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and stay! Got a faint today at 10dpo. It's been 8 months since the m/c and I pray to God that this one is healthy and sticks! I hope I get to stay my full 9 months and get to know you ladies.
Any tips on dealing with the fear of m/c'ing again?
So happy to see you here! We were in the July DDC together. I know for myself, I just really tried not to think about it. I know in my heart there was nothing I could do to change anything so stressing about it wasn't going to help. Easier said than done, I know! With this pregnancy, I wasn't really worried until after there was a heartbeat because I felt like I was in the inbetween stage for a long time. Morning sickness was fading but I wasn't feeling anything. That was definitely the hardest part. My midwife even commented to me how relaxed I was after having 3 miscarriages. The doppler and I became best friends once I knew there was a heartbeat. Just hearing it for those two seconds reassured me that everything was fine (for that day anyway.) Before that stage, I just reminded myself that what is meant to be is meant to be.
Nena congratulations on your pregnancy!! I'm sending you tons of sticky dust! The only thing I can tell you is try your best to enjoy every moment of this pregnancy! I know it's hard but try to enjoy it as much as possible dear!
My Angels- 12-15-08 @ 13w3d♥ 05-09 @ 6w2d♥ & 2 Early Losses♥ Twins 9-7-10♥ & 10-2-10 ♥ 2/11/11
I guess I can't add much to what these ladies have said. It gets a little easier with each milestone- passing your loss point, passing the "safe" first trimester point, hearing baby's hb on a doppler or seeing it on an u/s. Even then, it's still hard. None of us have the luxury or innocence of never having known loss before. I plan on having a few more children after this and I pray that I never have another miscarriage. I think that if I have multiple healthy pregnancies after this one, I'll still always have the fear of loss.
Congrats on your BFP! Wishing you a H&H 9 months! Definitely, take it day by day, it is so hard, even at 38 weeks, I still have that small sliver of doubt in the back of my head, thank goodness this is a very active baby!
If you can, definitely get a doppler, that really helped me, of course, it can have the opposite effect and freak you out if you aren't able to find the hb right away, you just have to remind yourself in the early weeks that baby can easily hide