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October 24th, 2013, 07:23 AM
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For Pregnant ladies: If you are having a vaginal delivery would you prefer an episiotomy or a tear?

For Mommies: did you have either an episiotomy or a tear during your deliveries?




With both Jackson and Jacob I had an episiotomy. The dr didn't cut much and to me it wasn't that bad. I had a epi with both so I didn't feel anything. I know some people say the recovery is hard but I didn't notice alot of pain from it.

With this pregnancy since I am planning on going with no drugs I would much prefer to just tear naturally. I don't want him to cut me if I have no pain medication. Seems like it would hurt less to just tear naturally.
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October 24th, 2013, 07:29 AM
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For Pregnant ladies: If you are having a vaginal delivery would you prefer an episiotomy or a tear? I am having a c-section. If I were having vaginal, I would prefer to tear naturally.

For Mommies: did you have either an episiotomy or a tear during your deliveries? I had 4th degree tears (hole to hole). Baby was stuck, Dr. cut me and then I tore the rest of the way. (I believe I should have had a c-section).
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October 24th, 2013, 07:50 AM
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For Pregnant ladies: If you are having a vaginal delivery would you prefer an episiotomy or a tear? I am having a c-section. If I were having vaginal, I would prefer to tear naturally.

For Mommies: did you have either an episiotomy or a tear during your deliveries? I had 4th degree tears (hole to hole). Baby was stuck, Dr. cut me and then I tore the rest of the way. (I believe I should have had a c-section).

I can't imagine a 4th degree tear. I'm sure that was very painful and yes it does sound like you should have had a c-section. Guess they couldn't tell that she was stuck until you started pushing though.
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October 24th, 2013, 07:52 AM
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With my first daughter I had an episiotomy. With my second daughter, I tore. Not bad but I needed a few stitches because she came out so quick. With my third daughter and my son, no episiotomies or tears.
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October 24th, 2013, 09:09 AM
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I had 3 small first degree tears and needed only 4 stitches. It was a hard recovery though but I don't have the best pain tolerance. I did manage to make it through the whole birthing experience without an epi. I'm hoping I can do it again. I have a feeling it's going to hurt a lot more this time since baby is bigger and my vagina still isn't healed completely... or at least, I don't think it is because it's very tender and sore BUT I hear that's normal for some women during pregnancy.

I would like to avoid ever getting an episiotomy.
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October 24th, 2013, 09:30 AM
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Yeah, in my mom's experience, she almost always had 4th degree tears when she had an episiotomy. When she just tore naturally, it wasn't as bad. Marsi was big and came out sunny side up so I must have a freakishly large or stretchy vagina because I only got a skid mark tear inside. I didn't tear in my perineum at all. So, I will always refuse to be cut. If I tear, it will be naturally.
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October 24th, 2013, 09:52 AM
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Gah, I have no idea. I have no living babies so I haven't thought this far ahead.
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October 24th, 2013, 12:19 PM
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I kind of have a follow-up question to this for those of you that have had vaginal deliveries. At any point did your Dr. do an ultrasound before you started pushing?
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October 24th, 2013, 12:21 PM
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With DS I had an episiotomy and recovery was easy (for that part). With DD I had a c-section. With this baby we don't know if we'll need another c-section or not yet. We've got a lot of time before baby is here though.
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October 24th, 2013, 12:34 PM
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Never had an ultrasound during labor.
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October 24th, 2013, 01:53 PM
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I never had an ultrasound either. Doc just checks with his/her hands as to how dilated you are.

I have read that tears heal faster than episiotomies. I always asked for no cutting with both births. With DS1, I tore 2nd, nearly 3rd degree, and with Kody, I think it was a 1st degree tear. Needed stitches with both, but healed up pretty well.
After Kody, things still pull a little and can be uncomfortable when DTD. Hoping that eventually stops.
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October 24th, 2013, 02:25 PM
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I've never heard of an ultrasound during that time either, I was just curious. After what happened to me I just wondered. If they would have done an ultrasound it would have prevented everything from happening because they could have seen the position of my daughter. She was head down but had an arm up and was facing my inner thigh.
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October 24th, 2013, 02:50 PM
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You poor thing. I can't imagine having that kind of presentation. Ouchie!!!!
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