Party for second baby

stargatemommy · #1 January 28th, 2013, 08:17 PM

I know Showers are a no-no for the second baby. But would it be apropriate for me to throw a celebrate baby Theodore party? I would specify that gifts are not required, but diapers are appreciated... or something along those lines I just feel like Theodore deserves to be celebrated just as much as Peter did. WDYT?

melissalaw · #2 January 29th, 2013, 06:29 AM

I didn't do a party for my second child but that was just because I just don't like parties. I hate being the center of attention. I say if you want to have one then go for it. A party to celebrate Theodore sounds like a great idea. I'm sure that people want to give you something for this new baby even if it is your second baby. We had alot of people bring gifts after Jacob was born when they came to visit, so I think most people don't mind if you have a party for a second baby.

humnck · #3 January 29th, 2013, 08:42 AM

I don't think it is so taboo anymore! What we did, was just what you are describing. We had no idea what baby #2 was going to be, so we decided to wait until she was born and we had a "Meet the Baby" party, we didn't call it a shower, we just said, help us celebrate (well, my mom did, she threw the party) the arrival of baby Addy. She didn't put registry info on the invite, so it wasn't implied that people had to bring anything.

You could just call it a diaper party or something...

ohnicole · #4 January 29th, 2013, 10:04 AM

I think it's a fun idea! We live out of state from our families so I doubt we will do anything, but I really love the idea.

bcogoli · #5 January 29th, 2013, 10:20 AM

I think it sounds nice. He definatly deserves a party too.

lindsey2000k · #6 January 30th, 2013, 05:19 AM

I personally HATE it when people have SHOWERS for other kids but baby number 1. I just got invited to one next month and refusing to go.
Her reasoning for a shower is her kids are spaced out really far and she sold/gave everything away from the first baby. Ok well my kids are 4.5 year apart and I saved everything just in case.... they live in a bigger house than me and have a basement so they could have easily stored things. I also hear people offering to give her things to help her save money and she will reply with Baby M will have all new but thank you for offering. I don't know it just bothers me that a few years ago I bought her baby stuff.... she sold it and now I am supposed to buy it again???? She is having a boy with in weeks of when Bryson was born last year so I have so much I could give her and she doesn't want any but new. Also her shower invite was a MASS Facebook event invite to EVERYONE on her friends list......

Now I had a gender reveal party... only invited very close friends & family.... No one knew what the baby was so no gifts were brought... other than my friend who hosted it who knew what the baby was. She bought a couple things to give as prizes to me for games we played. We did have a door prize that you got a $25 gift card to a restaurant if you brought diapers.

bcogoli · #7 January 30th, 2013, 09:56 AM

Lindsey it sounds like your friend just wants the shower for the presents, i would refuse to go to.

lindsey2000k · #8 January 30th, 2013, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by bcogoli

Lindsey it sounds like your friend just wants the shower for the presents, i would refuse to go to.

That is the only reason.
Because I knew she had gotten rid of all her baby stuff I told her if she needs anything let me know because I was going to hang on to my stuff for another couple years just in case we have another and her reply was "that's ok I am having a shower so I can get all new stuff for my little Matthew because he deserves the best" GRRRR
That comment just ticked me off because my baby is using all Madison's old stuff (which BTW the swing and bouncer were all set up a week before Madison was born and their kid came over and split Lemonade all over because they were letting her climb all over it but I did not say anything).
Also my baby shower for Madison she did not get me a single thing on my registry is was some weird parenting books and a collections of sample size baby lotions and powders..... I think she just gave me stuff she had left over from her daughter.
So for this reason I refuse..lol I am kinda bitter about the whole thing can you tell???

ninja_mommy · #9 January 30th, 2013, 06:33 PM

I would love to have a welcome baby for this second one, but unfortunately we will be in Hawaii and all family and friends will be a 9 hour plane ride away