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... I'm still scared that i'm going to lose this baby.........
*sigh* I would have thought that by now I would know that everything was going to be okay. I've had a normal, uncomplicated pregnancy - everything has been straightforward, minus one case of high blood pressure (which had gone down by the next day)........
I'm still a bundle of nerves though. If I go an hour without any movement, I freak out... if my tummy is sore, I freak out............
is it normal to *STILL* feel this way, when I'm so close to being due????
EMMA!!!! I have not seen you in the Oct room... I'm the same way hun. In fact, I think I've gotten just as bad as I was in the begining. I think it is because we are so close, and it's almost over, all the fear and everything. SO close. I'm here being freaked out with you, okay? Brittanie has a good point, you should talk to your doctor if there are things bothering you.
HUGS, we will get there hun... not much longer now.
Okay, just to make myself feel better I have to apologize for making you ladies paranoid. If you never heard about situations like mine (we lost Cora 12 days before she was due) you wouldn't be paranoid!
But yes, if you really feel something is wrong, have your dr do some extra monitoring. Your peace of mind can only help at this point.
You are not making us paranoid sweetie - in this group of ladies, it's not "hearing the stories", we ARE the stories. Don't feel bad, if we'd never heard your story, we'd still be freaked, and we wouldn't know you, and that would suck!
Okay - I have to go to my DDC chat now, emma, if you get this, get your bum in there girl!!
Brittanie, you didn't make me paranoid, so don't fret over it!!!!! ((hugs)). I think having experienced a loss at any stage during pregnancy... whether early on, or later.... it makes you aware that it can happen at any stage.....
deep down I know everything is okay... but I guess it's the fact my 'innocence' with regards to pregnancy, has been lost... and i know that sad things do happen........
koakoba - i'm glad to know i'm not the only one fretting it out..... well not that i'm glad any of us have to know what it feels like, but ykwim!
to both of you! Ya know it's bitter sweet. Without our past - we'd be a little more carefree, yes, but I've met so many wonderful - STRONG women being a part of the loss group. It makes every little thing different. EVERY little thing. To this day, I stop dead in my tracks when she moves, and smile. I am still nervous about having bought things, and I still cry every time I hear her little heart beat (get to do that again in about an hour!!).
Whatever your story is - it touches you for the rest of your life. You will always be affected by your angel baby/ies. It's heartbreaking and wonderful at the same time. I always have that little soul with me.
And when we have our babies that get to stay here with us - only another loss mom can understand how MUCH that means. I cannot wait for that day. I hope it's coming up.
My mother lost her first at 21 weeks. When I was first pregnant I was telling her how worried I was that something would go wrong ((I think I always knew...)) and I just wanted her born. She said that you start worrying when they're concieved and it never stops. Even now that 5 of the 7 are grown up and moved out (and the other two will graduate from high school this year [Zac is only a junior this year, but he's graduating a year early.]), she still worries about what will happen to us.
I guess my point is that you just have to have faith that everything will be okay.
Emma, if this ISN'T normal for womens in our situation, I don't know what is. I would go weeks at a time feeling great and then spend weeks fretting - in fact I just got past one of those periods. Now that next friday looms closer, I am still on edge.
It's gonna be ok.... once you've got that baby in your arms you will know that all the stressing, all the worry, all of that is over