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We have been NTNP since Eleanor was born and just last month started sort of TTC. I broke out the OPKs, so I guess it's TTC- it just doesn't feel the same as when I was so obsessed with it before we conceived. My AF returned when Eleanor was 4 months, but I have been having long cycles, so I'm not sure how much chance we have to conceive anyway. We have fertility issues and would rather have kids too close in age than too far apart if we can help it.
We started TTC #2 when Josiah turned 2. We hadn't had any trouble conceiving with him, so we fully expected to have an easy time the second time around. Had I known the road we would travel, I might have considered starting to TTC #2 a bit sooner. BUT... everything works out the way it is supposed to. My boys will be 4 years 1 month apart, which is more time between them than I had thought was ideal, however I can see the benefit of this age gap. Especially since year 3 has been so difficult with Josiah! It was nice to be able to give him my undivided attention when he was going through the temper tantrum and defiant stage.
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I've never had issues conceiving (in fact the opposite there). We like to have at least 2 years between babies. It's easier and when they get older, easier for things like school activities and sports. Our first 2 are only 19 months apart and they were forever being thrown on the same sport's team which doesn't work well when you have 2 very competitive kids.
Having said that, our average is 3 years apart for the last 5. I would have like 2 but economy/job issues weren't best around 2 years so we delayed a year
Katrina, mom to 7 wonderful children on earth, and 4 guardian angels in heaven.
After my first was born, I waited until I was finished breastfeeding which was about 13 months. Now with our second child, we want to start trying sooner rather than later so we are thinking around December of this year, so Jacob will be 8 months. I figure it will take us longer to get pregnant since I will still be breastfeeding.
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With my first, I was gung-ho at 6 months and we started trying. But we had a line of losses and they ended up just shy of two years apart.
And we found that the two-year gap was cool for us. So we are emulating it, hoping it doesn't take too long to get pregnant with a sticky baby now that Kieran is turning one.
I think when deciding, it's important to know whether you were looking for close gaps or slightly larger ones. And what your family's future plans look like. Like we want to do vacations and cruises and sports teams...and I don't really relish the idea of hauling a baby to those kinds of things. So our ideal is to have all the kids we want 1.5-2.5 years apart and be done in 6-7 years total. But some people like the idea of spending time with each individual child and really giving them lots of attention in the early years. So their ideal is to wait 4 years, when the older child is independent and going to preschool before having another. Of course, it doesn't always work as we plan, since losses are a reality and so is infertility. But it's worth a thought, so you can make plans
If DH had a job right now, we would be TTC. We would have started TTC when Marsi was 6 months old even though I didn't get AF back until she was 8 months. Since DH doesn't have a job right now we are deciding between starting to TTC when she is a year or when he gets a job. Most likely the latter. I hope to have less than 2 years between her and the next one, but we will see what happens.