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Little intro - I'm Holly, 27 year old SAHM to Lucy who's 3 and wife to Ewan for 4 years. We live in Oxfordshire in the Uk. I miscarried in the middle of December a 6 weeks after 4 weeks of light bleeding. AF came back mid Jan so we started trying right away and we've been lucky enough to fall pregnant right away. I thought I'd be ok with this but I SO am not, lol. No bleeding as yet and have tender breasts. Everytime I got to the toilet I'm looking for blood, ugh - I'm SO worried and of course can't get an appointment til I'm at least 6 weeks.
Anyone got any suggestions on how to keep sane?! I guess I just need to remember that regular pregnancies happen all the time.
Congrats on your BFP!! I know you from the Oct DDC. What I do is try and take it one day at a time.I have also been known to call the Dr a 101 times when I think anything is wrong. Luckily they haven't yelled at me yet .
Congrats and welcome! I understand exactly what you are feeling. I worry about every little thing. I just posted somewhere that I am going to have to just let it go and learn to enjoy this pregnancy. It is harder said then done though. I worry if my boobs don't hurt as bad one day or I don't feel as nauseous one day. All kind of little things. I really don't have an easy answer, but you are definelty not alone in feeling the way you do. Joining JM and communicating with other women who understand what I am feeling has really helped.
You've come to the right place! My best advice is to take each day, or hour for that matter, at a time. Try to enjoy every minute and remember to celebrate this baby. It's only been in the last week that I stoped looking at the TP after every bathroom visit. It's completely normal to feel like that.
Congrats and welcome! You're right where we all started. The first trimester is the hardest. I was well into the second trimester when I realized I wasn't checking the TP every time (just every 2-3 times ). I still check occasionally and I'm only 6-8 weeks from delivery. Glad you're here!
Do not sorrow; the joy of the Lord is your strength." Neh. 8:10
Congrats and welcome to our group!! I am so sorry for you loss. Its very normal to feel that way. I still worry but as each week goes by it gets a little better.
Wife to Brian since October 2004, Mama too:
Jakob (May 12th 2004- Feb. 24th 2009 Had Joubert Syndrome RIP)
2 Baby beans lost
Ava Sept 14th 2007, Beaux Oct 3rd 2012
* Tubal reversal December 17th 2010
LOL now that that is out of the way, CONGRATULATIONS on your pregnancy. I understand how hard a pregnancy after loss can be - I had a m/c in Nov 05, and got pregnant again in Jan '06 - my DD is now 16 weeks old. My pregnancy with Gaby was quite emotionally hard, especially the first trimester, but I foudn it was a little easier if I didn't think of the ENTIRE 40 weeks of pregnancy, I would just 'aim' to get to certain milestones.
my milestones were making it to:
5w4d (when I had my miscarriage)
10w (when I experienced my first loss in 2001)
12w & first scan
20w & second scan (finding out the sex)
23w (viability outside the womb)
27w (3rd tri)
38w (considered full term)
............ and then everyday past 40w... all 14 of them, before Gaby decided to arrive!
Thanks Vickey Yeah - I've already stuck 6 weeks on the calender It's the whole bleeding paranoia that gets me, drives me round the twist, that and the over-analysing every little tweak and pain. Lol - will I be a nervous wreck at 8 months?! Lol
i think for some it gets easyer for some they can't help but worry...i am a worry wart but these ladies are great to help calm the nerves and everyone understands what you are feeling. So feel free to vent on bad days and rejoyce on good days!
Hehe, thank you!! I'm SO glad I found you all, it really does help knowing you are all here Just aiming for 6 weeks now I guess and today I'm pretty good - everytime I got to pee it's like 'Yeay! No blood!!" hehe. I start my phone calls to Mum and Hubby at work with 'I'm still pregnant' hehe - gotta love it!