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Clyde's birthday is fast approaching and I have no idea what to do. Celebrating (making a cake) doesn't feel right to me or DH, but then again doing nothing and pretending his bday is any other day doesn't feel right either. I need help and ideas. I want it to be something I can do every year, so planting a tree wouldn't really be realistic. Clyde was cremated so we can't take flowers and gifts to his grave. Maybe I could release a balloon or something... but helium doesn't float in cold weather, does it?
I'm feeling overwhelmed and can't think! I want to do SOMETHING for him but at this point I have zero ideas.
I know this in no way compares so I hope I don't offend, but my DD makes a memorial (or rememberance) stone for each pet we lose (yes, even the chickens). She has them in different places around the yard. Then when she is feeling sad or missing them she picks flowers and places them on the stone and just spends some time remembering them.
Or maybe buy a special candle that you only light on Clyde's birthday to remember him. I like the balloon idea also. I'm sure a helium balloon would float still (if you can find one, some of our stores have been out of helium because of the shortage, but maybe that is over).
I like the pp. I can see how it can feel overwhelming. Maybe get yourself a special necklace or bracelet? Or consider a donation to a charity in his name? I don't know if you have a religious preference, but you can consider a religious service in his honor.
Oh Ame, what a heartbreaking day to remember. For our last memorial, we planted a miniature rose bush in our flower garden. But I like the PP ideas of donations and memorial stones, a memory bracelet or lighting a candle.
I guess the hardest part is Clyde is so special to me. It's hard to think of anything special enough in comparison to do for his death/birthday. Everything seems to fall short of the plans I WISH I could do for him.
So hard to figure out what to do for these days. My SIL has had a baby girl and triplets that she lost during birth. One thing she does is she takes clothes/bears to the hospital to be given to the first baby/babies born on their birthday's. They just give them to the nurses who gives them to the family.