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March 5th, 2014, 08:37 AM
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So how are all our little newborns doing? How's mom and family doing?
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March 5th, 2014, 08:47 AM
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March 5th, 2014, 09:12 AM
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March 5th, 2014, 01:06 PM
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Toren is great. He's my little buddy that's for sure. I'm still spending most of my time nursing him. I enjoy it but it makes me worry, like why does he want to nurse for so long? Is he not good at getting the milk out? He's gaining weight and growing good but I still worry. I really can't wait until he is eating on an every 2-3 hour schedule instead of every 30-45 mins for over an hour each time. He is in 6 month clothing now for the length. He's my tall boy It's odd though because he still has a slim waist line and the 6 month pants are huge around the waist but 3 month pants high-water big time. So basically he is already hard to shop for.

One other thing I worry about is he wants to sleep in my arms both during the day and night. It is getting worse and worse. I can't let him cry though, literally! It breaks my heart so I grab him up right away. I guess I'm probably making it harder on myself, but how do you let a baby cry without feeling horrible? It kills me! But it's hard for me to sleep at night with him on top of me nursing... either that or just using me as a pacifier. Half the time he isn't even suckling, he is sleeping but when I put him in his bed he will lay there, asleep for 1-10 mins then wakes up crying. I stick him on the boob and instantly he stops crying, and falls back asleep. Repeat putting in bed, 1-10 mins later he cries, repeat, boob, bed, over and over until I eventually get so tired I fall asleep with him on me, in bed. Same with his day time naps. He wants to sleep in my arms or on me with my boob in his mouth. People tell me this is normal and he will grow out of it, but when? I don't want him to be doing this when he is a year or two old!

I have been down in the dumps lately. I think it has a lot to do with stress and hormones. There's just a lot going on right now and I'm trying my best not to let it upset me. Or feel guilty..

I'm just so glad I have Toren!! He is my love. Here is a picture of him quack'n up (actually it's only a smile. He's not to the laughing age yet but I can't wait for it) He does occasionally giggle a little in his sleep.



Here is his signature serious face, lol.



and a smiley one to show he really is a happy baby, haha. He just likes to act tough like daddy

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March 5th, 2014, 01:15 PM
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He is such a cutie. With Marsi, I never had any of those issues. My SIL has. I am big on the "no using mom as a paci" rule. Yes, it caused me to be an exclusive pumper after I went back to work because she preferred a paci and bottle instead of mom, but it worked for us. Babies like to suck. Dorian will be introduced to a pacifier pretty soon after birth regardless of the BFing recommendations to not have a paci. Now we are working on the no more paci portion of her life. I don't mind it. She has bitten most of hers and I am not buying her any more. It will be a rough week or so, but we will survive.
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March 5th, 2014, 01:21 PM
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Hey Amy, have you had him checked for tongue tie or anything like that? Does he do a lot of swallowing while he nurses, or does he just do little feathery sucks that are just off and on, like just for comfort? Or does he seem to be actively wanting to suck more often than not, like trying for eating purposes (if that makes any sense)? Just wondering if he is having a hard time getting the milk to come out. Do you get letdown just fine and all that?

PS...his pictures are adorable. I love the serious face and the smiles.

Oh, and did you try a paci already? If so, did he want it?
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March 5th, 2014, 03:00 PM
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Most of the time it's little light suckles, not so much him trying to eat. He usually starts off with purpose, then slowly he falls asleep. I try my best to encourage him to stay awake and finish eating, but the sleepiness almost always wins. Until I try to put him down anywhere...

I get a letdown like every 10-15 mins. I usually get 4 or 5 letdowns in a nursing session because he always nurses at least an hour. 30+ mins on each side. A lot of it is comfort nursing, I think. His tongue is good, but his top lip has a thin little tie. Pedi said it would go away on its own when his teeth come in.
He gags on paci's One time he kept gagging and gagging but I immediately took it out of his mouth as soon as he made the gag-face. It was like he chocked on it and couldn't catch his breath for long enough to make me totally freak out! I was trying to get him to calm down and breath... I felt bad and haven't tried again since then.

