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Hi, my name is Laura. I usually post in the Sept. DDC and somebody mentioned this forum so I thought I would start participating here also. I am due 9/21/07. This is my 2nd pregnancy. The I lost the first at 16 weeks. THe baby did not develop any kidneys. I found out when I went to have an ultrasound and the dr. did not see enough amniotic fluid. She called it Potter's Syndrome and said that it is genetic and just a fluke. We were told this does not happen very often. After seeing 2 other neonatal specialists that day the concensus was that it would be impossible for the baby to survive outside of the womb and there was no point to carry the pregnancy to term. I had a D&E the next day. That was two years ago and I thought that I would be O.K. when I got pregnant again, but it still has been difficult. I still worry a lot that the same thing will happen again. I know it does not help to worry, but I think it is only natural. I think I will feel much better after my 16th week and I know everything is O.K. Sometimes I find myself not wanting to get to excited about this pregnany (even though I really want to be) because I don't want to be to disappointed. I don't know if that sounds weird or not. I guess that is why I was interested in posting on this board.
Sorry for such a long post. I guess I had a lot to get out.
welcome to the PAL board Laura, and congratulations on your pregnancy!!!!!
It is normal to feel scared when you are pregnant again after a loss... I know that my pregnancy with Gaby, I was never really able to totally relax, I was always afraid of something happening. But now I have my beautiful baby girl here with me, and i couldn't be happier!
My name is emma, i'm 23 & from Christchurch in NZ, as I said, I have one daughter - Gaby, who is 3 1/2mo. i have had two losses, one in 2001 & one in 2005
Welcome!! I am in your DDC too. I think what you feel is totally normal. I felt the same way tell I had my first u/s. I still don't feel completely okay but I am letting myself enjoy it a little more. We are all here to help and support each other. Lots of hugs and congrats on your pregnancy!
Wife to Brian since October 2004, Mama too:
Jakob (May 12th 2004- Feb. 24th 2009 Had Joubert Syndrome RIP)
2 Baby beans lost
Ava Sept 14th 2007, Beaux Oct 3rd 2012
* Tubal reversal December 17th 2010
Congrats and welcome! I think you'll love this board. It's helped us all keep each other sane. We all have worries and milestones that are scary. Just take each day (or minute) as it comes. It does eventually get easier. I've seen a couple of other losses on JM from Potter's syndrome, but don't believe they've ttc (or at least aren't pg) yet.
Do not sorrow; the joy of the Lord is your strength." Neh. 8:10
Welcome and congratulations!! I totally know what you mean about not getting excited, and have a post about bonding with the baby somewhere previously.
I lost my Cora at 38w1d due to a cord accident (the cord was wrapped around her neck twice). There is a slightly less than 1% chance of it happening, ever. And this pregnancy has the same chances of it happening in the first place. Which is no comfort.
With a loss as your first experience, OF COURSE you're going to worry about it happening again. You have no other experience to balance against it.
I hope that your baby is healthy, and at 16w your u/s tech will tell you (like mine did) that your baby is absolutely perfect.
Welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. I am like a nervous wreck right now. I have lost 3 babies, Jordyn was stillborn at 38w2d, Riley miscarried at 12 weeks due to Turner's syndrome and my last was a blighted ovum. I got pregnant 3 weeks after my D&C and here I am freaking out. This is a great board to be on. We can all go nuts together lol.