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September 25th, 2013, 09:49 AM
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That's insane... I'm really glad everything seems to be going well now for mommy and baby. I agree, that was quite the ordeal.
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October 1st, 2013, 12:29 AM
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That sounds like a nightmare delivery. I can't believe an OB would allow those harsh interventions followed by such a long period of time with lack of progress and not discuss the option of a c-section. I'm so thankful the baby is okay. As I was reading through this thread, I was getting more and more concerned that there wasn't going to be a happy ending.
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October 2nd, 2013, 12:02 PM
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My SIL had to race back to the hospital last Friday and Saturday because the baby turned Jaundice. She went to three different hospitals before she got someone to treat the baby and take an U/S of the baby's head after the suctioning to get her out during delivery.

The baby is home, doing well and on formula to boost her Vit D, much to the dismay of my Psycho MIL who insists that all babies be breastfed until they go to college.

This week SIL is feeling the tension and strain of being a new mom. She's asked that her friends and family come over every day and help her care for the baby, cook her dinner and stay with her until her DH comes home from work.

We'll try to get over there this week with a cooked meal to help her out, but she has many more years of care-giving, I hope she realizes that being a mom isn't about people admiring her big belly, giving her pretty baby things and congratulating her on her beautiful baby. I'm afraid she has a long learning curve ahead of her.
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October 2nd, 2013, 10:06 PM
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Not that age has much to do with maturity now a-days, but I'm curious how old your SIL is?
I'm glad baby and mommy are "okay" and hope things continue to improve for the both of them as time goes on and she falls more into the roles of parenthood.
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October 3rd, 2013, 06:01 AM
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SIL is 35. Like you said, age has not much to do with maturing. She didn't move out of her parents house until a year after she was married - 2 years ago. Up until then, her parents did absolutely everything for her.

I guess I have a bit of a sour taste in my mouth for her and her husband. I left my parents house more than 20 years ago and have never had so much as a penny from them since. I've managed everything on my own and have had some really hard times, but never had them or anyone else come to my aid. She just hasn't had that kind of life and continues to get pampered by everyone around her. Even so, I wouldn't want to be her. I like my independence and strength.
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October 3rd, 2013, 08:07 AM
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I know those feelings and that bitter taste all too well. I too have been on my own for quite some time. Since I was 16 (10 years ago). I will admit there are times I went to my parents for help but they haven't given me a penny since I left their home. One of my sisters on the other hand... spoiled rotten and I mean rotten! She's one of those people who has to complain about her life on a daily basis on facebook and I'm sitting in the shadows thinking "If only you knew what REAL problems are." But then the angel on my shoulder tells me everyone has their problems and although they might be small to me they are big to her.

Sorry I'm jibber jabbering... but yea, some people need that slap in the face wake up call. AND they need people to stop doing everything for them so they can try doing things on their own for once.
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October 3rd, 2013, 09:33 AM
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Oh yes! why is it that we all have siblings like that? How I would LOVE to see my SIL shoveling chicken poop, slaughtering turkeys, picking beans and cooking dinner. Then lets see her complain about her friggin MANICURE!!!!
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October 3rd, 2013, 10:28 AM
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I'm sorry she is such a pampered princess. I'm sure motherhood (I hope) will help take her down a peg. Maybe when people get tired of running to help her with her baby after a month or so, then she will get her trial by fire!
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