Rachel, I wish I would have given him a paci to try sooner. I think it would have really helped.
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March 5th, 2014, 04:46 PM
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Bummer about him gagging on the paci. I hope that he figures out how to self soothe a bit without needing a boob.
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March 5th, 2014, 09:03 PM
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Ame, I love his little faces! Thanks for the pics -- he is,tooooooo cute!
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March 6th, 2014, 04:28 AM
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Oh his smile is so great! Thanks for sharing the pix. And yes it's totally normal for him to want that comfort, and yes he'll outgrow it, hang in there sweetie.
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March 6th, 2014, 07:23 AM
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Amy, that sucks about the paci thing. Kody would always try to gag them out, too, but more like he didn't want it in his mouth, not because it was so much actually gagging him. He just gagged as a way to get rid of it. He NEVER took a paci, and does NOT want a bottle. Some babies are just very particular. What about getting in touch with La Leche League or a lactation consultant? Maybe they could just watch him nurse and make sure there's nothing amiss. Or give you some pointers on how to help him nurse more effectively...something, anything? Just having some support during a difficult time might help you feel like you're getting somewhere, even if nothing changes. It's got to be so hard to not be able to put him down.
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March 6th, 2014, 09:19 AM
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Amy, his little serious face and smile totally made my day! What a cutie pie Have you tried a different type of paci with him? What size did you use? They have really small ones for newborns, there are also all kinds of different shapes to try. I imagine that that is very tough on you and causes you to be very tired, probably a small part of your "down in the dumps" feeling. Also, PPD is a very real thing, have you spoken with your doc about all of it? Anyways, I am so happy for you, he is such a cutie and looks like such a happy guy!
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March 6th, 2014, 10:19 AM
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Thanks ladies, I think he's the best
Him wanting to be in my arms almost 24/7 is okay at home, but it makes it hard to go anywhere. At home I have pretty much figured out what I can do and for how long before he starts getting fussy. I have two different baby carriers that I wear him in. I can do that for about 15 mins. Or I have the bouncy seat that vibrates and has little lights that flash and plays music. He will hang out in that for 15 mins. His floor playmat, same thing, 15 mins. His swing is the best now, I can get 30 mins of baby free time before he gets fussy (or sometimes he falls asleep in it but when I move him to his bed he almost always wakes up, boo!). Another thing I do is put him sitting in the boppy on my bed with me and he enjoys it for about 15 mins, lol He loves being outside but the weather is sucky almost everyday so we don't get out much.

Going out places is hard. He is usually good during a car ride, but once I get to where I'm going, like the store or dr office I have about 15 mins before he starts his baby sirens. He loves his mommy!

The pacis that I tried said 0-3 months on them. One was those green soothie ones that you see everywhere. The other I can't remember the brand but the nipple is slightly skinnier but the same length and shape as the other paci (basically the shape of your pinky fingertip). He didn't like either one. He will take the tommy tippee bottles fine though. I occasionally pump to see how my supply is then give it to him in a bottle. I still only get 2-3 oz total in a 15-20 minute pumping session. I have a medela double pump. The kind everyone says is so great. I read online that 2-3 oz is about normal if your a smaller chested woman, which I am. The pedi said about 4 oz at this age is good and he gets the milk more effectively than a pump so he is getting a good amount. I wish I would get more than 2-3 ounces when I pumped. Anyways... sorry I'm going on and on...
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March 6th, 2014, 10:56 AM
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Marsi loves the gumdrop pacifiers. They are the kind you are talking about. Just to make it easier for her, I am hoping Dorian will take to a MAM paci. I know that none of my siblings or I took to one at all.
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March 6th, 2014, 04:05 PM
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Maybe try a paci that is a different shape? Maybe the length is too long. I know it seemed like those green ones you get at the hospital were kind of long when Kody was small. The 15 minute time frame sounds like Kody was for a long time. It took getting him on homeopathics before he really was good on his own for longer stretches. I think something was bothering him, maybe reflux, maybe not, but the homeopathics sure helped. Maybe try chamomile tea? I brew it full strength, then dilute it with an equal amount of water and give Kody 2 teaspoons a day. So he's getting 1 teaspoon, if it were full strength, every day. I also give a couple of homeopathic remedies...but not every baby needs the same thing. Maybe the chamomile might help though, it's pretty darned safe to try. Ethan's pediatrician recommended it when he was 4 months old, to give 2 oz in a bottle at bedtime. So just doing a teaspoon is a pretty small amount. Also, if he does fall asleep in the swing, don't worry about needing to move him to the bed. If he likes sleeping in there, you can put the swing in your bedroom. On the reflux board I am a part of on another website, there were babies there that slept in their swing every night until they grew out of it. You just have to do tummy time during the day to help prevent flat spots on their head.
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March 7th, 2014, 05:42 PM
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Michael and I are doing great! I'm starting to feel less sore. He's such a sweet baby and hardly cries so far. He is eating well. He has one stretch of time a day that he will go longer between feedings, but will eat every 1-3 hours other than that. It was nice last night. His longer stretch was early morning time so mom actually got a good nap in! lol It's been fun watching him. He makes the cutest faces! I don't have any of my pics on this computer yet so I don't have any to show off right now. Amy, I don't have any real advice, but i'm sorry you're having such a hard time getting him to sleep by himself. It won't be very long though and he'll grow out of it. hang in there!
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March 8th, 2014, 04:13 AM
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Can't wait to see pics of little Michael. Glad you got a nap in, very important.
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