[Sabina]

Sorry I just need to vent with ppl that will understand. I was sick last week so when I was getting better I put on my facebook status "Sabina is recovering" and I got at least ten emails asking if me and the baby where okay. I felt bad so I changed my status to "Sabina and the baby are doing fine. Thanks for your concern" so I got ten more emails asking what was going on. So this week I put "Sabina can't wait to get her baby boy home" referring to Bandit (my foster dog) who is flying back home on Thursday and I got ten more emails asking if I had the baby. I just can't win!! While I REALLY appreciate the concern it makes me more freaked out that things will go wrong when everyone is SO worried. It is just so hard to relax when the whole world seems to be in pins and neeedles waiting to see if this baby will be okay. It is kind of upsetting since I really think that I have been doing quite well dealing with things during this pg. I am getting into the nursery and the baby showers and relaxing but nobody else seems to be relaxing so am I seeing some false sense of hope? Should I be worrying more? Why am I the calm one? I am just so confused. I feel like I SHOULD be freaking out more. While I do worry and I am scared sometimes it seems like everyone else is WAY more freaked out then me. I need some help. Has anyone else had this or is going through this? I am just having trouble dealing with this.

[tiffani76541]

Well, the main thing you have to remember here in this situation, is that these people love and care about you, BUT, they have (most likely) NOT been in your position. They don't understand how hard it is to keep going one day at a time. All around, they just don't get it!Which is okay, but maybe if you're not feeling well, you should keep it under wraps. I would've been upset too if I kept getting e-mails like that. And you are not seeing a "false sense of hope"!!!You are 5 days away from viability! (If you wanna look at it that way)This pregnancy is going to seem like it's going to fly by from now on, with everything you'll be doing!Don't feel like you should be freaking out!Enjoy being pregnant, because once you have him,OMG, you are so going to miss it. I still wish I had taken more pictures, and enjoyed it more. I ruined the first half of my pregnancy because I was so worried and down on myself, figuring everything was going to wrong anyways. My point is, that sure, you appreciate the concern, but they can't understand what you're going through unless they have truly been there, so I don't think they know how to handle it correctly. I would just keep it under wraps from now on. It will cause you less stress!

[Gaby&Emmy'sMama]

I understand hun, whenever i mentioned to someone that I was feeling sick or whatever, I'd always be asked (straight away) "is the baby okay?"..

it makes it hard to be calm about a pregnancy, when everyone else seems to be so anxious about it

[Sabina]

Thanks ladies. I guess it's something you just have to live with. I am not angry with anyone, I know they just care. It's just hard to deal with your own insecurities and everyone elses around you.

[LisaB]

Well, I think I know how you feel. For me, I have people sending me emails or calling constantly - which I appreciate, don't get me wrong! - and I guess the worst offender is the person who loves me more than almost anyone, my mom. She calls ALL the time to see how I'm doing, even when I'm trying to take a nap. So I know how all the extra attention can be unnerving!

But that's the price we pay for being so loveable

[Brittanie]

Yes, I know exactly how you feel. Towards the end of my pregnancy I felt like all my family and friends were collectively holding their breath. They were always asking if the baby was okay if I even sneezed. It really unnerved me. I stopped talking to them. I couldn't even talk to my mother who HAS been through losses and understands on that front. But she's a worry wart and always freaks out over the smallest thing. I never told her that Erin was having a quiet day and I was worried. It made me feel very alone.


And another thing to think about: these people emailing you only have to worry about it when you mention you aren't feeling well or whatever. You, however, have every moment of every day to worry. So I'm sure that you are more worried than them.

But you know what? YOU are the mother. If you don't feel that worried, then take it as a good sign!

[lovemyluck]

I know how annoying it can be. I have people constantly asking me with this pregnancy, and everything is ok??? Sometimes I just want to say No to see the response. I never will though...but I like to think i would tell you if it wasnt right...oh well, i guess it is nice to know that we have people out there that worry about us!! i think it is great though that you are getting into everything...in my mind that is a good thing. i think we have a 6th sense that makes us aware if we need to worry or not...or i know i did with my pregnancy with Carli, whereas with Mackenzie, I havent had that at all!!!

[SheilaRN]

I appreciate all the love and kindness but sometimes I think "Enough". I get most of it from close friends and family and I know they mean well but it does get to be a bit much.

Yes, the baby is fine. Yes, I'm feeling ok. No, there's nothing wrong. Sometimes I just want to tell them everything is the same and we will notify you if it changes.
They all love me and don't want to see us go thru another loss like last time but all the endless questions seem to add a bit of stress.

[luvmygirls]

I'm sorry everyone is stressing you out!

I just found out today that I'm pg again (had a m/c in Oct), and I'm wondering if everyone will be worried about this baby. I feel great about this pg tho, so I'm hoping that will rub off on everyone else.