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I'm feeling really angry right now and need to get this out. It's weird how minor annoyance yesterday turned into full-blown anger today!
Yesterday my step-grandmother and mother were going on about me not enjoying when Sean gets bigger and I'm feeling rib pain from his movements and not sleeping well. My step-grandmother has never even been pregnant and she's going on about this because of what she hears (my grandfather already had his three sons with my grandmother and didn't want any more kids). My mom has said numerous times that she feels badly for me because I've had the morning sickness and then been stuck inside because of allergies, etc...
Why do they think I'm not enjoying it? Even when I'm complaining I'm loving the fact that I can complain.
I posted this to Facebook this morning: "hates when people assume I am miserable while pregnant or will be later on. I know the pain of losing a baby and if it means putting myself through hell and back to have a healthy baby come November, BRING IT!!! I'll be over here loving every **** second!!!"
And it's true. Even when I'm finding that some aspects of pregnancy aren't enjoyable, I'm loving every miserable second because I have the chance to feel this way. After losing Gabriel I wasn't sure how long it would take us to conceive again or if we'd even be able to carry a baby to term.
I count my lucky stars every day that Sean is healthy and thriving and cannot imagine feeling any other way.
I'm sorry....people think that because they had a bad experience everyone else will as well. What I hate the most are those people that never had kids and are giving you advise or tell you how you should feel or how you should so thing. I know it's hard but ignore it as much as you can. They can't make you feel miserable because you have a miracle growing in your belly and no matter what, you are over the moon with happiness, so try not to pay too much attention to them.
That's part of what makes me so angry, is that the step-grandmother who has never been pregnant wasn't just telling me I'll change my mind later on about enjoying feeling kicks, she was interrupting me talking about how much I'm loving it to do so! I don't try telling her all about how she should feel through menopause!
That must have been really annoying! I wish people remembered that everyone is different & experiences the ups and downs of pregnancy differently. I'm sure she is just trying to feel more involved having never been there herself, but I'm sorry you have to endure it...
Thank you Katie (.:Shortcake:.) for my beautiful siggy!!
Try not to stress about it too much, I have had a similar problem with many women coming up and telling me their experiences with pregnancy and how 'they felt' assuming I would have the same experience. Even though your step-grandmother never had kids I am sure she just wanted to say her piece (and sometimes elderly types are very pushy this way.)
But yeah, those baby kicks do get much stronger!
Missing Angels: Sept '11 - 4 weeks & Nov '11 - 4 weeks 3 days