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May 15th, 2012, 10:16 AM
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I'm not sure if this is normal for moms that have little ones at home.
When I was pg with DS, I knew his awake time, sleeping time, what got him going, what didn't. But with this baby, I'm clueless. At work I'm so busy that sometimes I even forget that I am pg, and its not until I get a kick or bump my belly into something that I realize that I am pg. At home, with a 3 year old, is not until I get to bed that I get to relax, and sometimes this baby is having a party and sometimes there is no movement what so ever. I feel like I'm neglecting this baby, I wouldn't be able to tell you what the awake times are
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May 15th, 2012, 10:34 AM
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I was always told you are more aware of your first's baby then you are with consecutive pregnancies, maybe because it's new and different?

It could just be that you are overworked or that since you have a 3 year old that it's hard to focus on being pregnant as much as you like. Maybe you should take a 'Me Day' and relax, you could use that time to bond with your baby.
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May 15th, 2012, 12:14 PM
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I've heard other friends say the same thing about their second child. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Is Jessica's suggestion of a "Mommy and Baby#2 Day" an option for you?
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May 15th, 2012, 01:02 PM
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Hahaha. Totally and completely normal. I literally documented so much of Liam's pregnancy it makes me laugh. And his pregnancy seemed to be a decade long. I spent all my time planning things, just sitting feeling him, and talking to him.

Poor Kieran, his pregnancy (in hindsight) felt 4 days long and I wrote down the BIG stuff (like appts or lots of movement) and nothing else.

But I assure you, it is only because the one in your belly requires so much less attention right now. I felt guilty about it when I was pregnant. But then when he came, he was so needy that I felt like I was neglecting Liam for a while. Just because the baby needed so much attention and he was more independent, kWIM? It really does all balance out in the end.

It is just that you have other things to be on your mind during pregnancy and with your first...that is the ONLY thing you can think about!
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May 15th, 2012, 01:06 PM
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I've heard other friends say the same thing about their second child. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Is Jessica's suggestion of a "Mommy and Baby#2 Day" an option for you?
Unfortunately, probably not an option The semester is ending, so I will be less busy at work, and maybe be able to leave work a bit early to get home and spend time with DS. I want to spend as much with him as possible now because I know w hen the baby comes, I might not have the time to do more stuff with him.
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