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November 27th, 2013, 09:47 PM
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I don't know what my deal is. I'm just not feeling the holidays. I'm not depressed or crying but I am dragging my feet with my head down. Normally cooking a few things to take to my family's Thanksgiving is fun for me. So why am I not having any fun? Will my innocence and Holiday spirit ever come back? I'm sure when I have little ones running around it will be different. Right now I suppose I'm just throwing my own little pitty party.

How about you ladies? How are you feeling? Despite my gloomy post I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving! I know once I'm surrounded by family I will feel better. Fingers crossed, lol.
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November 28th, 2013, 01:40 AM
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Hugs Amy. Honestly I felt that way this year. I wasn't excited at all. Normally this is my favorite time of year. I didn't become excited until we adopted a family for Christmas. I wanted to do something nice for someone else. Dhs brothers don't get excited over gifts and they are all older 13-21 except for his 5 year old little brother and my siblings are 19-29. So we told everyone that we weren't buying gifts for the family and that we were buying gifts for another family. Most aren't happy with us but oh well. We didn't ask for gifts from anyone and we told them that we didn't need anything. I just feel like it makes my heart feel better knowing it's really going to help this family vs people who have jobs and buy their own things. We mainly exchanged gift cards anyways.

I hope you cheer up. Maybe do something nice for someone like toys for tots or donate food. Sometimes for me I just need to feel like I made a difference or I've helped someone.
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November 28th, 2013, 06:42 AM
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Sending you big hugs, Ame. You know what, I was just listening to a podcast this morning about emotional health during pregnancy (it's called Pea in the Podcast- it's a few years old so no new episodes, but there are a bunch, one for each week of pregnancy, plus lots of others on different issues like working, exercise, feeding, etc). ANYWAY, the episode I listened to said it was very common to experience depression in the third trimester- that most women think it only comes post-partum, but that's not necessarily true.

You say you're not depressed exactly but I'm sure it's possible that the general malaise is draining the fun out of things. It's not you, it's not your fault, so let yourself off the hook
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November 28th, 2013, 10:24 AM
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Big hugs and happy Thanksgiving. Enjoy your family time.

I'm also not super excited like normal. I blame the hormones though and the fact that my already giant belly is preventing me from being able to do a lot (plus the fact that DH wants to do everything for me, which is sweet, but makes me lazier). Also for me I have the added thing of no one in my family has gotten back to me yet to say if they are or aren't coming on Sunday! And I'm extra hormonal and emotional during pregnancy. So the next couple of days might be hard for me. Oh and just found out last night that my DS will be out of town on Sunday
So I guess the point of my ramblings is that I'm right there with ya, pity party for us. But that's ok, we all need that once in awhile.
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November 28th, 2013, 11:00 AM
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I don't have a lot of time to reply to any messages on here right now, but just wanted to say thank you girls. Those of you celebrating Thanksgiving today I hope it goes wonderfully!
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November 28th, 2013, 03:47 PM
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I haven't been as excited as usual either. I think I'm just too tired and stuff to get that excited and enjoy things as much. I hope the rest of your day goes great!
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November 28th, 2013, 08:17 PM
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Not excited either. Greatful of course- just in a funky place. Sigh.. Hugs.
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November 29th, 2013, 04:12 AM
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I think the exhaustion has just zapped some of our normal enthusiasum (I don't know how to spell that word).
Sunrise you're getting so close like Ame - congrats to you both, almost there.
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November 29th, 2013, 06:31 AM
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Feeling it too Amy! I actually felt pretty good yesterday before we had to leave but I still faked it to my husband LOL I was just super crabby and didn't feel like seeing anyone. I sucked it up and did it anyways though lol
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November 29th, 2013, 05:58 PM
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It was hard to sleep for the first few hours last night because my stomach was hurting and my heartburn was bad from all the food. I ended up getting really sick but once I got it all out I felt much better and was able to get some actual sleep. I must have been exhausted too because I ended up sleeping in until 2 pm today! Dealing with my MIL on Thursday was really draining too. She sucks the life out of me.
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December 1st, 2013, 06:51 PM
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Amy I'm sorry that you go so sick after your Thanksgiving dinner. I'm sure that the holidays are harder because of all you have been through and then to have to add your MIL on top of it all, no fun at all. You are so right though the holidays will be magical when you have little Toren running around.

My little one's due date was December 22 so the holidays are hard but my other kids really do help take my mind off of that.

Hope your feeling all better and that you are doing ok.
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December 2nd, 2013, 07:09 AM
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HUGS Ame. I had a hard time this holiday too. Christmas is going to suck. And BIG DITTO on the MIL thing. Mine is a drain too.

The holidays are hard for a lot of people, and subconsciously, you are grieving and worrying and you don't even know it. You are also EXHAUSTED. Remember to take mini-breaks from it all and give yourself a little time away from the hustle and bustle.
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