seeing his grieving mother/father. Please say a prayer for his family and for mine. The whole community is just tore up about this.
That you're going will mean so much to those parents <3 Don't worry about what to say. There's nothing TO say. Just be there, give them a hug, say you're sorry, make a specific offer to help (I'd like to bring by some lasagna tomorrow night if that's okay. You can freeze it until you need it). You don't necessarily have to "be strong" for your son. It's okay if you cry -- shows him that it's okay for him to cry, too. Just be there for him in whatever capacity that ends up being <3
With us on earth for five short days, with us in our hearts forever.
(Thank you Natasha for this beautiful graphic of Andrew, and to the ladies of the Nov 10 PR who help me in carrying on his memory.)
Jan. 2009: Came off years of BCP and started TTC
March 2010: BFP -- finally!
Oct. 22, 2010: Drew is born, but has to stay in the NICU because of cord complications resulting in oxygen deprivation and brain problems =(
Oct. 27, 2010: I held him in my arms while Daddy, Grandma, Great-Uncle and I sang him to sleep =( Hardest thing I've ever done...
June 14, 2011: Drew's baby brother or sister waved hi to us with a BFP!
June 25, 2011: Natural miscarriage... Can we please catch a break here?
Nov. 2011: 100mg Clomid followed by 2mg Estrogen, Ovidrel trigger, and 200mg progesterone suppositories 2x/day 14 days. BFN.
Dec. 2011: 2nd medicated cycle. BFN.
Jan. 2012: Took a month off to breathe...
Feb. 2012: Same regimen of Clomid and other meds, add IUI. 2 eggs and 8.5 million swimmers. BFN.
March 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-11, follie scan CD 8 showed 6 follies likely to mature. Triggered, IUI on CD 14, 4 million swimmers. BFN.
April 2012: 75 IU Follistim CD 3-10. Scan showed 2 mature follies, 2 almost certain to mature, and two not likely but possible. (All 6 evenly and perfectly spaced out between the left and the right.) Triggered, IUI CD 13 with 5 million swimmers. BFN.
May 2012: 75 IU Follistim starting CD 3. Waiting to O. Timed intercourse. Likely 5 follies to mature.
Oh Lori - How sad. I can't even imagine. I don't know what to say. Is this one of Dillon's friends? ((hugs)) so sad.
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Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010 CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 21, 20 and 17 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett.
Do not ever give up hope...
Oh Lori - How sad. I can't even imagine. I don't know what to say. Is this one of Dillon's friends? ((hugs)) so sad.
Yes, its one of Dillon's friends. I have not stopped crying since finding out. I got an automated call from the school this morning, notifying the parents that a death had accured with one of the classmates. I knew it was Eric, because we knew of the accident, but last we heard he was in comma. Never imagined he would pass away like this. How do I look at that little boy and not picture my own son? This is what Im so freaked out about. I just dont know how I will hold it together.
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Thank you Shortcake for my beautiful siggy..]
Momma of 7 beautiful children now. Most recent is Jerry Jr. born 11/19/12 at 37wk, 7lbs 6oz and 19.5inches. Momma of 5 angels. New siggy to come! l
Hug him for us... I wish I could be there for you.
So, so sorry. Your fear factor must be at an all time high. Make sure you get some rest, ok?
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Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010 CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 21, 20 and 17 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett.
Do not ever give up hope...
There isn't much you can do, he has to go through a grieving process - give him the chance to let his emotions out, you can be there to support but allow him to grieve too. I can't imagine what those parents are going through, that's so horrible - no parent would ever want to bury their child.
It really does make you cherish your own, I am truly sorry for their loss.
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Missing Angels: Sept '11 - 4 weeks & Nov '11 - 4 weeks 3 days
I'm so so sorry Lori. I agree with Erin. You being there will mean a lot to them. I'm not going to lie, going to a young child's services is one of the hardest things you can do. I just had to do it in January for a former student who is one of my current student's brothers. I tried to focus on the fact that even though I didn't think I could do it I needed to to show my support for his parents and his brother. Try to focus on being there for Dillon and his parents. That doesn't make it any easier, but it will help you get through. It is most certainly fine to cry. It will show Dillon and the other students that it's ok for them to grieve that way. Oh, another thing that will completely take you aback is the reaction of the kids. One of the hardest things for me to deal with was watching all of the kids (most of them having been former students). Seeing them in so much pain mourning the loss of a friend was terribly difficult. I wish I could give you a great big hug.
I think the other ladies have given great advice. I'd just also like to offer my condolences to your entire community and especially that poor little boy's family.
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Hugs to all of you- I cannot imagine 
Gabriel 12/23/11 
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